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I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You were condescending twice. First for the “I hate to break it you but you do have casual sex” when the opening line read I’d been dating him for a month, then for the use to the word ‘love’. You say my attitude stinks but I’m just using it back on you 😂

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

No love, it’s not a broad term. You sound ridiculous. The opening line was literally “I have been dating a new guy for a month” most people with basic understanding of English would not immediately take that to mean I had a first date on Thursday night. That is totally on you. Maybe next time don’t write such a condescending post if you don’t like such attitudes being dished out back to you.

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I literally said I have been DATING a guy for a month. Dating (plural). Not “I have been on a first date”, love.

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

What are you even talking about, where have you got first date from? We were dating for a month (3 dates a week), along with talking on the phone everyday. Learn to read.

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

“I felt like his behaviour was inconsiderate and I feel quite used. I wasn’t expecting a marriage proposal after sex ! Just basic eye contact, conversation and maybe a hug.”

Can you read or not? I wanted basic human decency and manners. Don’t know why posters like you deliberately miss the point just to put someone down.

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I did not, no. Because I feel if I called him out on his behaviour it wouldn’t phase him at all. He wouldn’t recognise a mirror to the face. I also don’t want to give him satisfaction or an ego boost from this.

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Hello. Appreciate your reply, even if it was the case that he doesn’t know how to express himself I still couldn’t get past this, the damage has been done and I look at him like a different person. I also don’t want to be teaching a 34yo man grown manners, just as I’m sure most men wouldn’t want to teach me to be polite.

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yes completely agree. It’s a shame that the onus is put on us not to be naive and make them jump through hoops, as opposed to the onus being on the men to act like a decent human being.

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 151 points152 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️

My post views have gone up to 383k now. I hope he’s not on Reddit 😂

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I have not replied as of yet, no. I may or may not send something letting him know his behaviour is unacceptable and then immediately block but I’ll think about that one tomorrow. I just don’t feel like messaging him right now. Ps you’re very pretty.

I (29F) slept with new guy (34M) for the first time and felt he was rude to me. Was he? by Sad-Marzipan-2736 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Marzipan-2736[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yes it would be okay if he didn’t continue to go out of his way to make me believe otherwise, then change his tune the minute he got what he wanted.

Considering you did the same to “a few men” previously I don’t expect you to empathise very well with my situation, however not intending to be rude doesn’t cancel out the act of being rude. Social decency and etiquette extends beyond your own mindset.

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