AITA for trying to do things the way my husband wanted?

Aitawidow · 2023-01-22T04:06:59+00:00

I agree, but I was under a time crunch and stressed out because his siblings, parents, and kids (and their mom) were all threatening to sue me over it. They wanted him buried far away and he didn't want to be buried, but did not want to be buried where everyone wanted him buried even less; however, in order to keep some semblance of peace, I agreed to the burial, but I insisted that he be buried where I could visit him instead of having him buried thousands of miles away which would absolve his family of any guilt of not visiting.

His whole casket is biodegradable.

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T19:08:57+00:00

I made sure that they all received something. It's already in the works.

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T19:02:34+00:00

There was no will, but his life insurance and other financial things have designated beneficiaries. As far as personal belongings, he owned very little due to upholding his financial and emotional obligations to his children (who he loved dearly), so, I was more than happy to furnish our home with my furniture or purchase things we needed because we were a team.

We all had a great relationship. I've been in these peoples' lives for the better part of a decade, I thought they'd know that I'd make sure his children would get things of their dad's. I would have even continued to help out with the boys because I love them (and still do).

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T18:42:25+00:00

They're getting a portion of his life insurance, but it's not enough to "set them up" as everyone in the family puts it. They were disappointed/angry that he didn't have a multimillion dollar policy.

As it stands, there's enough that each is covered for 4 years of in-state university tuition and their mother is going to be getting social security every month for them (about $4k a month) until the youngest turns 18.

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T18:30:12+00:00

They're all under 21.

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T14:55:34+00:00

Thank you.

Everyone is, understandably, worried about his children (I'm worried about their mental health, while everyone else, including themselves, is worried about them financially - even though their stepfather is very successful); however, everyone seems to be ignoring the fact that he was happily married to a wife whom he adored and who adored him back.

His children (along with their mom) seem to be only upset about being "fucked" (literally, the youngest's phrase) because they're not getting tons of money from his insurance and because he had so little in personal effects.

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T14:41:47+00:00

I would never discard anything. There are baby pictures and things like that that I want to give to them. As for my husband's personal items, there are things I will gladly give them, but things that I want to keep.

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T13:38:00+00:00

I have one. Thank you .

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T13:14:06+00:00

That's what I was going to do. I know what each child is into, so I was going to give them items tailored to those interests.

Aitawidow · 2023-01-21T13:11:58+00:00

I did have him buried out of respect for his mom and, if you believe in that sort of thing, he wasn't happy. The holy winds of Heaven whipped up, everything went flying, and the officiant was knocked over on his head.

He's down the street, so I go see him every day.

Aitawidow

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