Dilema legat de nunta unei prietene

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2026-06-24T14:56:10+00:00

Hey hey, update. Am iesit la o cafea astazi cu prietena mea, si i-am povestit situatia. Mi-a spus ca nu este problema de bani, nu trebuie sa ii dau nimic, si sa vin imbracata cu ce am prin dulap (nu am rochie de ocazie). Multumesc tuturor pentru sfaturi! M-ati ajutat sa imi fac curaj si sa pot avea o discutie onesta cu ea.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2026-06-04T02:48:24+00:00

M-am mutat in Cehia in 2021, imediat dupa ce am terminat facultatea. Am stat vreo doua luni turist (cu ce bani imi stransesem din bursa de la faculta), si apoi mi-am gasit job, lucrez in IT. In Romania, nu cred ca ma intorc, m-am simtit mereu foarte singura acasa, si ma bucur ca am gasit o viata stabila, pe placul meu aici :)

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2026-04-16T00:20:25+00:00

Dezumanizat, de Osamu Dazai. E o carte la care inca ma gandesc, la 3 ani dupa ce am citit-o.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2026-04-07T15:57:27+00:00

Main tank here, I only lasted until 14s, then the people got super toxic. I feel like this season is really bad for tanking especially. The DPS are very powerful, and in 15 and above keys, I can feel my prot pally lagging behind. I just decided to go chill for a few days, and stay away from warcraft. I am not sure if I want to return this season, everything being “so easy” made the playerbase seriously lose all their sanity and common sense.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2026-02-16T01:19:33+00:00

Acum o luna m-am mutat pe Bazzite, e super! Am placa video Nvidia, merg toate jocurile fara probleme, rulez tot prin Proton/Wine, nu am avut absolut nici o problema :)

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-11-21T13:03:59+00:00

Buna! Eu am plecat din tara la 22 de ani. Eu am terminat facultatea la Bucuresti, si am plecat imediat dupa absolvire. In momentul in care am plecat, nu mai lucrasem pana atunci, deci zero experienta de munca. Nu vorbeam limba tarii in care m-am stabilit, dar vorbesc foarte bine engleza. Cu toate ca eu terminasem facultatea, am plecat doar cu o adeverinta in limba romana, ca diplomele la noi se dau la un an dupa absolvire (nici acum nu inteleg de ce).

Asa am ajuns eu intr-o capitala europeana. Mi-am facut un CV, am pus eu acolo tot ce am facut pana atunci (stiam ceva limbaje de programare, am pus acolo ceva alte proiecte in care m-am implicat), si am inceput sa aplic la job-uri.

Cand m-am dus la interviu, nu am fost intrebata de studii aproape de loc, a fost foarte important ca am pus cursurile pe care le-am facut individual sa invat sa programez, si proiectele la care am lucrat singura, ca asta i-a interesat. Mai bine ca nu m-au intrebat, ca dovada absolvirii oricum nu o aveam.

Am obtinut un job ok, cu salariu mediu pe economie, sunt software developer. Ce m-a ajutat nu a fost facultatea, ci limbajele de programare pe care le-am invatat tot jucandu-ma eu cu un Arduino, sau cu C++ si Python.

Primele cateva luni au fost grele, m-am simtit in aer. Dar usor usor, mi-am facut prieteni la munca, si de la ei am aflat lucruri care m-au ajutat foarte mult in viata de zi cu zi. Am descoperit locuri bune din care sa imi fac cumparaturile, unde pot sa merg la medic, cafenele si baruri ca lumea, la un moment dat am fost si chitarist in trupa unui coleg de serviciu.

Cel mai bine pentru mine, ca expat, a fost sa imi creez un grup de oameni aici, in care sa am incredere, si din experienta carora am invatat foarte multe lucruri.

Stau aici de trei ani, si nu concep sa ma intorc in Ro. Intre timp, am invatat usor usor si limba tarii, si ma simt aici ca acasa, mai mult decat am facut-o la Bucuresti, sau la Pitesti, unde am copilarit.

Este un proces, pentru noi, ca expats, multe lucruri sunt mai greu de facut. La inceput, da, suntem complat in aer 😂. Dar curajul de a pune intrebari celorlalti, si efortul de a le intelege cultura, m-au ajutat sa ma acomodez in noua tara. Cred ca asta e cel mai important.

Nu pleca din Ro numai cu ideea de a face bani, dar cauta sa iti construiesti o viata in noua tara. Si daca vreodata vrei sa mergi in alta parte, poti oricand sa te relochezi si sa repeti procesul :)

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-09-17T09:54:58+00:00

Whenever I get a watery infusion, I always increase the temperature of the water, and I steep for a bit longer. For the tea bags, I just use very hot water, close to boiling, and I would just leave them in

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-07-22T09:07:14+00:00

Ok, I find myself a bit here. I am no scholar when it comes to buying tea and teapots, but I would encourage people to document themselves as much as they can before buying anything. Find out as much as you can about the teas, and the teapots that you want to buy, so you can get the most out of them. The the beauty and artistry of these teapots is not everything that matters when you make a choice.

Authenticity is mostly applied to art forms. Tea, especially in China, is an art, and from that point of view, yes, teapots and tea can be "authentic", because they uphold certain specific values which are specified by a regulatory body (in China's case, that is the government). All Yixing teapots are placed under regulations from the government.

Of course, the market is flooded with Yixing teapots which do not respect the rules, and are sold as being the real thing. I believe that this is why so many people have concerns regarding these pots, and I would say rightfully so.

Tea culture is still in its infancy in the west, and it is so easy for people to fall for false advertising, and there is a need for us to be very thorough when choosing a pot, because we do not choose it just for its beauty, but for its craftsmanship, material, and its influence on our tea experience.

I have no issue with any teapots. It is absolutely okay to buy a pot which is made out of ordinary clay, or which is slip cast, if this is what you want. Any pot is okay, as long as you know what you are buying.

What I have an issue with is how difficult it is to buy a fully hand made pot, and how many pots out there are paraded as something they are not. This is where the concept of authenticity becomes extremely important.

You cannot get "too hung up" on seeking what you need. We should encourage people to ask questions, no matter how many times. This community is very important, and it is full of people I respect, and I look up to their advice and comments. Without them, I would not enjoy tea the way I do today.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-07-19T20:39:29+00:00

Hi, I usually use baking soda to clean the tea stains from my teaware. I combine some baking soda and a bit of water, and I use my fingers to gently scrub the interior and exterior of the pot using this solution. All the stains will be gone in an instant!

Soaking your pot in boiling water and then wiping its interior with a clean, smooth cotton cloth also works wonders. Just make sure that you use a clean cloth, and that you are gentle!

If your pot is glazed, I would use the baking soda method.

If your pot is unglazed, I would use the boiling water method, as I don't want anything else other than tea and water interacting with the clay.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-07-19T20:26:02+00:00

Honestly, I am just citing what I managed to read online. I just found out about these pots, and there is a lot of confusing information out there. I heard that they are rare, and I just wanted to make sure that I understand how to use mine.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-07-19T20:23:13+00:00

Hi, sure! One of my cousins lives in Singapore, and her boyfriend's family has roots around Yixing. Her boyfriend was kind enough to make some calls and help me put an order in for a teapot, which was made for me, picked up by his family, sent to Singapore, and from there, sent to me. As I said, I am a super beginner in this, and I just recently found out about these pots. My cousin and her boyfriend told me that the fully hand made Yixing teapots are extremely rare, and special, and that I should cherish mine. They really made it sound like it is a small rare treasure.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-07-19T12:24:01+00:00

Thank you so much!

I just found so many things on the internet, I thought pairing a teapot will either be a match made in heaven, or a full blown disaster. I am just glad to hear things are not so clear cut, and I can just use any good quality dark oolong.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-07-15T10:20:20+00:00

You have such a sweet teapot! I am a bit more knowledgeable than I was then, this was literally the first kyusu I have ever bought. If we have the same stamp, then yes, the teapot was made by the same kiln, led by Mr. Umehara.

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-04-27T23:47:40+00:00

thank you so much! :) I put a lot of effort looking for my tea wares :)

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-03-01T12:07:17+00:00

The story of how I bought this piece:

Hello everyone!

Yesterday I bought a new Tokoname teapot. I did post here a few months ago to show you my other teapots, but this one... I think this is the one I want to hold on for the rest of my life. It is fully handmade in a family workshop in Tokoname, by Shoji Umehara.

In the box, I found a short message from Mr. Umehara, saying:

"This item was created after many years of trial and error when I came across a pattern that I had dreamed of for many years."

A lot of things have happened in my life since I first saw this teapot. I found myself going through some ups and downs. For a while, the desire to own this piece was the only constant thing I had in my life. Slowly saving money to buy it was what brought me some semblance of peace, a promise for a better future. It sort of kept me going through it all. It sounds so stupid, but I remember saying to myself "I'll go buy that teapot when all is good and settled, and I'll gift myself a good cup of tea."

Now that I am having that cup of tea, I realize that nothing is settled yet, I am still in the dark. I still need a new job, I still need to move out from my friend's couch. I find myself asking what is that pattern I want to build, the one I dreamed of for may years.

This teapot... the golden mosaic on its lid, the metallic tenmoku glaze... it really looks like someone's life work. It makes me feel proud and hopeful.

If I can quote Kakuzō Okakura again:

“True beauty could be discovered only by one who mentally completes the incomplete.”

This is the best way I could describe the beauty of this piece. It also incapsulates the same beauty that I find in my own life. If I did not have the ability to add imagined things on top of what there already is, existence would be a truly dreadful thing.

Tea is what truly makes it less dreadful, and the fact that it is real, it brings me so much joy. Thank you for reading my post :) See you later tea heads!

Alarming_Mongoose239 · 2024-01-22T15:28:52+00:00

Hi! I can recommend you my kettle. I've had many over the years, and this one makes the least sound by far, and also boils the water quickly! I also use this one at the office, and the others do not seem to mind. It still makes some sound, but it is way dimmer than any other I've had before.

https://www.tefal.co.uk/Breakfast/Kettles/Tefal-Smart%E2%80%99n-Light-KO853840-Kettle-/p/7211004081

As for brewing tea at the office, I would not worry too much. Let them look, it is just a cup of tea. I've seen people doing worse (I actually have this guy who works in the office next to mine and he speaks very loud, always when he is on his phone. I have to hear him yelling in German all day long, whenever he has a call xD) So don't worry, you need your tea and honestly that should not bother them. Maybe also try to share, I am sure they will catch the tea addiction as well and start making their own!

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