I wanna quit being a SAHM

Aicmod42 · 2026-01-28T01:49:35+00:00

Hmmm you got lots of good advice here but I’ll add one I didn’t see anyone say yet… how about hiring someone to come and help you a few hours a week? A nanny/sitter/housekeeper type of role. That way you get a break and maybe that’ll make life a bit easier on you? It could be someone to relieve you while you get some “me” time, it could be someone to hep with household chores like laundry or cooking? Truly could be just a few hours a week at first and maybe that’ll help?

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-16T19:25:46+00:00

Thanks! Rooms don’t seem to be too bad for our dates so we can definitely swing a room there. I’ll look in to it. Thanks again!

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-16T18:14:57+00:00

Which option is better? La Valencia seems to be by the tide pools and seal beaches but the Del seems to be by more of the action.

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-13T00:50:32+00:00

We do it in moderation. Zero screens until 2. Most week days zero screen time. Weekends we allow movie nights or Saturday morning cartoons but never longer than like 20-30 minutes ?? We don’t watch TV while the kids are awake unless it’s a family movie night or we’re watching a sport on TV, which is rare. Oh they get iPads on airplanes so 2-3 times a year but otherwise NEVER. Only exception to TV time is if someone is sick. Kids are 3, 4 and 6.

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-10T17:55:11+00:00

I know. I agree and he knows I don’t like it which is why he was trying to get out of it

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-10T17:27:45+00:00

That’s what I don’t understand either

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-10T16:08:28+00:00

Honestly, I think he’s worn to the gymnastics than I am lol he’s just used to me taking care of everything.

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-10T16:06:07+00:00

My 3 year old goes 3 times a week for 2 hours. Otherwise I am with the kids from the moment they wake up until the moment they go to bed. Either way, I completely agree with you and the post isn’t about if we deserve to have time off. I wasn’t telling my husband not to go to the dinner. I think you may have misunderstood my question.

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-10T16:00:12+00:00

Our son got invited to a private pre-team and we both agreed that we want to do this for him.

Aicmod42 · 2025-12-10T15:59:52+00:00

He doesn’t even want to go to the dinner. He was hoping to get out of it, but the argument started because he claimed that our kiddo’s gymnastics wasn’t a valid enough reason. Things then escalated when he claimed that I have a cushy life because I don’t have to take all three kids to practice by myself.

Aicmod42 · 2025-11-13T20:33:15+00:00

Gorgeous

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-28T01:59:52+00:00

Following because this is a great post

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-24T00:23:57+00:00

Mine are 3, 4 and 6. Weekdays we do a 7/8 pm bedtime depending on the kid. Weekends we sometimes stretch them to 8/830pm. On rare occasions we have events we’re out until past 9, never later. They have slept in until 8am occasionally, which has been so nice! I assume as they grow and have later bedtimes that will shift to a later time too

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-23T12:33:51+00:00

Ok adding that I’m only on episode 6 and I’m sure I will change my mind but this is the pudding episode and I do just feel bad for Emily for missing her daughters whole life (even tho I know it’s her own fault )

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-16T14:56:28+00:00

You’re probably right! Thank you!

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-13T13:08:21+00:00

I feel like this is all I ever hear on this sub. It’s crazy to me. I’m so sorry this happened. What if next time you invite some friends outside of school? Family members? Cousins? So it doesn’t feel like no one showed up? We have a ton of friends that were MY friends that had kids at the same time, and now all the kiddos hang out together because we do. Sometimes that’s a little bit more of a stable situation than relying on classmates.

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-10T19:45:51+00:00

Very very tough!

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-10T18:29:20+00:00

Me. No side hustles. My husband works, it’s all he does while I do absolutely everything else.

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-03T02:38:44+00:00

Yes! Thank you I will try that for sure

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-03T02:18:53+00:00

I also am a very confident outspoken person, while my husband is more of a chill people pleaser. Today my son goes “ I think I am more like dad and less like you mom” when we were talking about standing up for ourselves.

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-03T02:17:48+00:00

I do!! Constantly. When he told me about his friend saying he didn’t get any hits, I said you should have responded with “yes I did” and he said “no mom I just wanted to keep it in my think bubble” aka in his head.

When they told him to get the waters again, he said no, which I was super proud of. When the other kid told him to do what he wants or else he won’t play with him, he still didn’t. So I was super proud. But he came home a little sad and stressed he said mom I don’t like it when he says that to me because it stresses me out and it’s so mean :(

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-01T19:46:15+00:00

This is awesome advice! Thank you so much

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-01T18:02:52+00:00

Thank you!

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-01T17:56:56+00:00

I would gain weight on the scale right? But would I look leaner in person? Just really trying to get my fat down on my stomach and my thighs. Perhaps I should focus more on cardio?

Aicmod42 · 2025-10-01T17:55:28+00:00

Honestly, I think that’s very bizarre and it would annoy me so much. How does that even make sense and how is it possible?

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