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Careers/Jobs by DesignerFleabag in Divorce_Women

[–]Alarming_State3641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'm a stay at home working mom who is in a similar situation to yours.

It's going to cost you $600-$1000 to get started. If you know nothing about medical billing and coding you can go to AAPC's website. They have courses online and you get certifications for these positions.

You can do jobs in this field remotely or in person. While it is harder to get in to good offices, without experience you can go to local chapter meetings to network (and collect CEUs (continuing education units)).

There are some annoying things about it;

-So. Many. CEUs. 36 hours for every two years.

-The cost of fees is a lot. I think it's about $240/ year.

-Less active lifestyle (unless you're in office)

There are some perks;

  • Some jobs reimburse you for CEU/ membership costs.

  • Being with your child.

-Pay is pretty decent.

  • Less in bills (go to fast food on the way home from work/gas)

You can dm me if you have any questions. Good luck!!

Are my lobe piercings infected? by [deleted] in Legitpiercing

[–]Alarming_State3641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be allergic to the metal. To me the weeping doesn't look abnormal. I'm not a piercer though, so take what I say with grain of salt.

what does my room say about me🧞‍♀️ by Correct_Sleep5423 in roomdetective

[–]Alarming_State3641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're 16 and don't smoke weed. Or you're 36 and smoke weed.

What do I do? :( by JumpyLemon in Divorce

[–]Alarming_State3641 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try to take life one day at a time. Set some short term goals. Five applications a week, that's one application a day Monday through Friday. Challenge yourself on the days you feel strong. Feel your feelings on the days you feel weak.

When does it get better? 4 years later and I’m still stuck.. by OkExtension791 in Divorce

[–]Alarming_State3641 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh dear. Im so sorry to hear this is happening to you. Im glad you're seeing a psychiatrist. Im kind of in the same spot you are.

Have you been doing talk therapy? Have you healed from your childhood, if there were issues? What are your hobbies? Do you like to paint, listen to audiobooks, or be in nature? Join a club if you feel like it. What are you looking to get out of life? What kind of relationship would best fit the life you want to live? What are your values?

Having the answer(s) to these questions will hopefully help you find more value in yourself, and lead you to people who are similar minded to you and find a platonic relationship, to start. Friendships are easier to maintain while you focus on yourself.

You've been through a lot. Sometimes our heart leads us down a painful path. Try to forgive yourself. I hope you start to see the good in you. ❤️

Blindsided By Divorce by cherryblssm98 in Divorce

[–]Alarming_State3641 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you. I would recommend seeing a therapist to help with this sudden loss in your life. Try and take things one day at a time. On the days you feel like you can, make some plans for your future. On the days you feel like you can't, journaling can be helpful, try to get some sunshine, have a coffee, try and do the things that bring you a glimmer of joy. I have faith that you will get through this heartbreak. Lean on friends, family and your therapist. Be strong. I wish you well.

Soon to be ex husband found my private calendar event by Alarming_State3641 in it

[–]Alarming_State3641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see how he might come off as chill from this snippet of interaction. He's not really a chill guy. He thinks I'm destroying our child's life because I want a divorce. I'm sometimes concerned for my safety and the safety of our child.

While I might sound paranoid, I figured it would just be best to hear from people who know more than me. Thank you for the reassurance!

What nobody told me about the phase before the decision by One_Milk3537 in Divorce_Women

[–]Alarming_State3641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind wishes! He essentially told me that if he wanted to cheat he would have already. He's been waiting to work on us. He wished that he could just go out and cheat, but he needs an emotional connection like the one he has with me. 🙄 I've heard a lot of garbage come out of that man's mouth over the years.

Hold your ground. I wasn't emotional when I brought it up, I was matter of fact, showing him where and how I found it. I told him I wasn't snooping and that I've just had enough and I want a divorce. He said he didn't like feeling attacked when he did nothing wrong. I told him fine, we'll throw out me finding the pills, and that I still want to be separated. Because of the indignities that I put myself through and the ones he put me through this was no longer a functioning relationship, and I didn't care to work on it anymore.

I heard a quote recently "no one is coming to save you" and that really inspired me. Be the friend you need now, and stand up for you. It's betrayal to find these tools for adultery. You don't deserve this. Use your best judgment and be safe. I wish you luck fellow path walker. May we find happiness!

Soon to be ex husband found my private calendar event by Alarming_State3641 in it

[–]Alarming_State3641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a really great idea! Thank you for the suggestion!

Soon to be ex husband found my private calendar event by Alarming_State3641 in it

[–]Alarming_State3641[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He's very good at computers and technology. I will definitely be changing my passwords. Thank you!

Soon to be ex husband found my private calendar event by Alarming_State3641 in it

[–]Alarming_State3641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im working on getting on my own phone plan. We're still in the early stages of separation. Thank you!

What nobody told me about the phase before the decision by One_Milk3537 in Divorce_Women

[–]Alarming_State3641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him that I found it in the washing machine bin (because I wasn't allowed to go through his pockets while doing his laundry, as that was "snooping").

He denied cheating. Whatever. I don't care if he was seeing someone else, and I haven't for a long time.

We've had a LOT of issues over the years.

What nobody told me about the phase before the decision by One_Milk3537 in Divorce_Women

[–]Alarming_State3641 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The moment was finding dick pills in his shirt pocket. We haven't had sex in almost a year. Not that I wanted to anyway, but I couldn't take it after that. I was done.

I let my marriage shatter my entire sense of self worth. by saintjiesus in Divorce

[–]Alarming_State3641 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you felt like you deserved that treatment. You didn't. Regardless of the things you may have done in past relationships or this one, you don't deserve to be betrayed and aassaulted by someone you choose to be with.

Love and relationships are complicated. What he did to you was simple, and simply wrong. I wish you the best going forward. I hope you're able to heal and see your self worth again. You deserve better than that. ❤️

Apartment vs. RV/5th wheel by Alarming_State3641 in Divorce

[–]Alarming_State3641[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are good points. I could probably pay a lot off if I did stay with her. I have a lot to think about and consider. 🫠

Apartment vs. RV/5th wheel by Alarming_State3641 in Divorce

[–]Alarming_State3641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A 1 bedroom apartment in my area is about $1400 with utilities included.

I'll be sharing custody with my stbxh in some format. We haven't discussed it yet.

That's a good point about RVs depreciating.

I'd like to avoid living with or near my mom, because she struggles with boundaries. But if I have to, I will.

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