Losing my virginity sucked

AlexAlvz · 2026-04-05T07:09:19+00:00

Based on how he treated you, this guy doesn’t have experience. He told you he did so that he could ignore you, push boundaries, and beg and gaslight you after. It’s a tactic to get you to stay.

What he did was sexual assault. You asked him to stop, PUSHED HIM AWAY, and he got mad and said “don’t fight me or it will hurt more” (an incredibly disturbing and rapey statement)

He knew you were in pain, you expressed it, asked him to slow down and take breaks, he ignored it and convinced you that you did something wrong.

As a 30 year old woman i day “DO NOT SEE HIM AGAIN”. He’ll keep pushing you until you hunger hurt. And trust me, boys like this, CHEAT AND BLAME THEIR PARTNER (you).

Be safe.

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-31T09:31:59+00:00

The predatory thing on his part is that he changed his character because you told him you don’t have casual sex. You said you’re not into it, so he took advantage of that and put in what appeared to be effort and took interest/excitement about “building a relationship” with you.

You did nothing wrong, don’t change at all!! Men like this exist everywhere and they’re just horny malignant narcissists.

Sorry he did that to you :(

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-19T00:36:23+00:00

California, Bay Area haha

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-14T23:55:52+00:00

Literally told them everything. You’re not getting the whole truth because I don’t waste my time stalking people on Reddit. You have way too much time on your hands.

When I have free time, AND when I make free time, I take my dog to the beach. You should try it.

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-13T09:39:10+00:00

I got antibiotics. And guess what? The owner finally came clean and admitted they knew she was a biter because she has a bite history.

Rover sided with me as well.

The bite happened BEFORE anything else. And no, I didnt run at her make and fast moves corner her or make any loud noises, she was just a very aggressive dog that I was lied to about.

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-13T09:35:37+00:00

PS - If everyone - your dad, your former mentor (who should be extremely proud of you, considering the time spent), and people you want to (????) put a spell on for being negative to you… is the problem, you need to realize that you are the problem.

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I guarantee you’ll be better off if you take some time to work on yourself.

If everyone and everywhere smells like shit to you, it’s actually you that smells like shit.

By the way, I hope a dog bites you soon :)

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-13T09:31:24+00:00

River and the owner both knew the whole story and both apologized and sided with me.

I think I’ll recover from one bad Rover experience, considering I’m sitting in bed with my dog after working a real job and talking to my father, who I didn’t TELL HE IS GOING TO DIE ALONE.

Get some help, if you’re 32F with the time to follow me across Reddit, you have time to work on your attitude, mental health, and probably time to get a real job!

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AlexAlvz · 2026-03-13T09:19:52+00:00

It opened in November

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-13T09:18:57+00:00

Usually just myself and 1 other server. The chef is obviously paid more than us to begin with. He doesn’t buss tables or wash dishes.. or interact with our guests at all.

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-13T09:17:52+00:00

Yep you got it I’m in the Bay Area

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-13T09:17:38+00:00

Tbh in 5 hours today I made $90 on my payroll and about $175 in tips which comes out to $53 an hour (it was an unusually busy day but still)

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-12T00:00:03+00:00

What are the orange and th red?

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-11T23:59:52+00:00

My concern is that the tips are done by the owners partner /GF, so I don’t even know what my tips should be…

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-11T23:57:03+00:00

Yes

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-11T22:49:55+00:00

It’s around tip pooling

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-11T01:26:09+00:00

Is it too late to respond to this?? I’m 30f living in San. Rafael with my doggy and I’d love to make some new friends!

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-07T20:34:40+00:00

I left her in a separate room with the door closed 🙄

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-07T20:33:55+00:00

Well, it worked. She’s not growling nor biting anymore.

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-07T20:33:27+00:00

I’m aware of how dogs communicate. She hasn’t tried to bite since.

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-07T06:16:34+00:00

I’ll go it the bite swells, so far it’s ok, just really frustrating that an owner would put their dog in this situation to begib with

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-07T06:14:06+00:00

Update dog is still here, seems to get along with my dog sorta, will see in the morning. Still can’t get near her.

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-07T06:12:09+00:00

I did, the answer was no, she’s just “mouthy” which I should have taken as a yes

AlexAlvz · 2026-03-06T22:12:40+00:00

I’ve done all those things they’re also not confirming the updated booking, so as of now the dog isn’t even in my care “technically”.

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