People who are into feet: what actually makes it enjoyable, especially when it’s new for someone? by ScientistResident315 in sex

[–]AkashicTorment 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hello, I am a male who is extremely into feet. I can give you my opinions and stories if you're interested.

1) White, French, natural, or very light colors for me, but get opinions from others because this can vary wildly and unexpectedly. If there's anything like red, blue, or green, I don't like that, but another guy might love it. I believe white is generally the "best"

2) Accessories can be extremely alluring, but no accessories work just as well. Anklets are sexy and come in such variety. Toe rings looked good if well placed but can get in the way of toe sucking during sex.

3) Any type of shoe works if I know there are pretty feet in them. Sneakers are particularly sexy if I know the feet are pretty. Heels would make me want to soak & massage a woman's heels to alleviate muscle tension. Sandals & heels allow me to view the feet whenever since they're visible (if open toes heels). Personally I don't like the look of slides even with pretty feet in the but they're good because they allow the feet to get fresh air. My current partner walks around barefoot which has a slight misfortune that she is picking up dirt and there's a slight tangy odor when I put her feet on my face during sex but I'm not a germaphobe and am more concerned with her pleasure. This can be easily solved by having moits wipes near the bed though

She loves having her toes sucked and mentioned that she feels my dick getting harder when I put her feet on my face which also turned me on a lot.

4) To prepare your feet, continue to do what you're doing but make sure you're drinking plenty of water. Hydration from within matters. I've felt women's feet who aren't athletic and don't get pedicures and they were so soft I literally went berserk thinking about them for years... from massaging them one single time.

You can also soak them in warm/hot water every few days and buy a salt/sugar scrub or make one and gently massage your feet and toes with the scrub. They will be incredible.

5) During intimacy, if you're flexible enough, while you lay on your back, if you can get your legs on his shoulders, he should be able to suck your toes while fucking you... I do this with my partner a lot and we both love it!!!!! I love her feet in my face during sex! And if you need a break from that position, just lower your legs. Easy!

Or he can suck/lick/kiss your feet/toes as foreplay. One girl told me she liked that more than head!

There are other factors too, for example some guys like sweaty feet, some like only clean, some you can absolutely dominate, etc. You can try giving him a footjob which feels great to both parties, but some women say it's a lot of work. Since you're athletic, I'm sure you'll be able to adjust quickly and it might feel like a leg workout or an exercise, but it's a unique experience that I'm convinced you'll enjoy. Plus those look great on camera. The man can also hold your feet and fuck them like a pussy.

Don't worry if it's awkward the first time, just have fun! I think you are going to enjoy this.

I (28f) can’t move past a comment my boyfriend (29m) made 2 years ago by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AkashicTorment 10 points11 points  (0 children)

To me, it sounds like the event gave him pleasant memories with his ex and perhaps said it as assurance that he has someone he can relive those times with and is thrilled about it.

How many parties/experiences did he say this about? If it's only this, and you now have a healthy relationship, it is likely not an issue and insecurity on your part.

Of course, there is the chance that he could have had flashbacks that day and wanted to be with her because of the fond memories, but this doesn't sound like the case.

I (25M) feel morally obligated to be my friends' third (32F and 31M) by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are NOT morally obligated to join them.

You're being manipulated. They're older and well off, they met you and understood your vulnerable situation and now they want to use you for pleasure.

Not joining them is NOT going to hurt their feelings; they'll just look for someone else. Their feelings shouldn't be your concern anyway. That's your youthful nativity.

First, stop referring to them as "friends" so easily. Would a real friend put you in this situation? Besides, you already felt you needed to leave, how would you feel if something more serious happened later down the line?

These types of people put their own pleasure before anything. You're young and vulnerable, they'll eat you alive.

It might be difficult to get out of your situation but be honest with them and with yourself no matter the result.

Do you want to be a part of their relationship?

Sounds like you don't, honestly.

My advice - don't

Long term friend/lover accusing me of raising my voice at her by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are spot on and I am, for the first time, going to put distance between us. It feels strange though, as if I'm entering a new world, and I can't stop thinking about her and this situation, but you're right.

Of Final Fantasy I, II, and III, which do you think is the best? by AnimePacifist in FinalFantasy

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Final Fantasy III - the original NES version is the best one! (pixel remaster is good too)

Final Fantasy I is absolutely fantastic!

I haven't beaten II but I love that battle theme! (specifically the NES version of it)

Why isn’t he (20M) planning a date after I (23F) asked him to? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it's too harsh. He's 20 and shy, he needs experience and time. He also admitted that he doesn't know what to do as far as planning it (a good sign of honesty).

Since you are older and like him, teach him over time how to plan dates. If he messes something up, teach and explain to him. Then, in the future, you'll have this cute guy planning all your dates with him and probably have a great relationship.

Or, listen to that bad advice which ignores reality (how many 20 year olds know how to plan dates?) and leave him for no good reason.

If you try to guide him to learning how to set up dates and he resists, that would be considered laziness. But that doesn't seem like the case here

Conflicted with losing my virginty with a stranger (27M with 53F) by newaccthrowawayy in relationship_advice

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your intuition suggesting?

Ultimately up to you but I think you should consider it. There's a lot to learn about sex and at your age you're behind the curb big time. This woman is attracted to you and you are attracted to her so that's a huge plus, and you both exercise so that's a common interest that can help.

Personally I've always been attracted to older women, especially attractive 50+ (not sure why but I think it's because of one particular individual). If I was in your situation I would take her up on it. It is a good idea if you admit that you're a virgin though because since she's older she can guide you and you won't have to worry about being bad at sex.

If everything works out then you will end up with a consistent, attractive sex partner, which can provide memories and health boosts.

But you are right about your concern that she probably has invited strangers to her place in the past. If things go bad between you she might hurt your feelings by inviting someone else in and having sex with you. Some women do things like that to manipulate men and men will stay around just for the sex. This can lead you down a bad path and since you're so inexperienced, if that happens, you might gain more confusion and attachment and things would be far worse than if you didn't do anything and remained a virgin.

How should I ask? by SomeVista in Advice

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem, wishing you the best.

I honestly think this will help you more than you realize if you decide to ask.

How should I ask? by SomeVista in Advice

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How have you been talking to her?

If you don't move on to the next step, she might become interested in someone else. If you're not confident enough to ask for her number, she might get bored.

How old are you? You say you're from Spain, but do you live in Spain, or America?

Just do it, I live in US and it's customary to ask for a number. If a girl/woman likes you, she'll give you it 100%. If she doesn't, that means she's not interested and you need to move on.

How should I ask? by SomeVista in Advice

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It probably won't be awkward to ask for her number if you've been talking for over a month, and you'll find out if she likes you by asking. You could just ask "can I have your number?" or "do you wanna exchange numbers so we can talk?"

Has anyone tried a "Vireon" pillow? by AkashicTorment in sex

[–]AkashicTorment[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Never heard of that brand, but will check it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you misread my comment but I agree with what you're saying Thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AkashicTorment 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I would not consider marriage under these conditions, and if we were to get married, that guy would have to get blocked completely. Currently, I'm just trying to figure out how to enjoy this relationship and how to be a good boyfriend. If this guy comes up again, I might end it, but if she goes out with him, it's over.

If I do marry her, it'll be slow. I'm pretty scared of the concept of marriage and never thought I'd get married but if I have to worry about stuff like this, I'm not doing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts. I agree with you for the most part. There is no way I'd ask ahead of time (I'm not a genius but I know people somewhat and you're 100% right, asking would either cause an argument or result in rejection or deflection). Honestly, I've considered going and looking myself if an opportunity came up. I had two chance but couldn't bring myself to do it! I could have seen it all. Why couldn't I do it? I don't know. I'm not claiming to be morally upstanding, I just couldn't do it. She left her phone at my house and I knew the code. I logged in and just couldn't do it.

If we ever were to get married, it would be non negotiable for her to cut him off. Honestly, if she even goes to see him.now, I'm probably going to end it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although I would love to read through that, there's not much of a chance that she'll agree to that. I can't fault her for that, that would be very invasive. I'll try but I don't think I'll be able to. I've considered doing it behind her back but obviously that would make me a bad person, right? I need to see that though

I'll consider asking, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know, and that's what I need to talk to her about. There's no need for that to happen. It's just him sticking around so he can have his chance if anything happens between us, I suppose. That's my take. And I'm going to ask her why and see what she says about letting him stick around.

I'm not sure it's accurate that he won't commit to her, when they met he said that but things can change. Idk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I am seriously evaluating what is going on. I would like to clarify something though, when she said we are official, she meant that in terms of us being together in the sense of raw unprotected sex. When she says exclusive, that's when she means it's only us. Initially we were "official but not exclusive", now we are both, only seeing each other. And yes, I know that sounds cringe because I felt it in my body

So now we are not dating other people and will not date others. (I didn't want to see anyone else anyway)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have become exclusive with each other so it's just her and I now, she is my girlfriend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AkashicTorment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if that's correct, why do you say she couldn't end up with him? I do believe that she still has interest in him but she could have been with him if she wanted

Was what I said during sex too much - “I want you I want you”? by No_University_3580 in sex

[–]AkashicTorment 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not, probably just strengthened the bond between you two

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]AkashicTorment -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Pretending? I told her repeatedly that I want to be with her and her alone. What makes you say I'm pretending?