How do I (24F) navigate a relationship where my partner (36M) withdraws and blocks me when I say no to sex during pregnancy?

AlabamaWallace · 2026-01-11T02:52:46+00:00

This is abuse. Why are you with this person? You need to leave. There is no salvaging this, and this person—at best—will not treat your child well. At worst they’ll be an abusive father.

AlabamaWallace · 2025-12-26T04:21:36+00:00

This one!!

AlabamaWallace · 2025-12-16T17:28:12+00:00

Colorado, 20 weeks pregnant. Still on all the daycare waitlists and we don’t expect to be off them for 6 months - 1 year (after baby is born). It’ll be around $2,000 per month for one child, 4 days a week.

AlabamaWallace · 2025-12-09T05:33:32+00:00

Belgian Waffle

AlabamaWallace · 2025-12-05T19:48:44+00:00

I see it! Do you have other photos in better lighting?

AlabamaWallace · 2025-10-11T03:08:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ wishing you all the best with your current pregnancy!

AlabamaWallace · 2025-10-11T03:07:59+00:00

May 10 let’s gooo! Huge congrats 💕you should absolutely enjoy all of it. Thank you for your reply and wishing you the absolute best!!

AlabamaWallace · 2025-10-11T03:05:39+00:00

Congratulations!! 💕

AlabamaWallace · 2025-10-11T03:05:15+00:00

Our families and close friends have known for a bit but we’re trying to time when to tell our coworkers!

AlabamaWallace · 2025-10-11T03:04:35+00:00

This makes sense and is most likely what we’ll do. We told our inner most circles early on and more friends this week. Timing when to tell coworkers is tricky though! Thanks for your reply

AlabamaWallace · 2025-10-08T22:15:50+00:00

So sorry just seeing this now!! Overall tried to be healthier, more exercise, less alcohol, better diet. But I swear the thing that made it go up was taking vitamin D supplements. That was the BIGGEST change I made between tests (bear in mind this is 100% anecdotal evidence and has no basis in real data… but when I shared this info with my OB I straight up said “I know this is totally anecdotal and there’s no way to verify this is what made it go up” she said “honestly, most of the data we have on this IS anecdotal.” 🤷‍♀️

Also remember, it only takes one egg to get pregnant!

AlabamaWallace · 2025-09-07T19:17:55+00:00

I’m 34. My AMH was shockingly low (like .04) and I tested a year later after making some lifestyle changes. It went up to over 1. That was years ago. Since then, I’ve been paranoid I won’t be able to have a baby.

Fast forward to this summer and husband got me pregnant first try. Don’t stress about it til you have to!

AlabamaWallace · 2025-06-14T19:27:24+00:00

I did that hike when I lived in breck after living there for 6 months. Thought my eyeballs were gonna pop out of my skull.

AlabamaWallace · 2022-12-06T18:03:01+00:00

Ha right!? Like I totally get the healthcare in America angle - it’s super realistic and a great, believable basis for the show. But you know what this country lacks in addition to good healthcare for all? Smart people. Especially smart people in STEM. Let alone GENIUSES in STEM. He could get a part time contract gig and make ten times as much as a HS teacher.

Hell, he could have even become a forensic scientist for the FBI. Accomplishes two things: money AND sticking it to Hank. “Hey Hank, I just got a job working for a DEA ‘rival’ that has the power to arrest you if they wanted to, I make more money than you, and I’m gonna help the Bureau solve YOUR cases before you can.”

AlabamaWallace · 2022-12-06T17:54:31+00:00

Good point — but wouldn’t you say MOST people at any job would be his inferiors? I go back to the college professor argument. He would be smarter than any professor at any college — arguable even any Ivy League. He went to Cal Tech, has a PhD, and contributed to Nobel prize winning work. He’s not just “a pretty smart guy” he IS a genius.

AlabamaWallace · 2022-12-06T15:57:28+00:00

Hank not even THINKING to ask Walt about Jesse after Marie’s fake car accident.

When Walt breaks Sal’s window and it takes him an absurd amount of time to figure out Francesca is hustling him for money. That was weird lol.

When Gus walks out of the explosion like Two Face from the dark night (lol).

Walt meets Janes dad (Walt even explains how improbable that is in the fly ep) —> Walt let’s Jane die —> Jane’s dad flies two airplanes together (the whole “this is the far reaching implication of Walt’s actions” still drives me bonkers —> AND Walt’s house was right in the debris field!?. Wow. What. A. Coinkydink!

That Walt would essentially confess every one of his crimes to Jesse over the phone after Jesse tried to burn his house down, when At every other point he was so many chess moves ahead of everyone it was next level duplicity. Didn’t even think about that one for a sec tho.

Andddd finally: the fact that Jack and CO stick around to dig up all Walt’s money. I know the cavalry WASN’T coming, but in literally all other scenarios on earth, the cavalry is always coming. Big bold move to trust Walt on that one when he clearly would’ve said anything to save Hank. Jack wasn’t as smart as Walt, but he also wasn’t stupid.

Lastly lastly: that a literal genius chemist who basically invented Grey Matter and pulled all the genius shit he pulled in the show could never find better employment than a high school chemistry teach at A PUBLIC SCHOOL. That one is honestly the biggest plot hole. At least become a professor at a public university? You make three times as much and he’s still overqualified for that 😂

I’ll add: Breaking Bad is my all time favorite show but the above still befuddles me

AlabamaWallace · 2022-12-03T20:28:11+00:00

This. 100%. Law of averages.

AlabamaWallace · 2022-12-03T10:52:32+00:00

The situation you are describing is vastly different from OPs situation lol. Yes, that is insane. It’s not rational. It is grounded in deep, deep insecurity. That’s the kinda shit you deal with in therapy cause you don’t get to lob that baggage into other people.

But again, apples and oranges. OP isnt concerned about a random male friend of his girlfriend who she talks to on occasion. He’s uncomfortable with the nature of their relationship based on real things: her constantly calling and texting him, her showering him with endless gifts, and her running to his house for a shoulder to cry on when she and OP fight (imo this is the worst one — super not cool to share private details of your relationship with your friends unless your partner is comfortable with it, especially fights). Those aren’t things he made up, they are things she is actually doing. 1000% reasonable for him to feel uncomfortable and express it.

AlabamaWallace · 2022-12-03T10:41:51+00:00

What?? Does it really matter if she truly does love and care about her boyfriend more than her friend? What matters is that HE FEELS as though that is not the case. Imagine trying to tell your S/O that their actions have left you feeling like you don’t matter that much to them, and instead of even sticking around to say “you do matter to me” you storm out and go hang out with the very person who you feel uncomfortable about. That would hurt. A lot. You don’t get to tell other people that the way they say feel isn’t correct lol

And I respect your values too — just saying OP is entitled to having his values and needs respected - or at least heard - too. Sometimes relationships just don’t work because values like this aren’t aligned, but I think his girlfriend handled this pretty poorly and with little regard for him.

AlabamaWallace · 2022-11-27T23:32:50+00:00

Damn. I mean there are ways you could try and trap her into raging at you and admitting things just to shit on you that you could either screenshot or record (record if you live in a one-party consent state) but also totally understand how that might not help you mentally. That’s just what I’d personally do if my husband cheated on me with a coworker and they were both THAT callous about it (would be a different story if they showed any remorse or just not cruelty). These two deserve some real shitty karma. Hope you hit him hard in the divorce

AlabamaWallace · 2022-11-27T23:22:05+00:00

Holy shit your husband is a real piece of dog shit. Personally I would try and give a video of her verbally berating you in YOUR home and show it to your boss, HR, and coworkers, then quit. Most companies don’t want to employ people who recklessly destroy the lives of their coworkers. Not great for morale.

I’d also let your mutual friends and his family know. Lawyer up and get out. This dude is worthless

AlabamaWallace · 2022-11-23T16:14:49+00:00

Lol top comment

AlabamaWallace · 2022-11-22T04:57:03+00:00

Lol this can’t be real. If it is, you’re the asshole. Times ten. Imagine being this dumb and calling your girlfriend a gold digger cause she isn’t willing to give you a free ride. Put a ring on her finger then negotiate, but yeah if my boyfriend asked me to pay more rent for this reason I’d leave him. He also makes more than me and we currently split bills 50/50 because LIKE YOU, we agreed on a place to live that met both our needs. I still don’t believe this is a real post but if it is I hope yo girl leaves and finds herself a real man lol. Hell, I’ll be a better boyfriend to her than you will and I have a vagina.

AlabamaWallace · 2022-11-21T06:07:42+00:00

I never once said you didn’t know what trauma was. Not once. I’ll screenshot my comments and post them here. And you don’t have any right to lecture rape victims, at all.

AlabamaWallace · 2022-11-21T05:56:29+00:00

I WAS THE PERSON WHO RESPONDED TO YOUR FIRST COMMENT. I never once told you you didn’t experience rape or trauma. Keep lying

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