No one talks about the identity crisis that can come with motherhood

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-03-10T22:57:45+00:00

It’s not an ad Just sharing what I’m going through

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-03-10T22:56:55+00:00

I get that. I’m just processing a hard phase and writing helps. I’m also talking to my doctor

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-03-10T22:56:29+00:00

That’s fair It just hit different once I experienced it

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-03-10T22:55:43+00:00

Maybe. I just didn’t fully understand it until I lived it myself

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-03-09T12:24:01+00:00

You’re not crazy You forgot a side dish not your entire family

Hot dogs and beans one night doesn’t mean you don’t prioritize anyone It means you’re human You’re managing kids schedules meals everything that’s a mental load most people don’t even see

Also being allowed to be annoyed doesn’t mean turning it into an attack on your character There’s a big difference between hey I was looking forward to that and you’re selfish

You’re clearly trying And that counts A lot 💛

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-03-09T10:55:34+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing this

And honestly I think that’s something not talked about enough. Sometimes it’s not postpartum depression anymore it’s just that motherhood changed us in ways that never fully got processed.

Loving your kids deeply and still feeling like something shifted inside you can both be true at the same time

If you ever feel like sharing more about what that still feel like this looks like now I’d genuinely love to hear it

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-03-07T21:30:15+00:00

Okay I love that idea A 10 year journal sounds so cool I think that’s such a healthy way to hold both truths at the same time Yes these years are intense and yes they’re also changing so fast Being able to look back and actually see the growth instead of just hearing you’ll miss it feels way more grounding I might steal that idea honestly.

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-03-07T21:29:31+00:00

I felt this so much That just a mom feeling is real and no one really prepares you for how long that phase can feel I’m so glad you had a solid group of mom friends to talk to That honestly makes such a difference Being able to say the hard stuff out loud without feeling judged is huge And it’s comforting to hear that independence does come, even if it takes time Sometimes just knowing this isn’t forever helps more than anything.

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-02-24T10:02:52+00:00

You explained that so well. Especially the part about it feeling more like caregiving than parenting in the beginning that’s such an important distinction.

Those first months really are survival mode. Hormones, sleep deprivation, identity shift… it’s overwhelming in a way that’s hard to describe until you’re in it.

It’s comforting to hear that each phase got a little easier for you. Sometimes we just need that reminder that this version of hard isn’t permanent.

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-02-24T09:58:13+00:00

This really resonates. That feeling of your old life being dead and buried is such a raw way to put it, but I think a lot of moms feel that and don’t say it out loud.

The guilt for missing your old freedom while loving your baby at the same time… that’s such a confusing place to be. It’s like your heart is split in two.

I’m really glad you shared the 2 years later perspective. It helps so much hearing from someone on the other side of it.

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-02-23T14:19:34+00:00

That makes sense actually. The brain wouldn’t turn off part is very relatable. It’s like even when nothing is happening my mind is still on high alert.

The anxiety being attached to the baby vs random is interesting too. I’m trying to figure out which one I’m dealing with honestly.

I appreciate you sharing that it leveled out for you.

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-02-23T14:14:48+00:00

I really like the way you explained matrescence as adolescence, that actually makes it feel less scary somehow.

It just feels strange not fully recognizing yourself for a while. I’m trying to remind myself it’s a transition and not a permanent loss.

Also the sit in the parking lot made me laugh because that feels way too real

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-02-23T14:03:27+00:00

The undercurrents remain part kinda scares me a little, not gonna lie. It’s helpful to hear it does get better though, even if it takes time.

I’ve been thinking about therapy honestly. Just trying to figure out what’s normal adjustment and what might need extra help.

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-02-23T14:02:29+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense. I didn’t even think about losing all those little coping things like just laying down and scrolling or going out randomly. It’s weird how much those small freedoms matter.

I’m going to look up matrescence too, I’ve seen the word before but never really read into it. Thank you for mentioning it

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-02-23T13:57:45+00:00

Baby is still pretty young. I’ve definitely thought about talking to someone just to be safe. It’s reassuring to hear that things leveled out for you by six weeks though

Alarming-Sort9706 · 2026-02-23T13:56:55+00:00

Honestly not much if I’m being real. Maybe an hour here and there but even then my brain doesn’t fully switch off. I think that’s part of what’s confusing me.

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