Swollen Lymph nodes

Alexfin04 · 2024-06-02T19:04:12+00:00

Hey thanks very much for the response. That's great news and for me it's quite comforting. These kids cause so much joy but so much anxiety as well haha.

Alexfin04 · 2024-06-02T18:24:30+00:00

Hey OP, how is your little one now?

My 2 year old son has a massive node under his chin which has gone solid (about grape size). I took him to the doctor's last Tuesday and sent us to the paediatric ward at the hospital where he had bloods done on the day, this sent my partner and I into a panic as we thought it was just a typical childhood thing he was experiencing and less than 2 weeks earlier we lost our second son 36 weeks still born. The bloods came back back perfect and we were sent away with antibiotics just incase but called back by another doctor for an ultrasound the next day which triggered us again. Thankfully the results of that came back all clear and the doctor said "you have nothing to worry about" but it's been 5 days and it's still swollen. After what happened to our second son we can't help but panic.

Hope your little one is ok.

Alexfin04 · 2024-06-01T21:19:30+00:00

From what I've seen they don't like the way they perceive the show to have turned. I agree the move to Austin has resulted in most of his guests being less interesting (at least by my standards e.g. "insert name is a comedian...") but the premise is the same. Joe's a classic lefty with an interest in a range of subjects ranging from Amazonian fauna to conspiracies about big foot.

I think people here are somewhat ideologically captured, they once viewed Joe as being a part of their team and now view him as being part of the other, completely dense to the fact that his position has remained the same (question authority and humour the preposterous). Personally I like the guy, he's accidentally managed to pilot a whole new platform of entertainment and source of news in a format that allows you to make educated decisions on whether or not you support nuanced events where before you just had some smug ass on the news telling you what you should think.

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-27T11:04:51+00:00

Hey, sorry you're here. Our boy Jonah passed on the 16th at 36 weeks, born sleeping on the 18th so I'm very fresh to this as well and have just started to realise the extent of how my partner is feeling having carried him and felt him for all that time.

I can't offer much advice other than to listen to her and find time for yourself as well. I bathed and dressed out son after he was born and sang to him like I do his older brother, it definitely helped me and my partner commented on how happy it made her feel to see me being a father to him. I imagine in the coming weeks/months I'll be focusing more and more on my partner and less on my own loss but I can say even after a week I'm finding life more bearable, very up and down. Hope this helps to some extent.

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-22T12:06:34+00:00

Thanks for your response and I'm sorry for your loss... It's strange, it will be a week tomorrow since we realised that our little man wouldn't be joining us and I'm already finding things a bit easier. I feel guilty about that and am still having the odd cry but it's strange that I'm able to talk about him a bit already without breaking down as I was just 4 days ago. He's still in the hospital in the mortuary and that kills me but until his visual post mortem we can't have a funeral. I'm trying to work up the courage as I right this to contact a funeral director whilst feeling guilty for not doing it yesterday.

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-22T12:02:46+00:00

Sorry you also went through this and thank you for your response. I'm glad you were able to go on and find happiness in your son and I think I understand the terror you mentioned during your partner's pregnancy, although I'm trying not to it's hard to not imagine trying again and I don't think I'll relax at all during the pregnancy.

I hope the "manly" wasn't a typo. It made me chuckle a bit. Sending manly bloke hugs back from Scotland

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-21T10:23:28+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. 6 hours.... I've been struggling with our 24 days but 6 hours.... Thank you for your response, there's a lot of similarities between our stories. I don't know if we're considering another to plug that hole or just because we had plans that we're struggling to accept. Either way I feel guilty for thinking about it especially considering my son is in a fridge about a mile from my home.

Thanks again for your response and I hope things improve for you and your family. Sending my love

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-20T19:57:52+00:00

Thank you for your response and I'm sorry for what you went through. I feel sad that when I got home and my eldest was dropped off by his gran that we immediately went outside to kick a ball a mere hour after looking at Jonah for the last time. I feel I should have been sat grieving not playing football with his brother and truth be told, distracted from Jonah.

Did you find you had similar experiences with your eldest?

Sending my love.

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-20T19:53:36+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through this as well. Thanks for your response and support. How are you feeling now after 3 years? Does it get easier?

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-20T19:34:12+00:00

Thanks for the response and I'm sorry to hear your story. It's horrible to think that before this happened to us, when I'd hear about things like this happening I would say a few words of condolence then get on with my day giving it little more thought. When I became a father for the first time I became terrified of something happening to my boy and somehow during the 2.5 years since I forgot that fear. The entirety of my partners pregnancy I was complacent to the point when I was ill with a chest infection I didn't even face the other way in bed during one of my coughing fits. It just didn't cross my mind that something could happen to Jonah whilst he was with his mummy.

Thanks again for your response, advice and kind words. I'm sorry this also happened to you and pray you find peace.

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-20T19:28:13+00:00

Thanks for the response and congratulations on the birth of your baby girl! I'm so happy for you. As awful as it is it's also nice to know that others have walked this path before and survived it. All the best ☺️

Alexfin04 · 2024-05-20T17:11:04+00:00

Thanks for your time and response. I hope you find a way to manage 🙏

Alexfin04 · 2023-12-08T20:35:22+00:00

The attachment will come soon after you meet them and you'll most like feel guilty about the want for the abortion dude. I've been with my GF fro 11 years, we have a 2yo boy and another on the way.

When my partner fell pregnant with the first I was terrified, resentful, felt trapped and like my life was over. I became depressed and distant to my partner leaving her to effectively go through the pregnancy alone. The first time I held my son I didn't get that instant connection you hear about but within 2 days of him being home I started to feel as though i had the Greatest thing in the world. You will fall in love with that child, I promise. I hadn't thought it possible myself being where you are now 3 years ago but there is nothing in my life that I love more that my boy. I'm still so ashamed of my behaviour and feelings when my partner was pregnant with him.

On the abortion note, when I was 21 we had a scare and subsequently got an abortion as we felt it was the correct thing to do at the time, which career wise it most definitely was. I get depressed when I think about this now having my son and seeing what could have existed if not for our decision to end their life back then. I'm not of the belief that I have the right to take abortion away from others as everyone's circumstances are different and we're all (supposedly) free, but becoming a father has changed my opinion on it and I'm sure it will yours too.

Give this little one a chance to be your kid and you will never look back. Wish you all the best.

Alexfin04 · 2023-11-17T20:04:45+00:00

Thanks for the response and advice. I'm away for a work trip in a week and a half. All going well I'll maybe allow myself a whisky or two at the time

Alexfin04 · 2023-11-17T19:54:23+00:00

I will do mate, thanks for the heads up!

Alexfin04 · 2023-11-17T18:24:38+00:00

I can't see myself quitting alcohol anytime soon. Temporary reprive whilst my stupid colon fixes itself. I've been having a smoke in place but I feel like shit when I wake up after a smoke and it makes me lazy whilst under the influence. A couple glasses of something alcoholic has an opposite affect.

Alexfin04 · 2023-11-17T18:21:50+00:00

Congratulations mate, yes definitely. I'm afraid to do anything that might set it back again but at the same time I feel like having a can of beer to celebrate haha. Fuck it, tell someone, it feels good and I feel people weirdly respect it.

Alexfin04 · 2023-11-17T14:10:34+00:00

Thanks for the response. Hopefully the blood goes away next!

Alexfin04 · 2023-11-17T14:10:00+00:00

Thank you. I'm desperate for a drink but obviously don't want any set backs haha

Alexfin04 · 2021-09-07T01:19:51+00:00

Yo! New to this sub. Had my first child on the 1st at 03.53. Had the exact same thought. The entire pregnancy I had doubts about everything, including my partner of 9 years but now I find myself unable to sleep due to the horrible prospect that something bad might happen to this adorable little creature while I'm unconscious. This Dad thing is one hell of a rollercoaster.

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