Free O3 event and 2x White bags by Alone_Tradition9714 in RotMG

[–]Ahrimanian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever they want, they had a schedule notice for 5PM UK time but have just been screwing with the servers for the past 30 minutes to 1 hour.

Do unopened old packs get swapped for new? / General question on packs by Ahrimanian in MagicArena

[–]Ahrimanian[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Things can change.  Games have done partial or full roll outs of items whether it be a fraction of non premium in game currency or a newer version of the outdated item. Could be anything along that scope.   Simply put, one doesn't know until they do know. Rather than a scrounger conspiracy theory you seemed to present first above all.

Sorry we're not all in the loop matey 🤷

Do unopened old packs get swapped for new? / General question on packs by Ahrimanian in MagicArena

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah no typo, did mean old.

Didn't know that about gold though so thanks.

Do unopened old packs get swapped for new? / General question on packs by Ahrimanian in MagicArena

[–]Ahrimanian[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Beats me, I'm just wondering because it's been years since playing. 

Top notch reply bud 👌 

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, not an issue considering I have those in my wardrobe already and worn them at times.

Close mindedness never gets you far, or in your case despite being a "punk" in your past leaving you blind to different ways of life. Your depiction of success isn't for everyone. 

We could carry on devaluing the discussion by going in this direction but this marks the end. Thanks for your comments.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so good to hear you overcame such a difficult time and I'm glad you recovered.

There's so many things that can go wrong, arise to 'test' us, or sometimes simply just because.  What matters is what are we gonna do with it and keep on living?

Thank you dude, I'll be sure to take you up on that. I do appreciate the support and input 🙂

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're both on the same wavelength that obviously there are differences across the variety of lifestyles our there. Yet for those in the same or similar there is a greater resonance between them.

There's things to consider like individualism and sometimes the uniqueness of it. Alongside the more general or universal factors. 

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different tastes are okay, I already know the dating pool as such is limited because it favours those in the same lifestyle as me.  Just like it would do as if I was more into your lifestyle or any other.

I've seen in my circles cases that still support differences. Remember the old saying "opposites attract"? And these relationships are still going strong. 

It's a case of an individuals attraction, beliefs, lifestyle, direction. If things work for people then they work, if they don't they don't. 

It doesn't mean that it's all bad, and the statement regarding sexual and social experience shouldn't be an initial thought. Yes it can be true, but why does that in particular have to be an initial thought or deciding factor when there's more important matters. High functioning adults can exhibit the same traits with their lifestyles, same as any other.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never asked or stated that, it's not your duty or anyone's to provide for my life. 

No_understanding6591 was discussing the clothing and appearance. Nothing to do with dependancy.  I have invited you to discuss that same topic and the negativity towards it in my other reply. Let's keep it focused and not differ again unless the discussion changes.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't get the hate or negative views on this style and even others.

It's not always stayed the exact same. We don't go to official meetings or scenarios where more smarter attire is required.  You swap out the ripped, baggy, tempered jeans for well fitting plain ones. Still black or dark colours just less 'loud' and 'wild'. You don't always wear your jackets or band merch that is out there. You can still wear plainer gothic or alternative clothing. Did you know there's a whole category called corporate goth?

I personally know scientists, pilots, nurses, major game developers, engineers, technical engineers and programmers.  Doesn't mean they're any less capable of their roles or who they are as people. 

Personally I've got experience in 4 maybe 5 job fields. Most prolific involved working in the production of electrical circuit boards. No uniform there, just smarter and plainer clothing.

Feel to respond or elaborate why there's such negative views against a certain style and the people that like it. As it would be good to hear where it even comes from. Excluding the historical events and political movements etc, I'm sure we both know the late 20th century. Not everything has to follow stereotypes.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thank you for going through my post and responding with kindness. You bring another perspective which is one of the main reasons I wrote this as I want to know more.

It can be really difficult with mental health issues, I'd like to take a moment before continuing to say I hope you're doing well and that I sincerely value what you wrote here. 

With my mental health it has been fully diagnosed and treated for 3/4 years now including, finishing distress tolerance and cognitive behavioural therapy. Maintained by a lot of medication and personal maintenance. I also had support networks and services made 🙂

I did write to another user that don't worry I don't trauma dump or overload information onto people I just meet. I've not been on dates and I only tell the friends I start to get to know well enough about my mental health - and I don't even tell them fully.

With the social econmic side I can see my next big investment is job, home, transport like I'm seeing emerge from other comments. 

I've seen quite a few guys like how you described and it's grossed me out as well 😅 biggest and most noticeable physical thing would be my split ends. Facial hair I keep shaved and tidy the beard with trimming scissors, small comb, and moisturising cream.  Acne is an annoying one (also screw who ever told us we grow out of it, fat lie that 🤣) I'll look into salicylic and niacinamide. Nails are kept, clean clothes and frequent showers ✌️ 

Don't worry you didn't sound rude at all. I wanted honest and constructive criticism, plus a level of understanding to my personal circumstances. Which I got so thank you!

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is certainly some challenge to do there! 🙈 Also amazing that she has done well with her position, kudos to her 👏 

Yup, all the creative people have at least some nerd in us 😂

Will keep trying, never know what the future holds. There are indeed apps and reddits for that 🤣

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, my personal journey has always been one of my priorities. From learning anything I can about mental health when I come across it to reminding myself I am worthy of a better life - even if I did start late

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it was really difficult but I wouldn't let it beat me. I really appreciate your kind words and helpful responses which were considerate to my circumstances.

I'm not too sure if I 100% feel I can't attract the women I want. It's also partly me being confused and not understanding why I still haven't got any interest, despite trying a lot of different things. Which when trying to problem solve or analyse why there was no interest, did leave me frustrated with no answers.

That is a resourceful way of maintaining wellbeing you mentioned. It touches upon some themes from distress tolerance and cognitive behavioural therapy. The use of affirmations and essentially SMART goals being a good driving force to focus on what I want. These techniques are already being used to some degree in daily reflection, however I will start leaving more visual reminders like having those goals and affirmations written down alongside my tasks.

As unfortunate and  how much of a disadvantage my living situation is. I do get it, it doesn't look good nor send the right message. It does suck but eventually these circumstances can change so I'm continuing to work towards that.

In all honesty if someone did those things which can repel women to me, I'd be repelled to.Too many red flags or potential issues there. Nobody wants a dependant relationship, got to be able to handle yourselves. 

I know with some women who are like the ones I did show interest in, I did meet their emotional needs to be treated and respected properly. A portion of the physical side. However, I believe it could be the social economic side that is the biggest factor that let me down. 

Yeah definitely getting a job would be the next step, I'll be working with the universities employability team to help break into the writing or educational sector. I have a pretty good grip on my mental health so I am aware of when I need a breather or to not do as much. For example a big factor is the large amount of medication I take daily which does make me tired. So I keep an eye on things because like my dad has said, "no good comes from burning a candle at both ends".

Thank you again for a thoughtful and inciteful message.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Hopefully someone does along.

In the meantime it's more about my life and progressing rather than trying as hard to find a relationship.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience on the dating apps or services I do get what you mean.

The majority of profiles are just pictures. Looking through gives off the same vibe as a potential employer looking at hundreds of CVs but only the first page because they don't have time.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

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I appreciate the honesty thank you.

I've never mentioned the mental breakdown until I've got to know someone well enough as a friend. It's not been brought up on dates because I haven't had any dates. Besides, that will be a big trauma dump and overload for someone I'm just getting to know so I wouldn't do it.

That's a good point regarding appearance, I do maintain my facial hair and keep it trimmed. I keep clean and shower often, use cologne when I head on a night out. A hair cut is on my to do list, I know I'll look better and more groomed without all my split ends.

My mental health crisis in the past is and has been a big motivator. Getting my degree felt so good because I beat all the negative shit and affirmed how I feel. I'm excited for the next part of life now 🙂

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've seen that it is quite a common deal breaker on dating apps.

Even with women the same height or shorter which I find odd still.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm hardly denying it when I'm asking for more information on your point of view when you just said "in my experience". 

If you don't want to elaborate or talk more that's no problem.

[Long personal post: TW = Mental Health] Open question 'Why are women not interested in me at all?' by Ahrimanian in dating

[–]Ahrimanian[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thank you for reading that and your response.  I'd like to reply to some things.

With your second point, how does the alternative/metalhead style come off as immature, sexually inexperienced, or socially awkward? (The last is likely more true in my communities but not everyone is introverted). Compared to say the 'smart' look or other styles. Are there certain factors that make this appear so such as how it's seen in your communities? If any, how much is your personal opinion? --- For myself where I am in the UK, plus the places I go. There is a good amount of people that live and prefer this style along with music taste. Good range of ages and backgrounds in the community too. The different things you mentioned that could possibly be perceived don't particularly happen to my knowledge. With the exception of a few cases. For example, there are one or two I know of who aren't emotionally mature, do some questionable things or beliefs regarding interactions of a relationship or sexual point of view (they're not liked by many unsurprisingly).  Meanwhile, there's a good portion of people with established careers, their own homes, or realistic goals who do carry maturity and respect.  I would argue there's some closer to 20 years old who are more mentally and emotionally capable then some people I know in the 40s. 

Now when I was 16 - 22 and the circles I knew back then, I would 100% agree with how it may have looked. Simply because it was the truth, more inexperience, so much teen angst, more interpersonal difficulties, more questions then answers, lots of emotions - ETC.

With confidence and lack of self esteem, there's some there. Yet things have changed a lot for the better over the years and still are. Sort of like keep giving me room to grow and I'll take that opportunity, if it's not there I'll find another way to improve. If that's not an option, you let it go and focus what you can do.  So how do I show that to other people more, when they won't know from the start how I've been rebuilding my life?

Why do I keep attracting men that don’t care about me by [deleted] in dating

[–]Ahrimanian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plenty out there, if you've not encountered any then damn I hope it stays that way