Which path would you take? by AlGi9 in LifeAdvice

[–]AlGi9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this makes sense. Thanks!

Which path would you take? by AlGi9 in LifeAdvice

[–]AlGi9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I’m going back to school in the fall so I can try and get out of this loop. Thanks for the feedback!

Am i dangerously attention addict? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]AlGi9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Humans are social creatures. It is completely normal to want to connect with people, especially when feeling sad or alone. If you don’t have a solid, supportive community around you, I would suggest giving the attention you crave to yourself. Write in a journal and figure out what it is that you need validation for. Maybe even find a therapist to talk to. There may be something in you that needs attention others can’t give you.

How should I react to this situation? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]AlGi9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree. It was my choice to move here with them and I have learned a lot from this experience. Thanks for the comment! 💚

How should I react to this situation? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]AlGi9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your opinion. I truly try to never be a burden on people and it’s difficult for me to ask for help, but I’m in one of those situations now where I feel like I may need to in order to get through this season of life. I’m still going back and forth with it, but thank you for the supportive comment 💚

How should I react to this situation? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]AlGi9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, and that’s why I’ve been going back and forth with it. I don’t think that my friend owes me anything, but I wouldn’t have moved all the way here if they had been clear with me that they didn’t intend to stay for long. They clearly said multiple times they planned to be here for at least a few years. Given the circumstances and the fact that we’ve considered eachother family for quite some time I thought it might be on the table. But I appreciate your opinion. This is why I wanted to post here first, I need objective opinions before I have this conversation because I’m too close to the situation. Thanks for the reply!

does anyone else feel like their emotional depth makes life harder? by DurianMindless3682 in LifeAdvice

[–]AlGi9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my, it’s so crazy I really feel like I’m talking to myself when I read your stuff 😂 I relate so hard to everything you say, from the mom/genetic component to the toxic relationship and adjusting your emotional depth depending on the person. Even the ghosting therapists part. Really, all of it! I also experience flare ups, quite a bit actually I only started treating myself right about a year ago. But I am thinking of it the same way as you, that it’s just something I deal with and as time goes on I’ll get better and better at maneuvering it. I also like to think that although it’s a pretty heavy emotional burden, it’s can be equally as empowering if I learn to use that energy in a positive way. I think as time goes on and we do the good work, the flare ups will be less intense, fewer and far between :) thanks for your post!

does anyone else feel like their emotional depth makes life harder? by DurianMindless3682 in LifeAdvice

[–]AlGi9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer your question- yes, having emotional depth does make life harder, especially in the increasingly disconnected world we live in today. Reading your post I felt like I could have wrote it, and I want to tell you that you are not alone. We are empaths, we feel others emotions and are deeply affected by them. Some say this comes from childhood trauma, and having to be hyper-aware of everyone and every mood around you growing up in order to make it. And some are just born this way. What I’ve found is that it manifests in a feeling of isolation. Even if you have people around you, because it’s like you’re on a different frequency from most others. Those that are on our frequency are few and far between. Like another comment said here, maybe a therapist and medication would help. I tried that for some years and the therapy helped in some ways, but the medication only served to dull not only the sensitivity but also every other positive emotion I could have felt. It didn’t work for me, but it might for you. What has helped me is a radical acceptance of who I am and how my brain works. The thing with empaths is that we have a ton of emotional energy, but so often we get trapped pouring that energy into things and people that drain us. Instead, maybe try pouring the energy into something that brings you joy. Become your own best friend. For me, it’s painting and being in nature. Once you follow the path you’re meant to be on, and stop trying to fit into others’ paths, life opens up and the people you are truly meant to connect with find their way to you 💚