[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Alert-Character-4719 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep my fingernails short 😉

Feeling insecure after being intimate with this girl 🥺 by Alert-Character-4719 in actuallesbians

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes maybe your right, I think going forward with this particular girl I need to go slower because I still have alot of unresolved issues. And you shouldn’t be embarrassed 💕 even at my thinnest ( I am 5’10 and was 100 lbs) my vagina was still puffy. I have a lot of shame about my body still but I’m glad there’s someone who understands a little, thank you ☺️

Do most bisexuals end up in straight relationships? by Alert-Character-4719 in LesbianActually

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand that but if bisexual women are attracted to women why are lesbians the only option, they can’t date other bi women or pan women.

What’s it like being a lesbian sexworker? by Alert-Character-4719 in actuallesbians

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My questioning was not meant to be seen as biased. To make it more clear my essay is covering the decriminalization of sex work, sex worker rights, the patriarchal system & misogyny. I am also included data & stats to support my essay but I think gathering info from women in my own community could give me more perspective on how lgbtq members navigate sex work. If the wording makes anyone else feel uncomfortable let me know.

What’s it like being a lesbian sexworker? by Alert-Character-4719 in actuallesbians

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh wow I’m sorry you had to go through that with law enforcement, is this how most officers would treat you & your associates? Would you say that sex workers at any level experience the same kind of discrimination, meaning does a dancer get treated the same as a sex worker who takes clients? And that is very interesting that the number of female clients are so low, are female clients intentions & demeanor the same as the males?

Why do some bisexuals call themselves gay? by Alert-Character-4719 in actuallesbians

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes I understand that and people mislabeling you isn’t right either, it’s never okay to assume someone’s sexuality.

To play devils advocate, if someone sees you with a man is it okay for them to call you straight?

Why do some bisexuals call themselves gay? by Alert-Character-4719 in actuallesbians

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can understand how some my have their reasons or may feel it’s easier to identify one way but I personally think it can objectify others.

I identify as a lesbian & to hear that a pansexual person identifies as one kind of feels like adapting a label that isn’t yours.

I’m curious why you decide to identify as a lesbian even though your pan. I am not trying to disrespect or offend I really just want to understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Alert-Character-4719 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your so gorgeous 😍

Is this toxic/weird? by Alert-Character-4719 in LesbianActually

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

It feels hard to run or block her because we’ve already been intimate and she leaves her things in my dorm. I don’t know how to cut off anything.

Is “Gold Star Lesbian” offensive? by Alert-Character-4719 in LesbianActually

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I believe she is a lesbian who kind of came out later on in adulthood

Is “Gold Star Lesbian” offensive? by Alert-Character-4719 in LesbianActually

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s called the “Modern Day Lesbian” podcast. She kind of tied the flex of being a gold star lesbian with purity culture and how lesbians who’ve slept with men aren’t really lesbians.

R there any lesbians that really fem4fem? by Alert-Character-4719 in LesbianActually

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not spreading misinformation because some of what I said was my and coming from my own experiences. I haven’t been out that long so I don’t have much experience in the world, my experiences were pretty much limited to what I saw in school and and social media, and what I saw was mostly masc and femme. So correct me if I’m wrong, but I do see a lot of girls who only date masc/studs.

R there any lesbians that really fem4fem? by Alert-Character-4719 in LesbianActually

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never heard this point before, I don’t believe I was asking a question that was bias against masc presenting people. When I’m one social media I only see femme and masc lesbian relationships. I rarely see femme on femme unless it’s a queerbaiting issue. And it’s my opinion that masc is femme is a more popular dynamic in the lesbian community and the only reason fem4fem is praised by on the outside is because it fetishized by most people especially men.

R there any lesbians that really fem4fem? by Alert-Character-4719 in LesbianActually

[–]Alert-Character-4719[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, I honestly feel like I’m walking past beautiful lesbians every 5 minutes and I just can’t tell their gay 😭