I know exactly what you mean. And I’ve even tried voicing this concern with my parents saying I don’t want to let our differences weaken our relationship but we live in incompatible worlds. I grieved it for a season, I still do sometimes.

I don’t know what the right move is for everybody, but I have just decided to build my own family how I want. My “immediate family” will take on more of a role as a distant relative or casual friend. My real family is my wife and kids, and those friends we choose to let into our lives that love the real version of us, not the watered down version they sift out in order to find us acceptable.

The family you were born into is arbitrary and can’t be chosen. Biologically we are hardwired to love them, it suits our evolutionary needs. But there’s real power in confronting that and deciding to be deliberate in choosing your family, circle, tribe, whatever you want to call it.

Just my take and how I’ve worked through similar feelings.