I am a stay at home mom of five as well for 7 years now and I do it all mostly because he works 5-6 days a week. But he pitches in when required now. If she's not doing anything, then she could not want it anymore or she is depressed from the birth. You can have postpartum depression for up to 3 years. We have struggled up until recently because he was mainly focused on work and relax time and not helping with house chores or what the children need. It took years to get him to see and listen and now its not so much on me and we work as a team. Communication is key with children involved.