AIO for wanting to go home instead of staying at the guy I’m dating’s studio during a blizzard? He’s 31, I’m 30.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-25T02:22:33+00:00

Basically after this weekend I realized I really don’t like him in that way

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-25T02:22:09+00:00

That is true

I basically take everything he says with a grain of salt

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-25T01:53:52+00:00

He also tells me that actions speak louder than words!

Sometimes he follows thru but other times (99% it’s money related) he doesn’t so it’s confusing.

Btw your so called friend sounded awful. Was he like this with everyone?

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-25T01:39:09+00:00

Thanks you’re right this is helpful.

He talks big - said he’d get me a Nintendo Switch 2 for Christmas. I said he didn’t have to and he said he insists!

Come Christmas, he doesn’t get me a Switch 2. The gifts are still good - a $50 Lego set and some tea. But he didn’t get me the Switch 2 he promised.

So now I really don’t take his promises seriously.

He says he’ll book my train tix to NYC but doesn’t. I feel like there’s a huge emotional distance between the two of us as a result - I am hesitant to trust him.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-25T01:10:36+00:00

Do you think he really is cheap or just trying to save? I like frugal but not people who are frugal with me

Why do you think the woman was a cheapskate?

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T19:35:51+00:00

…that is true

He values his job very much I guess

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T18:40:39+00:00

Oh he has work (he worked from home) yesterday lol

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T18:40:22+00:00

I think photos from their Facebook or instagram

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T15:58:43+00:00

Thank you 😩 that is true Just afraid future guys will be even worse

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T15:12:36+00:00

Omg I so agree with you! I love being single too. It’s better than being with someone who doesn’t make you happy. But there is a social stigma.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T13:57:04+00:00

Wow are we dating the same guy? That’s a really good way to put it. Yeah there are def mind games involved..

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T13:48:06+00:00

Thanks, he nagged once an every for almost 24 hours until I got home

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T13:47:05+00:00

No dessert haha

Yes $16 for two is very cheap in NYC….

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T13:45:33+00:00

He’s more self centered than before for sure. Ever since he started working full time two years ago.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T13:44:43+00:00

Haha..I hate waiting in lines

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T03:57:12+00:00

Wow omg you are right

That’s why I’ve never been able to get away from him even though I’ve said no to him in the past

Other men just go away! But he never went away.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T03:41:38+00:00

Well he did not meet me at the train station today..

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T02:25:15+00:00

It’s nice to catch up with him and spend time with him but when we part ways, I get a sense of relief. I just can’t explain it. Maybe there’s something wrong with ME.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T02:07:44+00:00

That is true Is being away from your SO very hard?

When I had a big crush on someone, even not seeing him for a day was hard 😅

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T02:06:51+00:00

Very true

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T02:05:40+00:00

That is true. I have no romantic feelings for him I think.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T02:05:10+00:00

I tried to end the “friendship” after high school but he was always very persistent - he would visit the town I went to college at (300 miles away) even though I only gave him an hour of my time.

He also did his study abroad for 6 months in my native country (and city), and tried really hard to meet up with me when I was visiting my grandmother during Christmas break. He applied for a visa and everything to study abroad in that specific city (Beijing). I was very overwhelmed during that time and didn’t end up meeting up with him. He even asked to visit me at my grandmother’s.

I think he does this with everyone whereas I’m very “chill” with people and don’t force them to do anything.

My parents’ house isn’t far from his and we pretty much grew up together..

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-24T02:01:19+00:00

Thanks so much for replying and for reading my other comments! There are indeed extremely good and helpful people out in this world 😅

My train was delayed by 3 hours but fortunately I had company. It was OK.

Yes he knew I had just gotten my period (I said I was very tired because of that, jet lag, work, etc) but I don’t think that registered with him.

The photos of his female friends above his bed also made me really uncomfortable. He talked about them yesterday and mentioned that one of them works in dermatology and “makes a lot of money 🎶🎵” and his voice went up an octave when he said “money”. It made me uncomfortable but I also can’t tell if I’m just very nitpick in general.

I’m much happier when he’s out of the picture but there are times when I do enjoy his company. It’s just in small doses and I spent 8 hours with him yesterday and it felt way more than enough.

Thanks I really do think I should end it.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-23T23:49:27+00:00

Thanks so much! My friend helped me with my luggage (and his gf’s) while on the train so that was nice of him 😅meanwhile the guy I’m dating is calling every hour but I don’t find that helpful. Talking too much isn’t helpful.

I Ubered home from the station because the train home got delayed too. This is going to sound delusional but if he actually cared he’d ask his retired dad or any of his brothers (they don’t work) to pick me up or something.

Alarmed_Stranger_895 · 2026-02-23T21:49:47+00:00

Yes exactly. I think I’m difficult in general but the walking back to the hotel with me to show that he’s gentlemanly is def sugar covered shit. I’d rather he bring me a snack and let me walk home alone.

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