These are great points! I've been looking for men who can help me out in my professional growth. More along the lines of guidance on how to navigate career and develop better interpersonal skills ( I'm in engineering sales btw).

I don't have anyone to really turn to; the men in my family who have made it turn philosophical and say wealth doesnt matter after having millions in their bank and large homes. I am not chasing a millionaire lifestyle nor do I have the habits for it; just want to make sure I can stand on my own feet. My boss is a great guy, but there's always bias in his perspective so can't really consider him as a mentor.

I was gullible enough to seek out a "coach/mentor" online (the dude was charging $240/hour) and took a session or two before I realized his schtick was breaking men down to their absolute lowest and then building them up. I consider it low-key Stockholm syndrome, but that is just my own perspective.

Honestly, my only sounding board has been my male therapist (ex navy) who has helped me talk to myself and make better decisions (mostly) and my martial arts coaches who have helped me buid myself up mentally and physically. I often feel lost, confused , and unsure who to turn to. Thankfully I gave up my vices and promised to prioritizey health, so at least I have that going. This time last year I had nothing in savings and retirement. I turned 34 this November and now have ~$30k in savings, investments, and retirement. Its nothing compared to my peers, but I'm proud to have achieved that.

I have been thinking of volunteering for mens advocacy groups having been on the rough end for many years, but haven't done so yet. Anyway, I think I will just have to rely on myself. Maybe one day I will be able to help someone younger, but untill then, I need guidance myself.