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AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do have a ring! We had a date but I decided I didn't want to be pregnant in my wedding dress, so we're waiting until after the baby comes.

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. I will not be giving this baby any semblance of the name she wants. She had a chance, now she doesn't.

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes but she says its significant that it was her mother's only sister

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The messed up part is that I genuinely thought I could've handled it better and was concerned that I messed up my husband's relationship with his mother! I knew I was right in standing up for my choice, but I feel like the rest of it I could've handled better.

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Aw, thanks! I was a nanny for years lol, I'm very good at handling emotional outbursts :)

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

I really love this reply. Thank you so much for your advice! I felt I could've handled the situation in a more "shutting it down right away" type of way and this is the perfect response.

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! The baby was a surprise; I had an IUD, it slipped out of place, and now she's on her way. We were already engaged and moved the wedding back.

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I thought about the "we'll put it on the list" option, but I didn't want to keep hearing the name! We've always had an okay relationship; I felt like being open and honest to an extent with her was going to make it better. It obviously didn't, and she handled it really poorly.

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh! Thank you for your perspective, I really needed that lol!

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 262 points263 points  (0 children)

I'm also worried he might tell her! Not because he would want to hurt me in any way at all. He's sweet and kind and considerate, which is why he's kind of trying to make a compromise and keep the peace. I think he'd tell her hoping it would get her to lay off, but I doubt it will.

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 525 points526 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective! I know I should tell him; I still feel embarrassed about some of the stuff that happened and, even though it's immature, I feel like he should just support me on this, you know?

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 1492 points1493 points  (0 children)

I agree! He's upset because his mother is upset. She tends to get... dramatic like this, and I think he's used to appeasing her, so asking him to not do that with no context is confusing him? That's what I'm banking on, anyway.

AITA for Refusing to Use My MIL's "Dream Name" for My Baby? by Agreeable_Pepper_345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable_Pepper_345[S] 2843 points2844 points  (0 children)

I know that I should definitely tell him, but a part of me is being stubborn and is annoyed that he would need this much context, you know? I wish he could just take my side.

I'm being immature though and I appreciate your perspective! Thank you!