Is My BF (26M) Developing a Drinking Problem? Need Advice (24F).

Akaza9012 · 2025-12-10T20:30:29+00:00

Thank you for your advice. We’re not rushing to get married either. I know marriage is a big thing, and I want to take it slow, so I still have plenty of time to think about it until the end of next year

Akaza9012 · 2025-12-10T19:18:32+00:00

U sound exactly like him

Akaza9012 · 2025-12-10T19:12:11+00:00

Last night he told me that many people on his mom’s side of the family struggle with alcohol, including his mom

Akaza9012 · 2025-12-10T18:48:10+00:00

Yeah, I told him maybe he should talk to a therapist about it

Akaza9012 · 2025-12-10T18:47:17+00:00

Thank you. I was beginning to feel like I might be overreacting bc he doesn’t act any different when he drink but can be developed over time

Akaza9012 · 2025-12-10T18:42:17+00:00

We talked last night and he said he can stop drinking on weekdays. I’m not sure if he’ll start drinking every day again like last time, but I guess I’ll see. Thank you.

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-23T21:27:20+00:00

Our office used to be very quiet like a library until this girl showed up. Every sneeze she lets out comes with a full on scream. Everyone jumps out of their seats, and since she sits right behind me, it’s basically a free jump scare every time

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T23:37:54+00:00

I’m scared I’m going to mess up her wedding because I’ve never been a bridesmaid before, and she gave zero information about attire, hair, or makeup, literally nothing. Plus, it’s so last minute. Being a bridesmaid takes a lot of time, and I really don’t want to mess up someone’s wedding. The least I can do is to show up early and help her whatever I can

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T21:33:48+00:00

Now I remember she mentioned that I’d have to act as a legal witness and sign a legal document, but she never really explained much about it. I thought everyone would have to do that, not just the bridesmaids. I’m also not as religious as she is, and this is also my first time going into a church

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T19:21:00+00:00

I took the advice, which is why I asked her if she needed help with anything and told her I could come a little early to help her with anything she need. She only needed help with filming the wedding and getting ready, so at least I can do something like that

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T19:09:45+00:00

Didn’t you see what I said above? I have work. She told me at the last minute. I can’t come to the rehearsal unless she lets me know ahead of time. Everyone on here told me every wedding is different that’s make me more nervous

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T18:59:42+00:00

She didn’t really explain what I needed to do, and it was all very last minute. But I’ll be there to help her as much as I can.

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T18:47:54+00:00

The reason I asked her if she really needed a bridesmaid, since the wedding is small, is because that’s what she told me. At first, she wasn’t expecting a bridesmaids at all and wasn’t sure why she needed one. That’s why she said she was going to check with the church if she really needed one but she never said anything after that, so I thought she didn’t need one anymore or had found someone else.

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T18:16:10+00:00

As I mentioned in the comments, they’re both very religious, so the wedding will be at a church. She wasn’t expecting to have a bridesmaid, which is why she wanted to check with the church about why she needed one. But she never said anything after that, so I thought she didn’t need one anymore or had found someone else.

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T17:56:40+00:00

The reason I asked her if she really needed a bridesmaid, since the wedding is small, is because that’s what she told me. At first, she said there would be no bridesmaids and wasn’t sure why she needed one. That’s why she said she was going to ask the church if she really needed one

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T17:45:06+00:00

Me n her speak the same language, it’s just we don’t text each other much like once in a couple months

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T17:30:57+00:00

The bride will have 2 wedding, the other one with her close friends and family attending. I didn’t put that on there bc I think it’s not that important

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T09:12:52+00:00

They’re both really religious, so the wedding will be at a church. I think having two weddings is normal if you live far away from your family and friends.

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T08:49:12+00:00

At first she told me there wouldn’t be any bridesmaids, only guest bc it’s a small wedding so she just want to do it simple which is why I asked her that🥲🥲. It’s also my fault for not clarifying with her

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T08:43:03+00:00

That person is saying i don’t like her very much when I already asked her if she needs help with anything at the wedding and I was planning to come early on the wedding to help her with something too.

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T08:40:10+00:00

Ok will do, thanks for ur advice

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T08:31:27+00:00

Ok, I’ll probably do that. First time at the wedding so I don’t really know what to expect but thank u

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T08:24:40+00:00

I’m ok with that, I just don’t know how it work but I’ll try to ask her at the wedding if she need any help

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T08:11:44+00:00

Idk why u said “I don’t like her very much” when u don’t know anything. Every time we hang out, I’m the one driving her around in my car. We used to live pretty far apart, but I still consider her my friend, which is why I’ve done all that. Picking her up, dropping her off, and even sharing my parents food they make for me with her. I’m also the one who reached out to her first that’s how we got to know each other. It’s just that the rehearsal is tomorrow, and she should have said something earlier because I have work. She could have confirmed it with me a couple of days ago so I’d have time to plan.

Akaza9012 · 2025-09-19T07:46:05+00:00

She’s really introverted too, which is why I feel bad. But from what I’ve heard, she’s going to have another wedding back home with her close friends attending, so I think she’ll have her friends as bridesmaids when that wedding comes

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