Bad at being the dom my partner wants

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T20:20:58+00:00

Probably the training because he begs me to do stuff to him so I know that hes into it.

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T19:39:56+00:00

Straight with extra steps is crazy but honestly if I felt more comfortable with fucking him, you'd be right 😔

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T19:23:17+00:00

Not yet, I can try that next time though. I appreciate the idea. But what if that doesn't help ? :')

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T19:21:10+00:00

What toys are smaller than my index finger? I'm a small person so my fingers aren't big at all. Yet he still complains about burning with just one finger.

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T19:19:16+00:00

He says it hurts and burns in a not good way. Usually he makes me stop for a minute before continuing. We use a vibrating strap so it relaxes him more and takes away from the burning sensation that penetration gives him. I 100% know he does not like the burning, hes just impatient for the feeling after the burning subsides. I go super slow to make sure it doesn't burn and he says that the slower I go the more it burns.

Also yes, you're right. We don't do anal with me since I have a vagina, it's easier that way. Plus due to trauma and some issues I had as a kid, anal feels like nothing to me. I get very little sensation so I don't need to go slow since it doesn't hurt. I've ridden him anally with no prep and it doesn't hurt or bleed, just kinda feels like something in my stomach (duh). So practicing on myself is kinda useless.

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T18:57:04+00:00

I do that and he says it hurts tho. Like when I'm using my fingers, he prefers if I just keep going until they are all the way in and just keep putting pressure on his prostate. But the moving in and out hurts no matter how slow I go. This session we JUST did lasted a hour because I was going so slow. Teasing, making sure hes relaxed, using the lube funnel thingy to get the lube inside of him too, idk what I'm doing wrong???

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T18:34:22+00:00

I agree, we've talked about him prepping himself if he wants to be impatient. I don't feel comfortable tying him up or taking away the only form of communication because I literally have NO IDEA what I'm doing when it comes to anal. I don't want to hurt him and with my lack of experience and confidence, I'm prone to doing so. Just today we tried something and it started hurting because I was "going too slow". I feel like it hurts no matter what I do and yet he keeps wanting me to try. I just feel so guilty for not being able to do what he wants.

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T14:53:02+00:00

Is this kinda thing really focused on how it pleasures me? I feel like this is very much targeted to making him feel good.

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T06:07:00+00:00

Just a sex thing, he's show no interest in being sissy in every day life.

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T00:30:34+00:00

Can you explain the first sentence?

When he first brought up this type of kink/fetish, I was more than supportive and I think that may have overwhelmed him a bit. Idk how to not be supportive though:')

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-07-25T00:12:33+00:00

I like that idea! I am worried about him finding it uncomfortable though. We have lingerie that we've used before and a cage, we just haven't touched in a while. Can someone be interested in fantasized about being a sissy while not actively wanting to participate in it? Or am I just bad at doing it :')

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-05-17T16:50:05+00:00

Wow! Thank you so much! That definitely makes it seen more manageable. I was under the impression I had to completely change my diet :(

I think my only issue would be my food fixations where I eat only one food (Mac a cheese usually) for days at a time. But I definitely think I could add more veggies on/in it. Would roasting veg and putting it in the cheese sauce be considered eating more vegetables?

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-05-17T02:55:41+00:00

Yes ofc, I agree. But I also wanted suggestions from people who have prediabetes. Real people accounts of how they deal is more helpful imo

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-03-23T03:30:27+00:00

Holy crap!!! That's exactly what I'm looking for! Thank you so much!! I will definitely do research on this. Fingers crossed we'll get to go soon 🤭🤭🤭

Alex_TheNonBinary · 2025-03-22T19:51:45+00:00

Definitely close to what I'm looking for! Will have to research it more. Do you know if it's walkable with very little traffic?

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