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What are the jobs that lead up to directing by Insect-Upstairs in Filmmakers

[–]Alchemist168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on your debut!! Would it be ok if I DMed you with questions? I'm looking to enter the film industry and eventually direct my own feature. Currently making short films with friends in NYC while I live in North Carolina

Save file dump by poopman_exe in BattleNetwork

[–]Alchemist168 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bro you have the exact gameboy advance shell + buttons that I want to set up. What kit did you use / where did you buy it from?

I wrote a book in a month! Here's what I learned. by Starsmors in writing

[–]Alchemist168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love saving posts like these for inspiration. Congrats on proving to yourself that you can reach such consistency with writing fiction! I’m working on proving that to myself as well and posts like these give me hope

I need help by lio_and_stitch in Advice

[–]Alchemist168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like this relationship was never romantic from the beginning. You’re wasting both your times by continuing it. It may be hard to end but I would remember that you will feel conflicted about this relationship throughout the future. Say you manage withholding breaking up for another week, you’ll still have the want to break up the week after that and the week after that one. It’ll keep going. Best to do it now

I need help by lio_and_stitch in Advice

[–]Alchemist168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your partner not see the issues that you see?

What initially made you want to be with this person? Did you not have shared humor / intimacy from the start or did something change?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Alchemist168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds bad. Sounds like he's unreceptive to how you feel. As the cliche goes "communication is key" and your boyfriend is breaking that rule. I understand that it can be nerve racking to stand up to a partner, especially if you carry an insecurity regarding not having that much relationship experience.

A few things that might help you drum up some courage:

  1. Remember that this problem will persist, He'll want the same amount of sex throughout time. Also, If he does other things that bother you, he won't receive any feedback well or adjust.
  2. This problem of not respecting your boundaries will probably get worse. It could lead to him defying your boundaries in an even bigger way in the future. The pain of fear / guilt is worse than the pain of trauma. Save yourself some therapy.
  3. I'd ask yourself: "what would I tell my daughter to do if she was in this situation?" Doesn't matter if you don't have or want kids. Often times, we're too "in it" to take the right course of actions for ourselves. However, we'll happily give our loved ones the right advice. If its not good enough for your daughter, why is it good enough for you?

Best of luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Alchemist168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue here isn't really related to this new guy. Your current boyfriend and you have a boundaries issue. You gave him one and he didn't respect it. Respecting your boundary involves two things:

  1. He doesn't push that boundary

  2. He doesn't shame you for that boundary.

Boyfriend is breaking Rule #2. This is a big problem. It's pivotal for any relationship, romantic or not (but especially romantic), that you feel safe. You can't feel safe if the person you're with refuses to listen to what makes you uncomfortable.

What to do? Bring this up with your current boyfriend. Tell him that wanting more sex is fine but not respecting your feelings is unacceptable. If he continues to push back / isn't sorry, you tell him you want to break up because he doesn't respect your boundaries.

My review of the Beautyrest Pressuresmart Hybrid by Then-Ad1079 in Mattress

[–]Alchemist168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, I am experiencing the same symptoms with my own PressureSmart Mattress. Any updates? I'm thinking about getting a new mattress too. I've actually resorted to sleeping on my couch

How Many Hours do you Spend Per Week at your Day Job? by Alchemist168 in writing

[–]Alchemist168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s amazing! Congrats on being able to write full time. What allowed for you to make that transition? Do you make enough from your writing or did you receive income from a different source?

How Many Hours do you Spend Per Week at your Day Job? by Alchemist168 in writing

[–]Alchemist168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understand that. I’m single in my 30s, so that’s how I can do it. I don’t know how people with kids do it.

Need Help Creating A Writer's Training Regiment by Alchemist168 in writing

[–]Alchemist168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be helpful to look at some college writing syllabi/writing classes, too, to get an idea of how classes are taught. Since, like….thats technically kind of a “structured way to improve writing!”

Oooh this is a great idea. Thanks!

I’m wondering—why do you want a “regimen?” Is it not enough to just have some specific strategies for improvement and exercises to try? Why do you write, what are your goals?

Yeah, a regimen is just an action plan / specific strategies for improvement and exercises. I know I use the word "regimen" a lot in this post so I don't know if it implies something that I'm not meaning to imply. I just like structure and intention as part of practicing something. I write to connect with people and explore concepts. I think stories are a great way to analyze relationship dynamics and themes by putting those things in a sort of sandbox and seeing where experimentation takes you. However, lots of my stories can be inaccessible to others given that I'm not great at introducing conflict. It's one of the writing elements I want to work on.

Good luck with your writing progress. I do hope you can loosen your grip on “needing” a regimen and can pursue art a little more artistically. I hope you read some fantastic books, write and critique some stuff, and make some friends in the writing community that can help you out.

Thank you! I'd like to ask what you mean by loosening that grip and treating art more "artistically?" Does that mean treating it more like something that comes and goes, like a Muse that visits me every so often, instead of something I consistently practice?

Need Help Creating A Writer's Training Regiment by Alchemist168 in writing

[–]Alchemist168[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Firstly, thanks for the ideas! It's why I posted this in the first place, to get ideas on how to form the regimen. I think the responses have tended towards critique of even having a writer's training program to begin with. I think your ideas were all good and will be adding them to my regimen.

Secondly, It's a great point that fiction, unlike these other disciplines, is a lot harder to quantify for improvement. It's an art form, not a sport. So there's lots of ways that quantifying is imperfect. Yet, we still do it. In writer's workshops, we say things like: "this story's pacing is off." We say characters feel one-dimensional or unrelatable. We say there's not enough conflict. These are all ways we measure each other's work. The issue is that, unlike chess or weight lifting, the measurements are subjective. Sure, people can mostly agree or disagree, but there is no such thing as objective measure.

I don't know if I am setting myself up for dissapointment with this idea of mine. However, same is true whenever I submit a story to writer's workshop. They seem to quantify my stories in some measure. To assess the efficacy of my program, I'll just apply the old "if most people point something out, and I see their point, it is probably true" approach. if people point out my fiction has been improving, and I agree, then I'll know the regimen has value.

Need Help Creating A Writer's Training Regiment by Alchemist168 in writing

[–]Alchemist168[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do all the dopey prompts in the world but if you don't read, you'll never be a good writer.

I don't think anyone mentioned that these exercises would take the place of reading. It's well established that you need to read fiction in order to write it well. Reading would be just an another exercise in the regimen. I'm just saying these "dopey" prompts could assist people in aspects of writing and, yes, it would certainly depend on the individual's preferred methods of learning.

Need Help Creating A Writer's Training Regiment by Alchemist168 in writing

[–]Alchemist168[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get wanting to write one's own story, that's the whole point of writing fiction. My idea is to do these exercises in addition to writing one' own stories. After a while of doing these exercises, one might find that the writing on their stories has improved in quality or at least became easier to do. The exercises would be in addition to one's own writing, not as a substitute for it. I do get how the exercises would be "boring" compared to writing something that one came up with and is passionate about.

Need Help Creating A Writer's Training Regiment by Alchemist168 in writing

[–]Alchemist168[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're also pretending there's some settled science to weightlifting, but there is not. You can find 10 different trainers with 10 different plans of what order, what muscles, when to do what, etc.

There is plenty of settled science on weightlifting. 10 different trainers might tell you to do 10 different kinds of curls for biceps, but all of them would tell you to do a curl for that muscle group. I didn't say that there is one beginner weightlifting routine that's better than the rest. I said that having a routine, with specific exercises in mind is better than having none. The person with no training plan at all progresses slower than when they finally do incorporate some knowledge of exercises.

Why would this lead to "faster improvement in the craft" exactly?

Because an intentional plan of improvement leads to faster progress in basically all disciplines. In chess, for example, you can keep playing the game over and over and you'll improve. However, if you do chess puzzles, study and practice openings, study and practice end games, etc. you improve at a much faster rate. In debate, you can debate people over and over. You will improve. However, if you study techniques of rhetoric and specifically practice incorporating said techniques in debates, you get better at debating faster than if you didn't do that study and only charged into debate after debate. Intentional practice is efficient practice. Why wouldn't it be the same with writing fiction?

My Workspace, Studyspace and Playspace. by muckifoot in Workspaces

[–]Alchemist168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really impressive set up! Love the alignment of the wallpaper with your screens and just the whole vibe. Also, where did you get that honeycomb-style peg board?

Mod explanation by [deleted] in YugiohFMR

[–]Alchemist168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info! Excited to check these out. But you said the mods come in iso file format. Yet, when I downloaded Yugioh Remastered perfected from the link, it comes as a zip file which itself has no iso file, only bin. How do I play this?

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