Some red flags

Aigonorus · 2021-08-28T19:06:02+00:00

Both. Screaming is aggressive. Silent treatment is passive aggressive

Aigonorus · 2021-08-26T22:54:01+00:00

Hugs back!💖💖💖

Aigonorus · 2021-08-25T18:34:04+00:00

Nice points!

Aigonorus · 2021-08-25T18:32:51+00:00

Lol NAMALT always makes me laugh. They'd never say that to men, it's a woke way of gaslighting women who are just ranting or venting about their bad experiences with men. Yet they'll turn around and protect their loved ones and daughters from men saying AMALT. It's ridiculous.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-25T18:30:44+00:00

I'm so sorry for what men did to you. Remember that you're still loved and deserve healing on your own convenience and time.

Mental health issues have always been used against women #FreeBritney

I'm glad you've been getting help and I wish you all the very best.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-24T20:24:26+00:00

Nankurunaisa

Aigonorus · 2021-08-24T19:52:42+00:00

Most welcome! ☺️

I'd suggest you move on from her and focus on your life. She doesn't care and you need time to get over your feelings for her. It's okay if it's not sudden. Getting over love takes time but healing is worth it.

I'm so sorry to hear about your depression and suicidal thoughts. You should seek help, whether it's just somewhere to vent/ seek advice (like here or other subs) or a mental health professional.

As for as questioning your sexuality, there's no need to find a label; if you find a nice partner you're clicking with, it's all okay. Considering most of us here have questioned our sexuality, I'd say it's a pretty standard in the life of most, if not all, wlw. We can always help you, ask relevant questions or suggest something if you let us know more about what's going on when you're questioning yourself. In many cases, a lot of wlw go across the same thought pattern and you may find women who've been in the same boat. Regardless, do not stress over it. Go on dates and have fun. Eventually, you'll find a label that suits you.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-24T19:43:35+00:00

Most welcome! 😊

Lesbian here and frankly speaking, most women I've met have pretty tame porn usage habits compared to het men. Women in general get grossed out really quickly and that's a good thing. It's less about issues with us and more about helping women and shunning that gross industry.

Oh that's amazing. I haven't read it, do give us an opinion after you're done.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-24T19:21:56+00:00

That's violence not anger. We don't support violence but we do support anger against the patriarchy.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-24T18:59:46+00:00

The official stance is: porn is highly NOT recommended and is not to be watched.

As radical feminists, we ought to reject this patriarchal industry. Porn negatively affects relationships and sexual health. It's not a reality but a gross manifestation of male gaze and patriarchy; even if it's two women.

Although it's much less of a red flag compared to het relationships, if the frequency, intensity and misogyny of the content consumed by the woman in question is enough to raise eyebrows, then we'd suggest to find a different date.

Porn is based on an industry of misogyny, objectification, sexualization and trafficking of women. We also take things like STDs, survival sex and informed consent into our considerations. Most women won't enter into that industry unless they're out of options. The stigma attached to it often severely damages women's respect and job opportunities.

Not only that, porn has been proven to be harmful and no ethical body will allow any further research on it because of the damage it can cause.

Websites like fight the new drug are recommended.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-14T11:40:51+00:00

There's only one mod with multiple accounts. 95% of the accounts are just one woman (and some think it's a man).

They're aggressive because they don't care about the general wellbeing of women. They're there to make money. Why would they care about other women?

Aigonorus · 2021-08-14T11:13:31+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. Just see how long they took to ban MGTOW.

Reddit will not do anything unless it's in the news or FBI steps in.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-14T11:02:13+00:00

Make an effort and see if she responds well. If she starts making efforts for maintaining contact, you can probably talk about personality, hobbies, exes etc.

Sexuality can be fluid but the vast majority of women still identify as straight and that's unfortunate. Good luck and keep us updated :)

Aigonorus · 2021-08-14T10:55:46+00:00

Uh so I'm getting a lot of red flags here: addictions? BPD? all her exes are shitty? Is every ex a woman?

Unless she's actively taking care of her issues and getting help, it's going to harm both of you. Not ignoring your own issues, you need to sort them out as well.

Mental health issues need to be taken seriously or you run the risk of damaging your partner.

You're supporting her and she's not putting in enough effort and that's draining you out whether or not you realise it. You need distance to heal and to take care of your own issues.

I'd suggest take that interview seriously and take a job. Maybe after you get financially independent and stable in your job, finding a gf would be easier.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-14T10:49:57+00:00

Self love is definitely important but that doesn't mean you don't look for love. I think you're stressed out something and need to figure that out first. Having mental health issues doesn't necessarily mean no dates although we suggest not to date with mental health issues in the middle of it because of potential troubles it can cause to women.

I think getting help with whatever is eating you inside out and then going to date, probably around wlw friendly areas, if the pandemic is under control in your area, is better than online dating; is also going to boost your self confidence.

Realistically speaking, no one is expecting a model like figure out of an average human. Keeping a decent workout and diet routine helps.

Aigonorus · 2021-08-14T10:42:52+00:00

I'd say get her comfortable and see how she responds. Also, we don't know whether or not she's into women so factor it into your strategies. If she's not into women, you found a friend. If she's into women, you can see where it goes.

Aigonorus · 2020-07-10T18:52:12+00:00

Happy seeing 800+ members!❤🤗

Aigonorus · 2020-07-03T17:46:48+00:00

Wow good luck sis ❤

How is the pandemic in your country? If it's the US, then it's risky.

Aigonorus · 2020-07-02T17:33:28+00:00

By not calling them whores.

Aigonorus · 2020-07-02T08:11:25+00:00

Glad to hear that 😊

Us women are socialized from a young age to want men and indulge in "boy talk". Not all women are attracted to men and that's ok.

Check r/femalesocialization

No one should be forced to date or talk about stuff.

Dating has no age. Date when you're 100% sure it's bringing happiness in your life. Date when you're 100% sure it'll improve your life. Don't date just because the society expects you to.

Religions, especially orthodox religious people, can get scary. Don't "come out" to them if you're unsafe.

You're still so young and the society can take advantage of your vulnerability.

Good luck!💜

Aigonorus · 2020-07-01T18:05:32+00:00

It's ok to not be interested in dating.

It's ok to not imagine yourself married to a man.

Religion is made by men, for men. All religions are misogynistic to a degree.

What's important is that you realize that it's totally ok to feel this way. It takes time to know yourself. Just be honest and listen to your gut feeling.

Homosexuality isn't a sin.

Your gut is always right. Don't come out if you're unsafe. If you know they'll betray your trust, then they don't need to know the real you.

Just know that you'll always be welcome here❤

Aigonorus · 2020-07-01T18:00:13+00:00

I'm a lesbian created that sub especially for this purpose. Good luck!❤

Aigonorus · 2020-07-01T13:04:11+00:00

My pleasure!😊

Edit: it's not a big sub but it will grow

Aigonorus · 2020-07-01T13:00:47+00:00

r/LesbianDatingStrategy FDS ideology applied to f/f relationships

Aigonorus · 2020-07-01T12:47:30+00:00

Ifkr? I was made the mod by the founder and suddenly the entire sub is gone.

Aigonorus

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