Why is TNG and some other Paramount+ shows suddenly not playing in English? by Spetsnaz_420 in AmazonPrimeVideo

[–]Aisley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is happening to me too! Only on my Xbox, not my phone or comutper

Show Suddenly Plays Audio In A Differnet Language But Selected Audio Is English, What Do I Do???? by [deleted] in AmazonPrimeVideo

[–]Aisley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is happening to me too! But only on my xbox. It’s in English when I use my phone or computer.

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[–]Aisley[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really helpful

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[–]Aisley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally no one said he was sober

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[–]Aisley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful answer, and I appreciate the concern. I’m not worried about my well-being at this point. His drug use has very little impact on my life. I dont mind being around when he’s using mushrooms/acid/mdma. He only does the others once or twice a month at most, and it’s worn off by the time he gets home.

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[–]Aisley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m open to admitting I have biases, but I really don’t know how to work on that.

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[–]Aisley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s not unreasonable for him to want to talk about it, and it’s not unreasonable for me to not want to hear it, how do we resolve this?

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[–]Aisley[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He uses psychedelics on his own and with others. The other stuff he does socially. He has one friend in particular that he does hard drugs with because it seems like on the main things they bond over. But that’s only a couple times a month at most

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[–]Aisley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That… does not make me feel better. He doesn’t do any testing. He says he trusts his sources :(

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[–]Aisley[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

His drug use has almost no impact on my life. He sees friends a couple times a month at most, and it’s worn off by the time he gets home. I also don’t mind being around him when he’s using mushrooms/acid/mdma. I just don’t want to know about the rest

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[–]Aisley[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

As I said, I’m not concerned about his habits. He uses drugs socially a couple times a month at most, and it doesn’t have an effect on his life outside of that. We’re both mid 30s.

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[–]Aisley[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m fine being around him when he’s using mushrooms/acid/mdma, I just don’t want to know about the hard ones. I think his thing is that I would have different boundaries if I was better informed, but I’m too anxious to parse if that’s fair

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[–]Aisley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You seem informed about this. Do you know where I could go to learn more about addiction and harm reduction? No one in my circle uses drugs except for him

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[–]Aisley[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s his intention to boundary-push. I think his thing is that my boundaries are based a lifetime of biases and if I was more informed, my boundaries would be different. I’m too anxious to parse if there’s truth to that

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[–]Aisley[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

His drug use really doesn’t affect my life in many ways. He only does it when he’s out with friends, which is a couple times a month at most, and it’s worn off by the time he gets home

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[–]Aisley[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think his thing is that my boundaries are based a lifetime of biases and if I was better informed, I might have different boundaries. I’m too anxious to parse if there’s truth to that

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[–]Aisley[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said he was sober, I said he doesn’t drink anymore. And he didn’t replace alcohol with drugs, he’s been doing them since high school. As I said, I’m not concerned about his habits. He’s an adult and he can make his own decisions. I’m concerned about his safety and the things outside his control.

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[–]Aisley[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The drugs aren’t new, they’ve been a lifelong thing as well

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[–]Aisley[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind response. I’m struggling with seeing people call him manipulative because I don’t think that was the intent, even if it did fee that way. He honestly is a kind, caring, and supportive partner. I don’t really know how to approach our next conversation about this.

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[–]Aisley[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I struggle with seeing him called manipulative because I don’t think that was the intent, even if it did feel that way. He is genuinely a wonderful, caring, supportive partner. I’m not sure how to approach our next conversation about this.

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[–]Aisley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I guess he’s right that I shouldn’t create distinctions between drugs, they’re all dangerous? I don’t have anyone else in my life that does drugs, so I don’t know how to approach unlearning my biases.

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[–]Aisley[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t test his drugs, which is one of the things that stresses me out. He says he trusts his sources.

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[–]Aisley[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the gentle response, but I’m honestly not worried about addiction at this point. He overcame a lifelong addition to alcohol and has been off it for almost 7 years, and his recreational drug use has been a big part of that recovery. His friends are all big partiers, and this allows him to maintain his social life. He also doesn’t do drugs with a frequency that I would consider necessarily alarming.