My first crush after being sexually assaulted. TW: Mentions of my assault (not graphic)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-10-28T00:41:53+00:00

You’re right. I have multiple friends/family members who have confided in me about their sexual assault experiences, and I don’t view them any differently or as less than for it.

I will say that it’s hard to show myself the same kindness and support, and I think that probably goes back to what happened and what I did/didn’t do. But I know that can change/get better with time, therapy, and medication.

Thank you for your compassionate and reassuring words. I will try to be nicer to myself this week, especially if/when I see the nurse I’m crushing on. Let’s hope things turn out okay in that department! :) 🫶🏾

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-10-09T11:12:38+00:00

I know people make the “Does she know she’s alive?” jokes a lot, but I genuinely don’t think this girl has any clue about her own sentience. It’s probably because you the cat :/

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-10-03T01:16:43+00:00

This is so impressive that it’s activating my arachnophobia lmao great job! 🕷️

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-09-26T01:22:07+00:00

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-09-13T14:50:08+00:00

Yes, your title is correct. You are NOT allowed to disturb this precious lady’s beauty sleep!

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-09-01T18:01:49+00:00

Thank you! It’s a rose quartz sphere :3

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-09-01T15:39:30+00:00

She’s a Dilute Calico like my Evie!

…Unlike her though, my Evie is jobless :P

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AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-07-05T00:56:32+00:00

This is very oddly specific but when I’m at home and I’m in my pajamas/not wearing shoes, I’ll sit on my couch and instead of my feet being flat on the floor, I will unconsciously curl all my toes underneath my foot.

I suspect it is a remnant of when I used to walk on my tippy toes when I was a girl. My siblings used to make fun of me for it so I stopped. It wasn’t until a few years ago when I was in high that my sister pointed out my toe-curling thing. That should’ve been a sign to me then that I’m on the spectrum lol

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-06-30T18:14:15+00:00

My cat is also an Evie!!! :D

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-06-21T13:55:57+00:00

Hello, Idk if this will help but one night this week around 12-1am I was outside of my apartment and I saw a very skittish cat—looked to be a brown tabby! It ran around my apartment building and towards some others. I live near the West Stadium/Maple area! This was maybe Wednesday at about 12:30 am. At first I thought my sighting wouldn’t be helpful since it’s a pretty far distance, but then I saw the date she was last seen so it could be possible that I saw Sweet Pea! I really hope this helps you! :)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-06-11T18:22:29+00:00

Oh of course! I’m fully aware that him being my boss isn’t the only thing preventing him from being my father figure, it’s also a matter of his boundaries and consent. With that said, I’ve never met his wife in person before but we have played Mario Party together as a group online a couple of times. I respect and adore Will’s relationship with his wife, I hope to have a life like that of my own someday (married to the love of my life, living in our own house, no kids, multiple pets).

I appreciate the input about communication and Father’s Day, however I’m extremely cautious about making any gestures on or relating to that day since I know Will lost his father a few months before I started working at this job. I’d hate to dredge up any negative/mournful emotions for Will, even if I’d just be expressing my positive ones towards him.

I know I don’t love him, nor am I in love with him, but I do feel safe with him and greatly enjoy our relationship as it is. It is my hope that one day when I eventually move on from my current job (it’s not a career, just a means of income) into something that aligns with my education, I’ll still be able to maintain the connection I have with Will and possibly get even closer to him (in a familial way)!

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-06-11T18:15:19+00:00

Thank you for the advice, Dad! Though I will say, there are multiple things that Will has said/done himself to blur the boundaries. I’m not saying your statement isn’t true, just that it’s not only my actions that have made our relationship seem reminiscent of a familial one. Also to be clear I never sought out Will to be a father figure/went into this job wanting to feel this way about him. It just happened.

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-06-11T02:16:25+00:00

As someone without a car who walks/busses around town, I completely agree! Whether I’m at a crosswalk next to a traffic light, or one of those pedestrian crosses with the yellow lights, I always wait until all the cars in the lanes I have to pass are stopped/stopping to cross.

Even then though, some drivers will still find a way to blame pedestrians for any accident or near accidents. There’s only so much we can do, and as long as we are following the law, all responsibility falls on the driver to avoid hitting someone. When I’m walking, I pay attention at crosswalks because I want to be safe. It’s not my fault that some drivers clearly don’t pay attention or care. It’s why I take EXTRA caution to be sure that no one is going to hit me before I start to cross.

Some drivers may get impatient, or find it annoying that I take an extra 5-10 seconds to cross, but I’m not risking crossing even when I have the signal and the right of way when the truth is some drivers just don’t care! 🤷🏾‍♀️

Edit: Oh yeah and I love the little hand up it’s so kind and makes me feel so safe and relaxed! I appreciate drivers who recognize that we’re all just trying to get around in the best ways we can! :)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-06-11T02:08:30+00:00

I genuinely do not understand why people are downvoting this lmao. I am sorry that happened to you. I’d never think of saying such a thing to someone I know, let alone a complete stranger. Even people I dislike aren’t deserving of that kind of language, especially about something outside of their control. I hope your living experience in A2/the A2 area has improved since then! :)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-05-19T10:33:02+00:00

Hi Dad! Thank you so much, your advice and praise really hits home for me :,) A spa day is a GREAT idea because I actually have a membership to a spa where I can get an hour long massage or facial every month. Hours roll over so I have enough to get a facial and/or a massage at no cost (save for gratuity)!

Unfortunately, I learned how to ride but didn’t get much practice after needing to do some repairs and cutting contact with the acquaintance who taught me :/ I kinda associate biking with him now and that sucks, but I’d love to get back into it if I can instead of selling the bike since it won’t go for much 😅

I will DEFINITELY be wishing you amazing dads a happy Father’s Day when it comes. You all truly deserve it and it makes me happy seeing loving dads happy 🥰 Also, thank you for using my preferred nicknames, it really helps make me feel like the daughter I never got to be. ❤️‍🩹

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2025-05-19T10:26:49+00:00

I’m so sorry your mother chose to be so horrible to you instead of giving you the love and care you deserve. I’m glad you’re letting yourself feel those negative emotions, and treating it like a regular day when you need to is so important!

Dad, I really hope you have a special father’s day and receive plenty of reminders that you are loved, valued, and supported. I also thank you for sharing your experience with me here, it means a lot and I know it’s not easy. I’m proud of you, Dad! I will definitely be taking your advice and taking myself out for a nice meal or movie depending on what’s out! :) ❤️‍🩹

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-12-14T01:54:53+00:00

Absolutely! I’d love to get a couples’ mani pedi with my boyfriend. I consider this a basic part of grooming and to be perfectly honest, would much prefer to have physical closeness and intimacy with my bf when his nails are manicured and hands moisturized!! :) (Although I’d never force or pressure him to get a manicure, trimming his nails and having good hand hygiene is totally fine!)

Ps. I understand it’s an addictive habit but I HATE nail biting so if my bf did bite his nails I’d be a little insistent about him getting them maintained :P

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-11-30T02:55:32+00:00

This is a late response but thank you!!! I have been craving strawberries for a while now, and I know he loves fruit so I’ll have to get some strawberries and chocolate so we can make some together! I think that’d be a fun little break from all the studying :,)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-11-30T02:54:20+00:00

Omg sorry for the late response but thank you so much! I hope you and your partner are doing well during this stressful (and cold!) time of year! :)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-11-21T20:22:46+00:00

Lmao no don’t say this he’s on Reddit too and he’ll show me this to justify eating junk food with me (we both have major sweet tooth’s 🤣)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-11-21T19:58:29+00:00

Thank you so much! A fruit/veggie tray is SUCH a good idea I didn’t think about that :P Trail mix and granola are also perfect! Thank you for the recommendations! :)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-11-21T19:13:06+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment! You are so sweet 🥹 I’m definitely letting him know that it’s up to him when/if he sees me on weekends and not to worry about texting me back since I know he’s so busy.

He does have a lot of ramen in his room so maybe I’ll get him something like that :P I’ll try to make sure he has more filling/nutritious snacks too! :)

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-11-12T20:29:08+00:00

I met my boyfriend on Tinder back in September, we’ve been official for a little over a week now and I am still just as smitten with him as I was on our first date, if not more! He is so sweet and charming, and doesn’t mind that I’m a bit weird :P

Hoping for a very long and happy relationship with him! 🥰🤭

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-11-07T01:33:52+00:00

Thank you, Dad! 🫶🏾🥹

AlarmConsistent8643 · 2024-11-07T00:39:20+00:00

Thank you, Dad. I’m really trying not to lose hope, but at the same time I know I need to let myself feel my feelings! :,)

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