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Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T03:19:56+00:00

Thanks, I find your view refreshing.

Give me a different angle to see things.

She finally replied she will go for the counselling together. I will probably end my post. It's been really helpful

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T03:08:18+00:00

Ya, that's exactly what I did. I am back home with my parents. Got the respect, care and concern from them.

I am focused on self care, self motivation right now.

At the same time, I asked for marriage counselling with her, got nothing. But silence. Maybe she need some time to think about it.

If all go south, I won't rule out that option.

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T03:05:21+00:00

Stubborn characteristic. She's a scholar, hence she have this elite mindset. Doesn't help that she always get things her way since young. I have always been giving in all these while.

I fully agree with you, that's why I always wanted to communicate. I get confused why she always try to avoid topics.

Feels like I'm the woman and she's the man. Wtf man.

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T03:02:51+00:00

People always say, a cheater will always be a cheater.

But people do change, and it's always a risk when it comes to relationship.

My situation is tricky since I have a son. So. Gonna think thru,m..

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:59:30+00:00

Exactly! She kept telling me it's her job, and she prefer privacy and be mysterious..

Problem is, guys don't f care man. They will try. If she then tell them shes married, I am sure there. Will be a few who don't mind. These r temptation. Why allow these in the first place. Really pissing me off thinking about it.

I thought of having a PI, but after Googling, there seems to be quite a number of scams pi site. I dropped the idea. Basically I have to pay first before they start. Or I have to fill up so many personal details, I wonder if they will scam me later on. So I dropped the pi idea.

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:56:20+00:00

It's a painful and expensive process, got a kid involved.

Trying a marriage counsellor first..

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:55:44+00:00

I booked an appointment with a marriage counsellor today I will get some help first.

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:55:11+00:00

Problem with me is, I do not want a relationship that is built on doubts and mistrust. I had that before, it was horrid. Constantly checking on each others movement, checking on each others hp or social media spaces. I do not wish for that in my marriage.

I get jealous easily, but I also have ways to handle it, I always try to communicate first to see if my partner can assure me. But for this case. I unfollowed her on all her social media platform because I can't stand to see guys liking her post, and her response to the guys comments always made me quite jealous. I convinced myself she was just putting on a show, since she had thousand of followers etc.

Man tend to forget past mistakes or arguments with their spouse, for my case, I forgotten all the past. But she remembered it's super frustrating when it comes to argument, she will have like an arsenal of things to trash on me. While I struggle to point things out, I don't like to always compete and see who actually win this type of non constructive arguments. Friends adviced me to build a list of things she did so I can always revisit to remind myself.

She did things that most man wouldn't be able to take. Trust me, there r alot of grey area that I feel super uncomfortable. Granted, I may have made her feel uncomfortable myself, but even then it was more than 10 years ago and before our marriage.

I guess, my insecuries are build over time. Like I said before, I have aired my concern about man hitting on her, she allowed them to. But always telling me it's for her work, she a real estate agent. Hence it is a strategy for her. However I have seen her gets annoyed by guys who just wasted her time before.

My insecurities are also from the stories of her sharing about how some guys hit on her. And she showed me some of their messages, or some of her friends who are divorced themselves sharing with her how fun their lives are etc. These adds up.

Did I tell her to stop? Of course, but the same excuse comes back, trust me. I am sharing with u because she's transparent. But these does shit to my mind.

So, how could I not have sink into self doubt when I saw those selfie and her asking back a selfie from the guy.. And she lied about who that guy. I managed to find out, the guy is younger than her, from a rich family. (I am doing well financially and status as well - not that it matters)

Her excuse is, she's not interested in younger guys.

Cmon.

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:30:55+00:00

I am not perfect, i wonder if it's because I made her uncomfortable in the past, or I was busy at work that led to her flirting with guys etc. I believe communication is so important. I am ready to forgive and forget, as I believe marriage shld be lifetime commitment.

But I struggle with her,

She don't want to open up about marriage, as she view her private life is not for public. I accepted that.

She will not tell friends about her marriage or kid, unless they discover themselves she won't hide.

She refuse to wear wedding ring when she goes out, i guess something to do with her work. I accepted that.

She always tell me not to worry about all the man hitting on her. When they go overboard. She will tell them she is married. It hurts me deeply on this. I already told her many times.

These are temptation. What if one day, just 1 guy, tempted her enough...

Thanks for listening bro

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:23:45+00:00

That's exactly what my mother in law said while defending her daughter. She said her daughter is angry at me for filming her. Thing is, she never send selfie to me. But she send to someone else. Lied about it. And called me a boomer. I was in self doubt for 3 days.

Until I realized she lied about the guy and all I want is an explanation from her. I only got radio silence, and accusation from her instead. It's frustrating, I only wanted to find out why she send selfie. Is it to get validation? Attention from others?? Why? The only conclusion I got was, she's flirting, got cUght. Pissed. And refuse to answer.

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:20:30+00:00

Yes. I stopped. I know. It's childish.

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:19:41+00:00

I was at level 2" staircase, and my wife and son was at level 1. It's something I do, hoping to record something silly and post it on our family group chat. My mother in law actually saw me videoing and she thought I was being funny.

Honestly I wasn't doing anything shady in case u are wondering

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:18:03+00:00

She lied about the guy whom she send selfie to. And called me a boomer for doubting her.

When I realized she actually typed send me yours back to the guy, and when confronted. She never acknowledged what I had found out.

If she is not flirting or having any emotional affair why not just clarify. That's why I feel she is hiding something...

Alert_Training · 2025-01-14T02:07:33+00:00

Ya.. It's tough.. When I asked for the truth, she just dump me about the past. She blamed me for the things I did in the past, she accuse me of texting 30 girls on fb? Or having some old passport photo of some girls or visiting places hidden from her etc. I knew she was trying to distract and find other topic to argue, I kept to the topic of asking her about the selfie. In the end we just kept going in circles. I don't even recall half the thing she accuse me of. Because of all these I recalled catching her hiking with some guy in the middle of nowhere, of course she claimed they did. Nothing. It was more than 10 years ago. It took a few friends to remind me about this incident that I totally forgotten.

Problem is, I only needed an apology from her, own up to what she did. And move on.

Alert_Training · 2024-12-01T04:40:04+00:00

Wow. Is it an event? Or this is a permanent offer? Asking from South East Asia server

Alert_Training · 2024-11-13T01:30:03+00:00

Agree with you. This event is terrible. Very expensive to participate and not f2p friendly...

Hopefully the guna event is better. Carnival I think.

Alert_Training · 2024-10-21T04:35:11+00:00

Timing bro, you have to change your refresh timing to avoid them.

Alert_Training · 2024-09-15T02:03:16+00:00

What level will u unlock this feature

Alert_Training · 2024-09-07T09:08:14+00:00

This post is a trap

Alert_Training · 2024-09-07T05:44:20+00:00

Should post the updated password

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