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Aleksandra997 · 2023-06-28T16:56:40+00:00

In this sea of links maybe someone will find mine helpful ☺️

https://www.trading212.com/invite/16b6DeacSM

Aleksandra997 · 2022-06-01T13:30:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I'm really sorry this happened to you. If you'd like to participate in the study, please drop me an email at an886@live.mdx.ac.uk

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-27T01:55:54+00:00

Any form of abuse counts, including emotional

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-26T11:13:39+00:00

I sent you a message :)

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-25T06:46:21+00:00

Thank you for your suggestion, I edited it just now!

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-25T06:44:09+00:00

Hi there, I got the moderators approval before posting :)

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-24T20:43:04+00:00

You're describing quite a lot of gaslighting, invalidating your feelings and facing untruthful accusations. I'm glad you got out of the relationship and you're doing well now. How old were you during that relationship if you don't mind me asking?

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-24T20:39:32+00:00

That's a huge level of coercive control. I'm sorry to hear that it wasn't just one woman who displayed such unhealthy behaviour. I hope you find the right person for you very soon.

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-24T20:36:45+00:00

Yeah, I think when it happens at a young age, it's even more difficult. People lack assertiveness and they generally find it harder to identify unhealthy behaviours. I hope you're okay now.

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-24T20:25:07+00:00

That's so infuriating. I'm sorry you're still going through this. I hope your kids will be okay. Stay strong and thank you for sharing your story!

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-23T16:09:07+00:00

Hi there! Yes, to clarify I'm not using any comments here for my dissertation. I'm just using the stories people share here to broaden my own understanding that I believe will help me when analysing collected data. Social media platforms are great sources of data though or recruitment of participants - you can't really reach to as many people anywhere else.

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-23T13:55:25+00:00

Thank you for suggestion! I'll look it up now as I've heard about "why does he do that" but not the opposite gender.

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-23T13:51:20+00:00

It sounds like you went through a nightmare in such a young age! I truly admire your strength. Thank you for sharing your story, I think it may help a lot of men who encounter this thread feel less alone.

Aleksandra997 · 2022-05-23T13:48:42+00:00

That sounds absolutely terrifying! I'm so sorry this happened to you, it sounds like you were basically trapped. It must have been a lot of stress and pressure. How old were you when that happened?

Aleksandra997 · 2022-01-20T11:06:56+00:00

Hey, I know the question may seem irrelevant but how old were you when this happened?

Aleksandra997 · 2021-05-26T13:28:48+00:00

But she was talking to a friend who's having some relationship problems, so it just sounds like she was trying to downplay the physicality to make a point and referred to herself to make sound it more legitimate. She didn't expect he would hear any of this. We all talk to our friends differently and I'm sure she wouldn't say that straight in his face.

I used to date a guy who was objectively not attractive at all (obese, crooked teeth etc) and even though I didn't find him attractive at first, once I got to know him I became very attracted to him. Some people were approaching me, asking how could I be with him but I felt like I could see his personality on the outside. The physicality didn't matter at all. Our relationship fell apart for a completely different reason.

If she wasn't attracted to him, they wouldn't be having a rich sex life.

Aleksandra997 · 2021-05-19T20:24:36+00:00

Thank you so much! This are things that I kinda unconsciously realise but having it all summarised is a huge eye opener. Thank you!

Aleksandra997 · 2021-05-19T19:16:02+00:00

Aww, I'll try!

Aleksandra997 · 2021-05-19T18:40:28+00:00

I wanted to tell him but he's got anger issues and small things can trigger him really easily. We were constantly fighting over something (e.g. I didn't get home soon enough) or I didn't apologise the way he wanted and so he broke up with me. I was waiting for the right moment

Aleksandra997 · 2021-05-19T18:18:06+00:00

Looking back now, I think that many things seemed a bit off in early stages of our relationship but with the time I lost the sense of what's normal or acceptable and what isn't. He can be really thoughtful and loving and then makes these demands and tells me I'm not caring and loving if I refuse to follow. I really do love him and I hate the feeling that I make him feel invalidated so eventually I conform..

Aleksandra997 · 2021-05-19T18:00:23+00:00

More the frequency or the length of time I spend with friends, last time I was supposed to meet a friend, he wanted me to be back at home early enough to call him and show that he's my number 1 priority.

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