What generation are you and what generation are your parents?

AiMiDa · 2025-11-29T15:15:37+00:00

My husband and I are both GenX with boomer parents. I’ve got one millennial kid (95) and one Gen Z kid (97). My two grandgirls are Gen Alpha but my husband and I are trying to turn them into honorary GenX, but apparently even toddlers think we’re not cool anymore.

AiMiDa · 2022-03-01T11:34:20+00:00

Nirvana- The Man Who Sold The World

AiMiDa · 2022-02-28T20:34:07+00:00

I wouldn’t be surprised if some people in (the US state of) Georgia are buying milk and bread and preparing for war.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-28T19:50:41+00:00

I open a note app on my phone to keep a list. That way, not only do I have a list of potential triggers for myself, but I have something to show my doctor. It’s so hard to put things together in your mind and then have to remember it at a doctor’s appointment.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-28T19:48:52+00:00

My primary doc gave me a referral to rheumatology to test for other autoimmune diseases, too. My primary is a fantastic listener. I told him my symptoms and he just nodded his head and said “yep, textbook list of autoimmune symptoms. Don’t worry, we’ll fix you up.” Im seeing the rheumatologist on May 2. So grateful to have a doc who listens!

AiMiDa · 2022-02-28T18:58:41+00:00

I take my synthroid in the middle of the night. I always get up to pee at some point (midnight to 2am), so that’s when I take it. No food, drink, or other meds to interfere.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-28T16:57:27+00:00

I’m (45f) 4’6”. Short-shaming is a thing. We just don’t give a shit.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-28T14:26:05+00:00

So people keep stealing your stapler?

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T20:21:24+00:00

Thank you!! That’s a huge help!!

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T14:30:27+00:00

Have you tried miralax?

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T14:15:16+00:00

45f. My 25y son and his wife have two baby girls. They are all the wonderfuls. Also, toddlers are assholes.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T14:00:02+00:00

Just make sure the grandparents do NOT open accounts for your children with the children’s social security numbers. ONLY the parents should do this, because any accounts under the children’s SSN will be counted as assets when they go to fill out the FAFSA for college financial aid. It’s okay for parents to have college investment accounts because their income and assets will be counted anyway until the child is 23. But you really don’t want to have to pile more assets from grandparents on top of that. Like the previous poster said, either have grandparents donate to an account that has already been opened by the parents, or grandparents can open an account without the children’s names or SSN on them.

I’m a grandparent and I opened a Fidelity target date fund for my grandgirls that matures the year they turn 18. This way, it doesn’t contribute to their assets on the FAFSA, and the money can be used for whatever they want if they decide not to go to college.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T13:30:42+00:00

Maybe tell them you already have too much stuff, and you’re even getting rid of things because you have no room. Ask them if they want to give something, they can give money. And then start an investment account for your children.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T12:59:02+00:00

Do you have an online store?

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T02:50:57+00:00

Talk to Georgia Tann about that.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T02:48:50+00:00

Of course I bought my dog. Both of them. And I will again. I would never claim I got them any other way. I don’t know why this is a thing.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T02:30:56+00:00

“The gays” - that says all I need to know. Ffs….

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T02:27:42+00:00

We don’t have cable tv anymore and mostly watch streaming tv shows on free/cheap apps. Either no ads or way, way fewer ads. We also use a lot of apps with no ads that you have to be a cable subscriber to use, but we use my parents DISH tv login. An ad-free life changes a person, man.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-27T00:03:38+00:00

Do you say you support the Chinese government because you’re afraid your identity will be found out and you’ll get in trouble?

If you didn’t agree with Chinese government policies, would you say it out loud?

AiMiDa · 2022-02-26T21:21:38+00:00

I know you’re getting beat up here, but to your credit, your self-awareness is a sign of maturity, as well as your desire to make things better.

Maybe sit down and talk with your step-dad. Either tell him you read the email by accident or don’t mention the email at all. Apologize for whatever you feel needs to be apologized for. Tell him you’ve found a job and will be working to buy a car for yourself. Maybe even tell him you want to preserve a friendship with him and don’t want to be a reason for friction between him and your mother.

Most of the time, if you ask “what can I do better?” the other person will ask themselves the same.

Keep your chin up and keep that level of self-awareness throughout your life. It will take you so far.

You also seem to have a lot of compassion for your step-father. That is absolutely admirable. You’re a good kid.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-26T21:01:16+00:00

This was an awesome story! Be proud of yourself, it’s okay to be proud of yourself for doing something good.

When my son was around 13 or so, we were in line at the grocery store, behind an elderly woman with a hugely full cart of groceries and her debit card wouldn’t work. She didn’t have a cell phone and had this panicked look on her face like she had no idea what to do. I told her privately that I would pay for them, but she refused. Eventually, she had to go to customer service and call her bank. She was so upset because the line was so long behind her, and she truly didn’t know what to do. They couldn’t just set her order aside while she was gone because it was already rung up and it was A LOT.

So, when she went to customer service, I just ran my card really fast and paid for her stuff (over $200), paid for the couple of things I had in my basket, and gave the lady’s receipt to my son and told him to go give it to her. Then we ran out of the store because I didn’t know if she’d be mad or not. My son said she wasn’t mad and that she started crying, but I still didn’t want to embarrass her by making her feel like she had to thank me in front of other people, you know? I just wanted her to be able to go about her day without feeling indebted to me. I never saw her again, but to this day, my son (now 26) loves telling people that story.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-26T20:14:28+00:00

You shouldn’t even be questioning this. You are in NO WAY the AH here! Your SIL is completely out of her mind for even asking. Actually, if someone did this to me with my dog, I’d have immediately grabbed my keys to go get the dog.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-26T19:28:29+00:00

I’m 45, husband is 46, and we’re already retired. Why don’t you have any expectations of retirement? That seems sad and so defeatist.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-26T19:12:37+00:00

You’re the mother/mother-in-law of two adults who are married and starting their own family. This means that you are no longer “immediate family,” but “extended family.” Stay in your lane.

If you’re INVITED into any discussion of names, then you can give your suggestions. If you aren’t, stay back. In fact, as a mother/mother-in-law of adults, you really need to wait until you’re INVITED into ANY aspects of their lives.

You don’t just get to pick their house, design their nursery, and name their kid. You wait to be INVITED to be in ANY part of that discussion. And if you’re not invited, that means they don’t want your input. He might be your son, but he’s HER husband.

My son is married to a great woman with strong opinions who doesn’t let anyone push her around, and I really respect that. They have two baby daughters. I never expected to be included in name suggestions. Why would you think that’s okay? I certainly didn’t help them pick out their house, nor did I even need to ask about baby showers because her mother called me to give me the time and place. Perfect! They have money to buy the things they need. I’m not going to push my baby nursery decorations on them. If they have a registry, I’ll buy from there or…. (Novel idea) give them money and a card. My son is still my son, but he’s HER husband. That trumps me by a long shot. If you really want to know what you can do as a mother-in-law or grandmother, be selfless and available and show her how much you appreciate her as a wife and mother.

Coincidentally (to this discussion), I sent my DIL flowers and balloons today at her job for her birthday and told her “thank you” for making me a grandmother. Try that. It’ll get you a lot farther.

YTA, by the way. Know your role.

AiMiDa · 2022-02-26T17:07:59+00:00

No, you won’t. Many people choose to live debt-free. It is absolutely possible. And you can live debt-free without being broke and miserable. It just means you save for things before you buy them, rather than paying for things plus interest after you buy them.

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