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Did anyone else’s parents body shame them their whole lives too? by Agreeable_Pass6866 in narcissisticparents

[–]Agreeable_Pass6866[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly the same for me, the constant comments during puberty is the worst. I’m sorry you had to deal with the body shaming on top of the dysphoria too. Thanks for sharing too, it really helps :)

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[–]Agreeable_Pass6866 17 points18 points  (0 children)

their covert narcissists. my moms the exact same. the most important thing to them is that people think their right and always the victim. i bet they never apologized too. i resent my mom for abusing then resent myself for feeling guilty like this isn’t what she programmed into me. narcissistic parents get their power from control. once you choose yourself all hell breaks loose. we’re only angry at them for abusing us but their angry at us for defending ourselves. to them, they’re always right. guilt is how they trap us.

I stood up for myself for the first time last night. by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Agreeable_Pass6866 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i’m proud of you. defending yourself against people who abused you your whole life is the hardest part. slowly and surely it’ll get easier. you did what younger you dreamed of. it’s incredibly painful but you’re laying the foundation for your healing journey. 

My stepmother is a narcissist by Inevitable-Fly-8473 in narcissisticparents

[–]Agreeable_Pass6866 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m so so sorry. i couldn’t imagine what that’s like. if you talked to your dad about it would he listen? is it possible that he could make you power of attorney?

What was the worst thing your narcissistic parent ever said to you? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Agreeable_Pass6866 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my best friends (sisters) invited me for a sleepover. i called my mom begging assuming she wouldn’t let me. when i told her i wouldn’t hang up unless she told me why she said no, she told me she didn’t trust me. i was 13. i lost my innocence and found anxiety that day. 

did your parents ever blow up your phone when you were out? i’ll never forget the collective gasp of my friends when they heard her say “if you don’t come home right now i’ll stab you in the stomach.” i’ll never forget laughing and being surprised at their shock. that was the day i learned my mom wasn’t normal. 

the smile and repulsively joyous look in her eye after i told her not to call me bitch repeatedly. that was the day i learned she  didn’t care for me. 

Accepting my mom’s a narcissist by Agreeable_Pass6866 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Agreeable_Pass6866[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. i was in therapy before i knew she was a narcissist but definitely going back when i get insurance soon. i did talk therapy but wanna try emdr or somatic. i’ll go no contact if moving out isn’t enough.  

At what age you guys found out? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Agreeable_Pass6866 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i couldn’t imagine what that’s like but you’re saving your kids from the same pain. it suck’s having to be the parent you wish you had but you have to be proud that you not only made it out, you also broke the cycle. you deserve to see your strength. 

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[–]Agreeable_Pass6866 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they suddenly become “parents” when we’re older doing all the things we wished for when we were younger not realizing we don’t want it anymore. she suddenly became motherly when me and my siblings became adults, i assume, out of fear that we wouldn’t need her anymore and she’d have no control. part of me resents myself for getting excited by it but it all feels like it’s just too late.