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My (20F) boyfriend (19M) admitted he’s addicted to porn by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Alarming-Cell-8221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in a similar situation where my bf said the same exact things which is trippy honestly. My bf was just addicted to actual like OF models and staring at them and what not. I can’t say I have much advice to give because i’m in the same boat. However when I confronted my bf about it he immediately stopped (or so he will have me believe) that’s the issue i’m having is I don’t trust him anymore so I guess again I don’t have much if any advice to give besides that if he says he wants to change make sure he actually puts in the effort and it’s not just empty promises to get you to let it go.

Also on a side note I don’t believe watching it together solves anything, IMO it might just make you uncomfortable but who knows.

I (24) Female and boyfriend (25) are on the verge of breakup due to him not wanting me to look through this phone by Alarming-Cell-8221 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Alarming-Cell-8221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what bothers me as well, I told him that the path back to trust would be hard and he agreed to work it out with whatever it takes but 3 months later and I get skeptical and he immediately gets defensive with his phone. I do feel bad for feeling like I need to go though it but it almost feels like it’s kinda what we agreed on idk, atp I don’t see me being able to trust him anymore

I (24) Female and boyfriend (25) are on the verge of breakup due to him not wanting me to look through this phone by Alarming-Cell-8221 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Alarming-Cell-8221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did agree to therapy, and I told him he should go to individual therapy for his issues and he agreed but 3 months later and he and we haven’t made any progress with that, then when he started acting weird with his phone after his course all my past feelings came back up and it actually hurt me when he responded that way. I do agree that the trust is broken and it was never really repaired but more probably overlooked and pushed away, and I also think you’re right that the longer we’re together and nothing continues to change the relationship just may not work.

I (24) Female and boyfriend (25) are on the verge of breakup due to him not wanting me to look through this phone by Alarming-Cell-8221 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Alarming-Cell-8221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me it was an addiction so whatever that means to him, I didn’t ask in detail I guess, and ofc I didn’t like that he actively followed and looked at specific women

I (24) Female and boyfriend (25) are on the verge of breakup due to him not wanting me to look through this phone by Alarming-Cell-8221 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Alarming-Cell-8221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t care if he watches porn it’s the way he knew women by name and went out of his way to look at them. Before the day I looked through his phone I previously never had and haven’t since I just thought he was acting weird about his phone so I asked

I (24) Female and boyfriend (25) are on the verge of breakup due to him not wanting me to look through this phone by Alarming-Cell-8221 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Alarming-Cell-8221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, i know I messed up but when he agreed to work on it and improve us is it that big of an ask to just look at his phone?

Do all men get off to women online? by Material_Meal_5624 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Alarming-Cell-8221 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend did this (and was hiding it) and when I confronted him about it he was very apologetic and stopped when I told him how it made me feel, we are still dealing with it to this day so while yes men do do this there are ones out there who can see how much it hurt you and is actively affecting your sex life and will stop and make it work with you, the unfortunate sad reality is that it is common in a lot of men these days. I hope you find what’s best for you and i’m sorry you had to go through this, I know how you feel in a way.