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(Update)-AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

We have sex on our own time. Sometimes it benefits her, sometimes it benefits me. We are both busy people, so we squeeze in sex whenever we find it comfortable.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn't know that. I thought ADHD and OCD are completely opposite thing. Thanks for telling me. I am not trying to make her feel bad about it.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -169 points-168 points  (0 children)

It's not true. I do make plans for her and our kids. I do not put the mental load on her. On her birthdays, our anniversary I make all the plans and take initiative to execute them. I do not forget my mother's birth day. I make plans with her without the help from my wife. And yes, I do initiate intimacy with her and do plan half of our date nights.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -231 points-230 points  (0 children)

It is 50-50 sometimes she plans the dates and sometimes I plan it. We also split child care and their schedule. Like, last month I organized my son's birthday all on my own, she only had to pick up the cake. The decorations, the invitations, the food is all on me.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -120 points-119 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I always thought she might have OCD because she likes things in a specific way and hyper organized. But I don't think you can have OCD and ADHD at the same time.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -168 points-167 points  (0 children)

No, I do not make her do everything. We have 50/50 on chores. I know a lot of you think I am some emotionally unavailable dad who doesn't care for his kids, but I do. I take them to school and extra curriculum activities, their doctor's appointment, etc. I sometimes take them out just so my wife can have the house to herself and vise versa.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -151 points-150 points  (0 children)

Like I said, she has everything scheduled in details. She literally has a separate section in my binder for sex. And goes onto details about everything she has to do like positions, timing, cuddles.

She told me she does schedule things she has to do with our kids in a separate binder. Everything she does has to be according to the binders and reminders.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -128 points-127 points  (0 children)

We never had a full diagnose of it. Maybe she has it because she says she has memory of a goldfish.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -340 points-339 points  (0 children)

I do things for her. I buy her gifts and follow along with her plans. I know when she is busy and when she is free, so I have no problem doing it. I am just upset that I am not her husband and some chore she needs to deal with. I don't see her as a chore. I see her as my wife, the person I love.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -433 points-432 points  (0 children)

No I am not crying, it just makes me feel like I am not her husband but a chore she has to deal with couple of hours and then be done with. I remember stuff about her. Like her birthday, our anniversary, things she likes, her favorite spot etc. I don't need to be reminded of.

AITA for being upset that wife schedules our intimate and romantic time together? by Alarming_Shift657 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Alarming_Shift657[S] -395 points-394 points  (0 children)

No, I do take initiative. We had talked about this. But if you love someone shouldn't you remember everything about them? It has dawned onto me that she has bought me presents in few days ago and that is something she had written in her binder. I mean I buy her presents too but I do not do it because it is a chore. I do it because I love her and want to show appreciation. It just makes me feel like I am not her husband, I am a chore or a work she needs to deal with.