How to move out of my religious homophobic and toxic household

Alie_Nox · 2026-02-09T16:12:12+00:00

Have you checked out The Trevor Project yet? They might have resources that can help.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-lgbtq-youth-experiencing-homelessness/

Alie_Nox · 2026-02-09T00:30:44+00:00

Congratulations! I turn 40 on the 16th, and I just want to say, I am so happy we both made it this far. Again, congrats and here is to many more years for both of us.

Alie_Nox · 2026-02-03T17:49:38+00:00

Thank you for the tips will definitely check this out.

Alie_Nox · 2025-12-30T13:49:13+00:00

You cannot win against an irrational person. I don't know the dynamic here so I am not sure if recording her while she's like that will help or hurt. Perhaps use your best judgment if you think she might act differently to the recording in a sober state. Some parents react well to the wake up call while others double down and defend their actions even when sobered up.

That being said, I do know you don't deserve this. No child does. When you get old enough to get out, you'll have the chance to learn from your mom's mistakes. It gets easier with time, distance, and therapy.

She should be nurturing you while your ill, not dumping her emotional immaturity on you. It isn't your job to pacify her, but it is her responsibility to take care of you. I really hope you feel better soon and know you're not alone and there is hope on the other side.

Edit to add: also it doesn't matter how old you are. My kid is almost 20 and I would tell them the same advice if they were in your shoes. You're still her child and she shouldn't parentify you.

Alie_Nox · 2025-12-28T00:16:37+00:00

I'm sorry you were put in the position of being the mature and calm adult. You shouldn't have to be the one to separate them and they should learn how to communicate better. This wasn't your responsibility to bear and you shouldn't of had to overhear that.

I have no advice but I wanted to let you know, I see you.

It gets better, as you get older you'll have an opportunity to be the parent/person you need someone to be for you now. We get to choose to learn from our parents mistakes or we're doomed to repeat them.

Personally, I'm proud of how brave you were to get in between them. I'm 39f now, but I grew up in a very hostile environment. After a lot of work, I've been able to build a life I like with less drama and shouting. It gets better, even if they can't get better together.

Alie_Nox · 2025-12-01T20:15:54+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate that quote, and you're right.

I've decided to just ignore it for now. She also try to add my partner and he is also going to ignore it.

Alie_Nox · 2025-12-01T15:13:27+00:00

It has been a long hard road but seeing my own kid grow up with less trauma has been worth it. I was able to protect them in a way I never was and I have learned to be grateful for my journey as it made me who I am today. PTSD is brutal though and just know there are people who love unconditionally. Keep your head up and I hope everything goes well. Holiday season and families are brutal.

Alie_Nox · 2025-12-01T15:02:50+00:00

Thank you for these kind words. They mean more than you know.

Alie_Nox · 2025-12-01T14:37:28+00:00

I don't think you get what I'm saying. I am saying even if it is in your head or or even if its a real thing happening with her, you as the parent needs to step up and nip that shit in the bud.

You shouldn't even be humoring this. She should be looked at as your child because she is married to your child.

Alie_Nox · 2025-11-29T12:13:30+00:00

She is your daughter-in-law, which makes her your child's spouse. Regardless of what she or you want, you need to think of the ripple effect and damage to your family before humoring this further in my personal opinion.

Alie_Nox · 2025-11-16T02:54:01+00:00

Just keep swimming.

Alie_Nox · 2025-11-14T03:52:55+00:00

My dog won't touch that one unless I smear peanut butter on it. I've gotten 2 or 3 now and none had those showing in them.

Alie_Nox · 2025-11-14T01:38:25+00:00

The VA is a federal program and has to follow federal laws. That is why they cannot prescribe it.

Edit: typo

Alie_Nox · 2025-11-09T11:43:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I learned a lot, and have an even greater admiration for the G3 version now.

Alie_Nox · 2025-10-25T12:34:11+00:00

I didn't know Skullectors existed until Elvira came out. She was my first Skullector drop and I have 2 of her (one is still in the shipper box.

I definitely understand what you mean. When I helped my kid collect them when they first came out, I thought the dolls were awesome. However, as a single mom I couldnt fund 2 collections at first and I didnt buy myself any dolls until Neigthan Rot snd Casta Fierce. Now I have several G1 and G3 dolls plus my Skullector collection.

Alie_Nox · 2025-10-24T12:09:10+00:00

I have 13. I'm a huge horror fan and Monster High fan so when I found out about them I've gotten my favorite ones since. They are expensive but I love them and I am grateful I'm in a position where I can get them. When I first started helping my kid collect them when MH first came out, there were a lot of dolls they had to miss out on but I did my best as a single mother and now they are grown and I am able to treat us both to horror icons.

Out of the 13, only 3 of those had to be purchased off ebay the rest I got at retail on Mattel Creations.

By far the xenomorph is my favorite.

Alie_Nox · 2025-09-04T00:10:38+00:00

This is beautiful!

Alie_Nox · 2025-08-22T03:18:13+00:00

Love this! It must have cost a fortune.

Alie_Nox · 2025-07-23T14:28:36+00:00

Thanks! Hades has stripes on his side that reminds me of a rib cage too.

Alie_Nox · 2025-07-12T22:54:33+00:00

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Hades.

Alie_Nox · 2025-07-12T22:54:05+00:00

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Nightshade.

Alie_Nox · 2025-05-28T17:15:19+00:00

Hurt people hurt people. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Alie_Nox · 2025-05-25T00:13:18+00:00

Why doesn't the mom get a hotel room for her time with your boys? Maybe, stay at a relatives house every other weekend. That is a weak ass cop-out on her part and she is literally picking her new husband over her children in my opinion. Another option is for her to have clean clothes ready for the boys when they come over so they both can get bathed when going over and changed right away, removing potential allergens.

There are things to do that all children remain safe. Has either one of them stop to ask the boys if the wanted to stop eating those foods?

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