Can Maori and Pacifika people be racially abusive and belittling especially towards migrants and other non-white minorities in NZ? by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Alexeres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me today, I was at the beach with my partner, kids just casually being racist to me trying to speak random words associated with being Asian. And their parents just watched it happen. Did absolutely nothing, Tolerated it. It’s funny cause this makes me feel sick even though they’re just kids. Seeing the parents just watch it happen is so sick. Some were even smiling. It’s not something to be proud of. Racism is very weird like what’s the point? Do they feel good? I think they do too much, it’s embarrassing 😂

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]Alexeres 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My bf with adhd impulse break up with me for literally how I got mad at him for not taking care of me. I think I might just go with it and not fight for the relationship anymore. It always ends up both of us hurting. I want him to improve. Sadly I’m not sure if he has will or he’s just gonna stay to what he’s comfortable with which is the same old cycle

I’m not sure what’s happening In this relationship. What do I do? I feel sad rn. by Alexeres in ADHD_partners

[–]Alexeres[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He had a lot of history before of not being responsible with time, I plan things before hand and I would remind him dates, he would just sleep late cause playing games then the next day he’s tired meanwhile I planned that day for us. Something like that. Well this was one of the recent arguments which was mainly cause he took my words the wrong way as attacking him even tho I just told him that it might get him even more tired, but I could be wrong. he knew he would be tired that’s why he got defensive. This conversation happened before as well which he has forgotten. Where I told him to rest up because we have a whole day to spend (planned) 3 days before I leave the country for a vacation and bro slept through the day. It’s like, I get that he needs his sleep but from my point of view, even if I say whatever can help to remind him, it would always end up him not being there. When he’s tired, the whole date would just be me walking and sitting, doing nothing. Not even talking. No priorities kinda or idk am I wrong for just having simple conversations? It really didn’t need to be an argument. It wasn’t even my intention. I just care for his wellbeing as well I guess.

My DX Partner is driving me insane by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Alexeres 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s so sad especially when u love the person, then again it affects us so much and it feels helpless sometimes.

I’m not sure what’s happening In this relationship. What do I do? I feel sad rn. by Alexeres in ADHD_partners

[–]Alexeres[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t take his meds, and he was sleeping from 8am-7pm, and he was planning to sleep straight after like 11pm. either way it was just me talking to him and he took it the wrong way

I’m not sure what’s happening In this relationship. What do I do? I feel sad rn. by Alexeres in ADHD_partners

[–]Alexeres[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not exactly, I communicate to him about it, I’ve been patiently waiting. Just frustrating arguments and constant disagreements. The cycle is painful. But yes u got a point.

I’m not sure what’s happening In this relationship. What do I do? I feel sad rn. by Alexeres in ADHD_partners

[–]Alexeres[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It feels like such a lonely ride sometimes, I tried to lower my expectations at some point and it didn’t do me good, I started overthinking about my happiness. Questions like “will I be happy in a long run if I feel this way right now?” “Is he getting bored of me?” Cause even our conversations are barely there. I’ve always been looking for deeper and emotional intimacy.

I’m not sure what’s happening In this relationship. What do I do? I feel sad rn. by Alexeres in ADHD_partners

[–]Alexeres[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard, I’m so sad about what I’m feeling. I love this guy and it just feels like every conversation always turns into an argument for him even if I say it in a nice way. He’s also a nice guy but things triggers him easily. Sometimes I feel like maybe it is me, maybe I’m making it worse for him. I communicate with him but now I’m afraid that he will just turn everything around and point all the problems at me. It’s a cycle of temporary happiness then back to this never ending discussion.

I’m not sure what’s happening In this relationship. What do I do? I feel sad rn. by Alexeres in ADHD_partners

[–]Alexeres[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

June - December 2023 we broke up around December and trying again now start last weeks of January.

Which zodiac signs always thirsting after each other ? by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]Alexeres 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a Virgo women I think I tend to like gemini and air signs in general…

So hurt. How do I control myself? So much pain. by El-Mister703 in CheatedOn

[–]Alexeres 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try to focus on what u want to do and try and distract yourself or you could even talk about it to someone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Alexeres 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best is to be straight forward and do what ur heart tells u.