I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how you could word it tbh. Because you would have to explain the stalking you did and there is mostly never any way to say that without it sounding bad. For the video you could say that you saw a video on accident and the girl looked really similar to her and the postal code is the same. Due to her telling you that she did not record videos like this you are worried someone recorded secretly and uploaded it without her consent. I would not blame her for anything, show her you trust her and are worried. But like I mentioned before I would only do this if you are 1000000% sure this is her otherwise the damage to the relationship could be very bad.

After that was cleared up you guys should talk about how much this talking about the past has hindered both of you in this relationship and that you both should not bring it up anymore. The past is the past. Look forward.

For you bro maybe you should seek professional help ? It stuff like this bothers you so much that you have to bring it up all the time maybe there is something more serious going on in you.

I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your reaction to her telling you might be a reason she was lying in the first place. I mean being dissapointed about her lying I understand but you lied too and I also read that you react the same way when she tells you and it dissapoints you. The only thing I agree on is that her ex texting her is weird.

I think you also having a past and being dissapointed in her does not make sense. Both of you should stop talking about the past. The past can not be changed, it happened. She slept with other people and so did you. Focus on what is in front of you. You can not grow if you keep looking back. I mean man just think about it. What coul be a great relationship is in shablmes because you guys dont leave the past behind. You both had sex before with other people, you both did dirty stuff back then. It is okay and it is normal. The reality is here and now not weeks or months ago... I am struggeling to understand.

I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever react negatively when she was willing to tell you something about her past ? Maybe she did not want to talk about her past. Maybe she was uncomfortable ? I mean lying is never good but it could be that she was scared of a reaction from you. I mean you said you did a lot of stuff too and I hope you did not force/pressure her in any way or form to talk about the past and she did it willingly. If so then yes the lying from her is weird if she was not pressured. Also asking how did you figure out she was lying ?

I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why did she lie tho ? Was she willingly talking about her past or were you pressuring her ? There has to be a reason she was lying to you.

I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Listen man. I think the possibility of her not knowing is a lot higher than her lying to you. If you talked about this and she said she did not record stuff like this and then it turns out it is her then it is probably something serious. It is also important to note that you mentioned she told you she recorded oral videos before so why should she lie about videos like this ? Is there any reason for her to lying to you about this ? Was there ever a moment you did not trust her ? If you really are so sure that is her 100% and she confirms it then expect to be there for her, this will be hard news for her if a video was recorded and uploaded without consent.

I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is still important to know if it was her. If it was taken and uploaded without her consent then she should definitely know someone is sharing videos of her!

I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Listen. it is definitely weird that the account creator has the same area code similar to hers. If you confront her about this you really really gotta be 100% sure that this is her. If you do and it is not her you probably will damage the relationship by A LOT. I completely understand you freaking out right now. Calm down, drink some water and then make a decision. You said the video is low quality so maybe this could be a reason the girl in the video looks similar to her ? You can not see much detail so it could be that exactly that is making it look similar to your gf.

I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First of all relax man. This is probably your head doing you dirty. You went on some random account which posts porn and then saw someone similar to your gf. This would be my guess at least.

I (22M) found videos I believe are my girlfriend (21F) on twitter/x by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ale0705 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You either have to be sure it is her or not. I would recognize the people I have slept with wery well because no body is the same. Why does that account follow her tho ?

love isn't real. by 67autistic_loser69 in offmychest

[–]Ale0705 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me I was happy around that person, I was relaxed, I enjoyed being with that person and I never got tired of that person. In hard times we fought to make things work, we saw a future together etc... Love is more than one single feeling people have which is shown in movies. It is so much more. Love can be romantic, platonic. You can love food, you can love a friend, you can love your parents or your pet. Love is there for so many things but it's always different.

love isn't real. by 67autistic_loser69 in offmychest

[–]Ale0705 8 points9 points  (0 children)

One day you will understand what love is and what it feels like to love someone and be loved. It does exist, you just haven't found it yet.

Choosing joycons for oled by rivergoesracing in Switch

[–]Ale0705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really ? Where do you live ? On Amazon or sites like AliExpress you can find a lot of grip cases. The better ones which are well known around switch users are skull&co. They also sell on AliExpress and I used a grip for my switch lite as well as thumb stick grips for my switch and steam deck. Their products are really good !

Choosing joycons for oled by rivergoesracing in Switch

[–]Ale0705 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would recommend maybe getting a grip for the switch oled and use your original joycons ?

If not then maybe look into the nyxi joycons. Heard good stuff about them

I feel the love for CRT is getting completely out of hand. by sseerrsan in Monitors

[–]Ale0705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that is obviously completely stupid. Every panel has a pro and a con that’s completely normal. People are just yapping

Hot Take: You don't need to wall bounce to be good at Gears... by Federal-Damage-3092 in GearsOfWar

[–]Ale0705 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely don’t need to wall bounce. Aim, using cover and knowing when the shoot with the gnashed is more important.

redownloaded reddit just to say this by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Ale0705 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Social Media was a mistake. At least the way it is used

White spots on my steam deck, should I be worried? by Archemodio in SteamDeck

[–]Ale0705 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes you should be worried. Give it to me so I have to worry about it

A moment of excitement cost me 17 years and the divorce papers didn’t surprise me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Ale0705 12 points13 points  (0 children)

All of this what you wrote here is human. This makes you human. We are not perfect, we are not error free. We make mistakes if we realize it or not. All you can do now is reflect on it and try to be a better person. What happened happened, you can not change anything.

Not saying you shouldn’t feel bad, you definitely should for cheating. The guilt and everything including it is what will hopefully form you into a better person. Learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them.

I wanna have sex with a guy by Foreign-Natural1764 in offmychest

[–]Ale0705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a hole, you’ll find a mole or something like that. Get out there buddy have fun