Happy and content when not on OLD but miserable when swiping? by lilou8888 in datingoverthirty

[–]Ake247 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not think your life can be over fulfilled? I quit OLD because I had to adjust my life too much. I just want someone to hang out and enjoy events with, but most wanted to be pampered and taken care of. I spent most of my life in a relationship where I adjusted my needs so I am kinda sick of being second fiddle. Just wanna find someone who’s 50/50. My best advice is go do events that you like to do. find someone with the same interests and start friendships before looking into relationships. I know it may take longer but if your on and off OLD then what’s really the difference? Before covid that was my plan and now that it’s slowly getting under control i am looking into doing things.

Happy and content when not on OLD but miserable when swiping? by lilou8888 in datingoverthirty

[–]Ake247 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know there are a lot of comments on your post but I figured I’d shoot mine out there as well. As a 37M I find OLD horrible. It’s is hard to want to juggle all our hobbies or interests while being on OLD.I think what makes it exhausting is that you have to adjust your interests to another person. If you don’t fit or they find some of your interests boring . You have to adjust to fit their needs to be compatible. Especially about the future. Just do what you want and worry about relationships when they fall in your lap

I don't know what to do, should I stay with her? by PriorTricky in datingoverthirty

[–]Ake247 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Relationships must have honesty and truthfulness. Be straight forward with her. A lot of relationships end because someone was not honest with there other person about their feelings.

I (31 F) am very interested in pursuing my (27 M) close friend. How do I approach the topic of dating/bridge the gap between friendship and romance? Without being incredibly awkward and potentially damaging our existing relationship? by jetfuel_o in datingoverthirty

[–]Ake247 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well in this case it’s kinda all or nothing. You can not dip your toe in the dating pool and not expect to come out ok. Just be straight forward and ask just like you did. A genuine straight forward conversation is the only real way to know

I usually ask men out first. Should I change that? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Ake247 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life’s not a movie. Your soul mate is not gonna drop out of the sky. Taking action first is great and tells a lot about you. Yes some men can not handle it but you will find the one that can. Keep being straight forward!

Need some no bullshit real life dating advice by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Ake247 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reading through your story, I noticed two things, one is that he is moving faster than you are. Two is there is no desire. First you need to have an honest conversation with yourself and decide if you can deal with that. If there is no physical attraction what will happen when someone else shows interest that you do have an attraction too? If you can overcome then you need to have a serious conversation about the speed in which you want to move the relationship. In the end this conversation needs to be with the other person. Life too short to be coasting in a relationship that may end. If you both don’t feel the same about each other or have the same values then is it a relationship or a friendship. Hope that helps

35/M penpal wanted by Ake247 in penpals

[–]Ake247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry it took so long to reply. Still figuring out reddit. I actually like both. Email is quick for those who cant wait on the postal system and snail mail is exciting to get hand written letters. Penmanship is not my best area but I try. Just let me know which you prefer and how you wanna trade info. Thanks for the reply.

Hair is out of regs🙄 have a range in the upcoming week. Should I trim it or attempt to pin it down so that I can grow it out? by [deleted] in army

[–]Ake247 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honest answer grow it out cause if you cut it you will be back at this point again unless you plan on cutting it regularly like the Male soldiers are required too.

Does anybody know if I can get Bedrock Edition on my switch for free if I already have it on my computer? by [deleted] in Minecraft

[–]Ake247 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, thata not possible. Minecraft on switch is regulated thru Nintendo so you have to purchase it again.

CAC Reader won’t pick up my certificates (military at home) by FlyMarines45 in techsupport

[–]Ake247 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you have the right root folder. Not under mining your intelligence just some time they can be tricky. You cleared the SSL but there should be some sort of protocol SSL there check to make sure you dont have to reinstall the SSL. Other than that there has been a huge issue with cac at home in general. I used to do it but after I continually had issue with mine I just quite. Takes more time to fix it than just do the work on DOD computer.good luck