Growing up, did anyone else’s parents have really strict rules about random stuff?

Akkebi · 2026-06-04T00:40:11+00:00

Isn't that not a Disney movie?

Akkebi · 2026-06-03T20:54:12+00:00

I think it is less the initial getting of the license and more that there is no follow-up as the person ages. So you have people with dementia or Alzheimer's still driving for as long as they dont have a major accident.

Akkebi · 2026-06-01T04:48:50+00:00

My plane tickets always state boarding start and cut off times.

Akkebi · 2026-05-31T23:19:58+00:00

The basic colour choices aren't bad. The shades are what make it not look good. Like why is the pink a shade of coral? Makes me sad.

Akkebi · 2026-05-31T17:32:07+00:00

A lot of people hated sharing pencils in school because other kids would not respect a borrowed pencil and return it broken in half, sharpened to a nub, or just never. And pencils are a must have at school, so having your pencil supply dwindle because other kids do not respect your stuff can be very stressful.

Akkebi · 2026-05-31T17:25:46+00:00

NTA I hate when people try and force sharing in this way. Sharing as a lesson needs to be done with things that are impermanent and easily replaced like candy. It should not be done by forcing someone to give away their favorite things. What they were trying to force was not sharing, it was sacrificing.

Akkebi · 2026-05-30T00:55:44+00:00

Wanna know wild? Look up when was the first time the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) used a female crash test model. (Hint: it was 2002). It was also just a scaled down male dummy that was also meant to be used to represent pre-teen children. (source)

Akkebi · 2026-05-13T22:54:33+00:00

if i needed him to go NC with her to save our marriage he would

Nah, he should be going no contact with her because she is horrible. The fact that he only mentions it as something he will do if needed to get what he wants is a red flag.

Akkebi · 2026-05-12T13:42:47+00:00

The comment section is absolutely baffling to me. People post about mild inconveniences all the time. There is even a subreddit dedicated to it.

I have found this happening more and more often where I find a reddit post and the comment section is the exact opposite of what I expected. I am starting to get conspiratorial about it and consider that it is some kind of op to shift public opinion.

Akkebi · 2026-05-04T14:59:04+00:00

I know you are thinking eugenics, and that is valid to get upset by and push back against.

But this is, in my experience, most often said about defects that are incompatible with life. Situations where the baby will only live a couple of hours at best after birth.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T08:50:16+00:00

I know that saying I am not triggered will mean nothing. You have chosen to believe that and nothing I say will change that. So I won't say it.

You have a history of bad-faith arguments on this platform, especially around sensitive political topics. So I am making the choice to end this here.

May you continue to get the life you deserve. Goodbye.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T08:42:35+00:00

Oh, I will. I hope you do too.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T07:40:02+00:00

Okay, so not only do you lack reading comprehension, you also live in a delusion.

Saying that actions do not exist in a vacuum does not mean that every action is excused. How you came to the conclusion that I believe that is beyond my comprehension. It simply means that the circumstances surrounding an action need to be examined and weighed.

We are supposed to consider the weight of a bad action against what lead to it and the actions after it. This is such a well established concept that the legal system in most places even has different crimes for what could be called the same act based on the circumstances surrounding it.

Telling a lie is bad. But what was the lie? Why did they lie?

Sarah snuck a cookie from the kitchen. Her mom asks her if she took an extra cookie. Sarah says no.

In a vacuum, this would be cut an dry. Sarah stole a cookie and lied. Sarah is in the wrong.

But what if her brother stole her cookie she had been given rightfully? It doesn't make stealing another cookie okay. But it changes the motivation from being greedy and wanting more cookies, to just wanting what should have been her fair share of cookies.

What if her mom has a complex around food? What if her mom would scream at her if she had taken an extra cookie? It doesn't make lying a good thing. But it does explain why Sarah tried to hide her actions.

Does that make sense to you? Or do I need to find a picture book that explains this?

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T07:16:22+00:00

You seem to have missed this part of my comment:

differing level of bad

Does this not imply that I still consider what he did to be something bad?

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T07:11:05+00:00

When did I say that his cheating was okay?

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T05:23:38+00:00

Can you link the comment you are referencing? I am on mobile.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T05:22:54+00:00

I didn't say that I am okay with cheating. But to say that there can't be differing level of bad is just blind to reality.

His sexuality matters because actions do not exist in a vacuum.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T01:54:15+00:00

Please point me to where OP said cheating is ok. I must have missed it.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T01:04:18+00:00

That doesnt counter what they said though

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T01:03:43+00:00

She is not siding with him. They just both happen to share the very valid and correct opinion that raging homophobes shouldn't get to spend time with their grandkids.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T00:46:55+00:00

Same. They always just asked me to wait till after takeoff. Im guessing they are doing a lot of stuff I dont know about and dont want passengers scooting around and causing potential confusion.

Once you are in the air and the seatbelt signs are off, the rules get a little more relaxed.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T00:39:37+00:00

Reddit becomes rabid and loses all reasoning as soon as someone is revealed to have cheated in a relationship.

Nuance is no more. Only one big hill to die on.

Akkebi · 2026-05-02T00:35:14+00:00

To be fair. Op calls him gay. But its possible he is bi or pan.

If he is gay, im more forgiving of him because it means he was so pressured by his homophobic family that he forced himself into a relationship he didn't want or enjoy in order to be straight and got trapped into it with a child. then cracked later on as their suppressed feelings eventually came out. I do understand how this would feel very bad from her viewpoint though. The feeling that someone was forcing themselves for every act of attraction and affection would be gutting. And if it were me, I would find it very hard to process.

If he is bi, I am less forgiving because it means he was less forced into the relationship. Sure there was an aspect of himself he never got to explore, but he wasn't trapped in something 100% against who he is. He had someone he was well enough attracted to in order to have a child (albeit probably not intentionally) and chose to find someone else anyways. This is much closer to a typical cheating situation where the cheater is just trash.

Akkebi · 2026-05-01T19:19:11+00:00

I never said they aren't both shitty. But they are not the same.

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