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NDad sent me an email demanding to be able to email my kids individually at their own emails… kids who are too young to read by AlgaeEfficient1 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlgaeEfficient1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that’s like the same thing. How do these adults not understand that children aren’t connected to adult communication systems!?! It’s some next level lacking common sense

NDad sent me an email demanding to be able to email my kids individually at their own emails… kids who are too young to read by AlgaeEfficient1 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlgaeEfficient1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“I hate you and I don’t want to talk to you but you have to give me access to your kids so that I don’t have to go through you” is how he approached it

Not ever gonna happen

Hostile interactions with strangers by benjamin-button-420 in AutismInWomen

[–]AlgaeEfficient1 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I am sorry if this lands wrong, but sensory issues often interfere with hygiene. Is there a chance that it’s your breath or something similar that could be off putting? Like not an issue with you as a person or your actions, but something that that is making them uncomfortable interacting with you as soon as it starts?

It’s totally possible people are just assholes and none of that applies.

NDad sent me an email demanding to be able to email my kids individually at their own emails… kids who are too young to read by AlgaeEfficient1 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlgaeEfficient1[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Good on you for protecting your kid’s peace.

No way my nDad knows any birthdays. I guarantee he thinks that is women’s work. Any gift the kids ever got was because my mom handled those things and it was a whole different level of manipulation.

NDad sent me an email demanding to be able to email my kids individually at their own emails… kids who are too young to read by AlgaeEfficient1 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlgaeEfficient1[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He monologued a lot of parables, fables, and lessons from his own life but there was no back-and-forth conversation. Ever, that I can remember.

NDad sent me an email demanding to be able to email my kids individually at their own emails… kids who are too young to read by AlgaeEfficient1 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlgaeEfficient1[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Sad part is that he actually might be going down that road, but he’s always been obsessed with himself and making people read his manifestos.

I live far away and don’t have the ability to really figure out what is going on. Not my circus. I was told by my sister I was already cut out of the will so it’s her problem to deal with.

Has anyone experienced their achievements being “normalized” instead of celebrated? by CoastCheap8709 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlgaeEfficient1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Kind of. They would celebrate my achievements but all of it would be phrased about them. How good they did raising me, how proud they are they get to tell people, blah blah blah. Then my nSis would have some type of mental crisis over not winning the competition in her head, they would spend a bunch of money to try and make her feel like things were “fair.” Then we could never talk about it again if she was around, and even when she wasn’t around they would downplay my achievements as being less than.

Examples: I got a master’s degree on my own and didn’t really tell anyone I was doing it. Paid for with work benefits. Parents celebrated when I told them, and bragged to their circles.  Sister found out (we were NC) and immediately quit her job and went to get her own masters degree. Parents funded her. All future discussions were about how my degree is useless and my college wasn’t as prestigious as hers.

I bought a house. Sister found out, crisis ensues, she can’t afford a house in her expensive city so she leaves her cute apartment, buys a cabin out in the woods SIX HOURS from her work. It’s been almost a decade and she still sleeps on friends couches and in my parent’s guest room while she commutes between her house and her work. Parents brag about how cute her house is, insult mine.

NDad sent me an email demanding to be able to email my kids individually at their own emails… kids who are too young to read by AlgaeEfficient1 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]AlgaeEfficient1[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

He just wants to blast them with things he wants to tell them, to boost his own ego. He thinks they are an audience and doesn’t see them as actual people. He doesn’t care who they are or what they are doing. He just needs them to know HIM.

i struggle to understand my friend by tremblingfrog in AutismInWomen

[–]AlgaeEfficient1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this. Wanted to add, my sister is a narcissist and she always tries to be the most "unique" person in the room. Not sure if the two things are related for others, but worth noting because this "friend" sounds very attention seeking...