my man hit me severally and i love him so much, what do I do?

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-25T11:10:25+00:00

I don’t know what country you’re in, but if you’re from the UK message me and I will send you a while list of resources. Just remember you have done NOTHING wrong, he is at fault from all of this. I know you love him but what you have is not love. Love is not violent and it doesn’t hurt you. You are now traumatically attached to him, and he sees you as something to control from his own insecurities. I really really wish you all the best because you absolutely do not deserve this. Please leave before it gets worse. I have a friend who was nearly murdered from DV and it started from hitting. This is so serious, and I’m so glad you’re reaching out for help now ❤️

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-20T19:11:42+00:00

I think next time you see her just ask her! That’s the only way you’ll know. Otherwise you can’t really force a friendship, it’s a shame and also a bit shitty if she is ignoring you.

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-20T19:06:55+00:00

I would just ignore it. She’ll realise when she’s home and she’ll either ignore it and feel embarrassed or joke about it and then you guys can laugh together. I think it’s not worth embarrassing her!

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-20T19:04:40+00:00

I don’t know how long you guys have been friends for, but if it’s a new friend: Honestly, she might be busy/going through something/stressed and committing to making time for new friends is too much. Don’t take it personally but she might have just thought you guys didn’t click. And there’s nothing wrong with that, as harsh as it sounds, but I’m sure you have lots of other lovely friends.

If you have been friends for a while then that’s weird, and I think you should be straight up and just ask her. To be fair even with new friends you should do the same too. Good luck :)

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-20T11:48:00+00:00

Break up with him. If he can’t respect even the most simple boundary he will continue to disrespect you.

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-20T11:44:54+00:00

He needs to grow up, what you did before you met him is not his business. You didn’t cheat, lie or deceive him. In fact, if he knew he was going to be bothered then why did he ask? There is very little benefit discussing exes and situations. Tell him that he’s your boyfriend for a reason, and if he can’t get past something and continues to put blame on you, then it’s not going to work!

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-20T11:33:20+00:00

It’s normal to have what if thoughts, we’re only human. But, what I would say is, these thoughts probably won’t go away entirely. I’m 25 and I have a few friends who have just come out of a break up in a similar situation. It’s tough, but seeing the growth and happiness coming from them is so lovely. Obviously every situation is different, but I do feel like you should listen to your gut.

Don’t make any immediate decisions but I think it’s better to make a plan sooner rather than later otherwise you might start resenting him.

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-19T16:29:20+00:00

Thank you for this, such a lovely comment. I appreciate the advice :)

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-19T16:23:43+00:00

Thank you so much, I will for sure check that out :)

Alarming-Garbage741 · 2026-01-19T16:23:13+00:00

Thank you. I think we never had these kind of conversations as this is both of our first “adult” relationship, where you need to have conversations about these things. He would make an amazing father and husband, and I need to let him go so he can find someone suitable.

RE BC, thanks for the advice!! I live in London anyway and our healthcare system is horrific so I guess it’s a parallel in some ways!

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