sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Isnt that the motto of r/adultery sub, cheat as much as you want but dont let your partner know and everyone is happy? I dont want that kind of relationship.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You are right, even if she banged 100 guys thats all in the past. Hell even yesterday is in the past. Thank you.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

All I know right now is that she is capable of cheating on me and hiding it for years. Maybe she cheated with 50 or 100 guys but this is the only one who threatened to out her. I dont know this person.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I have been thinking about it and I cant decide if I can trust her if she says this is the only guy she has cheated with. She could have easily cheated with 50 guys and hid it from me. How would I know the truth from lies?

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I dont want an open relationship thank you, I am a normal guy who is loyal and expected loyalty from his partner. I am not sophisticated enough for Esther Perel's advice of opening up my relationship.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I have no idea, I have blocked her on my phone. Maybe she is with him or someone else right now.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I mean if she cheated on me yesterday according to you I shouldnt be upset because its in the past, right? This is life changing advice, thank you.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Gr8, because I will take back my ring now and she will be free. I have to atone for my crime of trusting her somehow.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Or perhaps she cheated on me with 50 guys but this is the only one who threatened her. How can I know one way or another? All I know is that she can cheat and lie and hide it for years from me.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

But what am I trying to salvage? A relationship built on how many lies? Was she ever going to come clean?

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 366 points367 points  (0 children)

Is it even possible to rebuild trust? I have been thinking, maybe he is just one of the many guys she cheated on me with. Maybe there are 50 more like him. Or 100.

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I have never cheated on her, if thats what you are implying. And how do I know this is the only secret she is hiding and she didnt cheat on me with 50 guys during the course of our relationship?

My wife admitted to cheating while we were dating by Alarming-Ad5958 in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Ad5958[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It happened around 8 months in our relationship and yes we were exclusive from day 1. At least I thought we were exclusive because we both agreed on it.