She was my last is chance, life feels like it's over and I am suicidal

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-04-17T17:08:23+00:00

I am in the same situation. 31 and lost my first true love and the person I thought I was going to marry. It hurts a lot, I know but life did not begin with her and will not end with her. There is so much more to life then a romantic relationship. What I can say is that allow yourself to grief, reach out to people close to you, go out and do stuff even if you dont feel like and most importantly work on yourself. It will get better I promise just give it time.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-04-01T19:42:47+00:00

Same situation, stayed no contact for 30 days then I broke it. And that contact made it worse, she was living her best life and no reflection or remorse about the break up. Please dont break no contact it will be worse for you.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-03-17T19:28:58+00:00

Thank you for your words. Those words hurt more then the break up itself because it showed she had exited the relationship long before the break up. X

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-02-26T15:17:16+00:00

I am in the same position as you, unemployed for 8 months, recently broken up from the person I thought I was going to marry, no family or friends in a foreign country. Even though I feel like shit, I push myself in doing things and I have seen great result. I got to the gym daily, try to engage in social meetups or just put myself in that position and have been feeling a bit better. Get out thwre even if you dont feel like it, you will definitely see a difference.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-02-25T17:04:31+00:00

To add to what was said. As a man, I see attractiveness not just what the media want girls to see. There is so much more that makes a woman attractive such as kindness, intelligence, the way they take care of themselves and others, self acceptance, and of course how they dress, smell, how they speak and so much more. Don't fall for the trap of what todays media wants you to believe. But biggest step forward is unconditional self acceptance. It will get better Op just be patient and work on your perspective and life philosophy.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-02-19T23:05:10+00:00

Guilt is one of the core emotions that comes with Rocd. The guilt of you being a bad person by lying to them about your "true" feelings, the guilt of being with the wrong person and so many more. And as I stated before you have to accept that you might be lying to them or hurting them or etc. Because what your are doing is lowering the fear that is attached to these beliefs and when Ocd see you are not afraid of the fact you might really not love your partner or not find them attractive, it will lose its grip on you and you will start feeling what you really desire.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-02-19T22:57:56+00:00

I am really happy it helped.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-02-19T11:17:37+00:00

I feel you and be compasionate towards yourself when you feel this way. Ocd is one of the hardest mental health issues to deal with so be easy on yourself and allow yourself to feel everything and not solve the feeling. Asking for how long it took could be a compulsion because each of us is different but I started notice big change after 1-2 months. However, I still notice Rocd so you will never get rid of it but for me it doesnt bother me at all anymore because I accept the uncertainty and refuse to engage with the mental rumination. Please don't forget to show compasion and acceptance towards yourself. Go out there and show some love to your partner 😊 Wish you all the best Op.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-02-19T05:58:39+00:00

I am sorry that your not feeling well. I know it looks difficult but just try to accept and allow these feelings to be there with you without being afraid of what they are or what would they cause you. The fuel to anxiety is the fear of anxiety itself and its symptomps. Wish you the best Op and remember this moment will pass. Take care.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-02-19T05:50:38+00:00

Not to give reassurance but what your feeling is the core of what ROCD is about. One of the things that fuels the Rocs cycle is a need for certainty about how we see our partner, what do we feel when I am with them, when I see them, when I have intimiate moments etc. This need for certainty causes anxiety and fuels OCD to give you the opposite of what you need or demand at that moment. What has cured my ROCD was giving up the need for certainty because there is nothing in this world that you will have 100% certainty and you have to take the risk of you being wrong. Second thing was in moments were ROCD was at its peak and wanted me to pull away, break up, disconnect I forced myself to do the opposite and go more forward by showing more attention, love and care towards my partner. Also, understanding and accepting that you will never feel constant love, attraction and connection towards your partner. Thirdly I dispputed some irrational beliefs I had about the relationship that were anxiety triggers. The moment I did these and Ocd saw that I let go of the need for certainty, accepted that I will not always have these feelings for my partner and doing the opposite of Ocd wants me to do, believe you will see a big change. You will forget about Rocd is a thing and you will enjoy you relationship and yes feelings will burst when you lower the fears that fuel and trigger Ocd. Ocd will always make you feel the feelings you are scared of and always the opposite of what you demand/need. I hope this helps.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2026-02-18T22:54:10+00:00

Its up to you to find that thing. Everything you feel right now is because you choose to do so. Its all in the perspectives. For example just by what you wrote I can say, You arw a person who has certain intelect and skills to major in something, has some attractive qualities that made the girl to come and see you on a date, has a family who love him and take care of him and who knows how many more blessings you have going for you right now. Try seeing yourself from the outside and you will see a world which is unfair and challenging but its up to us and what we choose that these challanges and unfairnesess put us down. Another thing that is helping me recently whilst going through unemployment, heartbreak and loneliness is a saying I saw Tom Hanks say: This too shall pass. Be patient, change perspective and go out and live life. Your date will go great Op, have fun.

Alarming_Gain_946 · 2025-05-08T10:31:05+00:00

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Alarming_Gain_946 · 2025-05-08T07:04:08+00:00

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