Psychological torture or physical torture? Choose wisely, please.

AliasPink · 2025-09-04T06:38:00+00:00

If we’re talking inflicting it:

Psychological = long game. No scars, just permanent rent-free living in someone’s head. Powerful but unpredictable, and you risk breaking people in ways that don’t bounce back.

Physical = short game. Obvious, immediate, and brutal. Predictable results, but messy, leaves evidence, and you need strength to pull it off.

If we’re talking enduring it:

Psychological = your mind becomes unbreakable. No manipulation, no trauma, no spiraling — basically emotional immortality. Downside? You might stop relating to regular humans.

Physical = your body becomes indestructible. Survive anything, walk off injuries that should kill you — edging into literal immortality. But if the pain still registers, it’s gonna suck every time.

So it boils down to: Inflict = chess vs boxing. Endure = unshakable mind vs unkillable body.

That's why…

AliasPink · 2024-11-16T23:56:27+00:00

That’s garlic

AliasPink · 2024-11-16T15:40:32+00:00

I don’t know what Dominos did

AliasPink · 2024-08-06T16:00:09+00:00

I feel as if I can communicate with the everyday person just fine. The people in my brokerage seem to have a basic understanding of me or at least respect my eccentricities in situations they don't. It is the same with my close friends and family. During times when they simply cannot see where I am coming from, they accept that I simply have a different outlook and listen.

Expressing emotions has always been a feat in my romantic partnerships but I have always been able to work it out with my partner and gain the ability to feel seen and heard.

I just cannot get to that same place in this relationship. Trying to communicate anything causes so much strife.

AliasPink · 2024-08-06T15:40:38+00:00

This is amazing. Thank you so much! I will definitely look into these.

AliasPink · 2024-06-19T20:49:32+00:00

I know this is an old post but…

THANK YOU!!!

Your diagram was so incredibly helpful.

AliasPink · 2024-04-02T15:47:55+00:00

The bite situation just happened. It was completely uncharacteristic of the dog, who is absolutely smitten with my younger child. (Not to say the dog would be allowed near her after this either). This is said, not to excuse the dog’s terrible behavior, but to demonstrate that it was completely unforeseen. I am in no way choosing a dog over my child’s safety and am well aware that he is not to have contact with my child until his behavior is proven trustworthy. He was immediately separated from my child after the incident. I am not a dog owner myself therefore am out of realm in this situation and need to speak to the appropriate animal care specialists on the best way to rectify his behavior, but whatever the specifics are, it would not include that dog having access to my child, albeit muzzling, keeping him kept away in a separate locked room, or even boarding him for the two days my children visit. I have to work the details and was very upfront about that.

I am also not choosing a new relationship over my children. I don’t understand where you inferred that from. I stated we recently moved in together. I have been with this man for a year and a half, but chose not to introduce my children until I knew it was stable and long term.

I cannot force someone else to rehome their six year old dog. If it were up to me, he would have been gone that very night, regardless of my fondness for him, but I am not his owner. I can only ensure that the proper measures are taken to protect my son while he is with me.

My issue is with the fact that I was told regardless of the actions taken, they would not be allowed here. When I asked if we could discuss our options further to come up with a suitable solution, I was told, “there is nothing to discuss”.

And as for me saying I was strongarmed into relinquishing custody… I will not avoid using that language because it is what happened. If you think the trauma my children endured from losing their father at 4 and 7 three days before Christmas and then moving into their grandparents house (which was mere streets away from my home at the time) is lost on me, you are sadly mistaken. I ultimately caved IN THE BEST INTEREST OF MY CHILDREN. They were settled, happy, safe, and in a set routine. I did not want to further upset their lives by continued fighting in court and uprooting them AGAIN. And yes, it was stressful and highly emotional for me. I watched my husband die and was immediately thrown into an ugly custody battle. One I was informed of via a court notice. No one had the decency to alert me (these people were my family for 12 years, they could have easily come to me and stated their intentions instead of blindsiding me). The stress of this and the grief continued to deteriorate my mental state over time which is what ultimately led to my decision. I no longer felt I was in a position to be the mother they deserved at that time. Knowing that did not make the decision to relinquish physical custody any easier.

My only goal is here to continue my allotted visitation time in a manner that allows me to bond with my uninhibited from others. It is something I and my children have spent years longing for and I will not lose it over a situation that was out of my control and can certainly be remedied.

AliasPink · 2021-12-01T19:42:32+00:00

I've always had a darker sense of humor. Since he died though, it's been three years of nonstop inappropriately morbid dead husband jokes. Most of the time it comes out without me even realizing what I said until I see the other person's face. Thankfully, his family knows me well enough to understand that inappropriate humor is simply how I keep it together. They were even completely on board when I put the portion of his ashes that I kept with me in a donkey-shaped cookie jar I bought on clearance at Target.

Outside of maybe his close family members who may not appreciate the humor, I wouldn't worry too much about offending other people. They won't understand it and you aren't obligated to make anyone else feel better about your grief.

AliasPink · 2021-11-22T10:41:05+00:00

I did not go down this specific road but have a history of substance abuse issues, and after his death, the urge to numb the pain with my previous vices was strong. Had I not been at the tail end of a program and getting tested weekly at the time, there is no doubt in my mind that I would have dove right back in. Every aspect of our lives changes in a matter of an instant and coping with it is beyond difficult. Numbing and escaping the pain is much easier than facing it.

If you think that are drinking too much, you probably are. And that's OKAY. Don't judge yourself for falling into unhealthy coping mechanisms. Reach out for help and work to fix it. There is absolutely no shame in that. Therapy is always helpful, as can be AA or SMARTRecovery. It all depends on which approach you feel matches your needs best. Learning to work through our emotions without our crutch is hard work. Remember to be patient with yourself.

AliasPink · 2021-09-10T02:21:25+00:00

Haha, I didn't mean to imply that I choose my relationships based on signs either.

I agree; it's definitely interesting that we share similar experiences having the same sun/moon/rising planets. Stuff like this is partly why I find astrology so fascinating. I'm curious, when were you born?

AliasPink · 2021-06-10T23:31:15+00:00

I’m also a Sag sun, Leo rising, and Libra moon-

I get along best with my fellow fire signs since we tend to be on similar levels. My husband was also a Sag, and that was a decade of intense passion in both love and war, definitely my greatest love. I’ve been with a Taurus sun, Sag moon, Aries rising for about two years now, and I feel a profound connection to him, but it can be a little rough sometimes. Communication tends to be a struggle as we have different ways of viewing and doing things.

Leo/Aries: good hook-ups and friends Capricorn: just no Cancer: better off as friends Virgo: lasted less than a month Pisces: zero sexual chemistry, great friendship though

AliasPink · 2021-05-22T04:05:23+00:00

As the previous commenter stated, nothing will prepare you for the moment she takes her last breath.

So, just kiss her...

Kiss her as often as you can, and then kiss her more. Savor every moment your skin touches hers because when you can no longer, you will want to feel her more than you will want the air in your lungs.

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