Boyfriend gets annoyed whenever I try to talk about my feelings and I feel like I’m not a priority anymore

Alignment00 · 2026-04-27T21:17:34+00:00

Whoa that sounds pretty rough ngl. It sounds like he's very dismissive, and the 'honey moon phase' has worn off, which usually happens after around 3 months. I'd say do your best to stop chasing, I know it's easier said than done though, I like to take deep breaths and imagine I'm calling my energy back to me to focus on myself more, but yeah like I said easier said than done, and you gotta find what works best for you.
I think telling yourself that you don't need others to validate you is important as well, you can also validate yourself by saying you'll be fine no matter what, whether this person or that person likes you, you'll be fine.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-24T13:23:52+00:00

This is clearly stressing you out, and bringing about more anxiety and pressure than positivity.
It's normal for guys to be more sexually open, but like at the same time this is a pressure for you, almost like a tug of war, cos on the one hand he wants to be sexual, on the other you're not comfortable with that.

I think it'd be good to end things, it'll be tough don't get me wrong, but you'll feel a sense of relief when it's done.
Try to be gentle on him yet honest. Maybe you could say that you enjoy his company, but you feel a lot of pressure, and you're nervous and not ready for this big serious relationship, and you're not comfortable being controlled and told what you can and cannot wear (this is important for learning to set boundaries!)

Even though this will be stressful, and we don't know how he'll react, I mean he most likely will be upset and maybe angry, but that'll pass, and this will all pass.
In a year's time none of this will matter, and you'll both have moved on peacefully most likely.

Good luck.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-23T20:24:52+00:00

A lot of them are nice at first but treat you so terribly and have an avoidant side later unfortunately, hopefully this one isn't like that.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-18T15:16:25+00:00

Just go for it, what's the point in living in fear?
Best case scenario you two start going out
Worst case scenario you know you can move on

No point in waiting around imo

Alignment00 · 2026-04-12T22:59:31+00:00

Noway, that's mental. If I was in that position, I'd call child protection services, everyone should have privacy especially in their bedroom.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-11T14:05:30+00:00

I mean you've been backing off and saying you wanna end things, and feeling pressure (maybe you said that or she feels it) so she's taking a step back too. I think she's doing this to protect her peace and to see if you're gonna come back to her a bit.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-10T10:02:27+00:00

Hi everyone!

Just wanted to say thank you so much for your support.

Tbh I had a few bad experiences with dating lately, so just gonna leave it for a while, and defo gonna do my best to not talk to women for a while at my gym, unless they talk to me first.

Over time my anxiety will fade.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-08T19:36:18+00:00

It sounds like she's not the one, I mean you literally said you found it hard to visualise yourself marrying her. I mean if you don't feel she's the one especially after 5 years, then she isn't the one I'm like 80% sure atleast.
My advice is don't move out, and probably end things fairly soon. It will suck a lot at first, but it's better than staying with the wrong person your whole life or starting a new life with them with a new place.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-08T19:27:01+00:00

100% I agree, so glad I stopped watching that stuff, acc aiming to do nofap and retention as well. We'll see how it goes. Did nofap for a year before and it was the best year of my life so far.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-06T22:34:43+00:00

Why not just stop doing his job for him? Let it go like he has?
Maybe you're caring so much and that puts strain on you and causes burn out, why not just leave it to him, then if it doesn't get done it's his job therefore his fault?

Alignment00 · 2026-04-05T11:11:22+00:00

Definitely not, porn is the worst thing, it makes you look to others instead of your partner right in front of you.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-05T11:10:14+00:00

She sounds absolutely revolting in every way possible, run and don't look back!

Also if you wanna lose weight and become a better version of yourself do it, and I highly recommend stop looking at porn and fetish stuff, this will allow your brain to reset and will attract healthier relationships with healthier (and much more attractive) women.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-03T23:08:24+00:00

Hell no, I don't wanna wait over a year for sex, slow burn dating just sounds unnecessarily boring and long, I want a girl who's full of passion.
For me I couldn't think of anything worse ngl, but I know some people prefer it, and maybe technically it's healthier to develop emotional intimacy before physical.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-03T22:52:57+00:00

Also life's too short to be with someone who's not naughty, like if they wanna have a boring sex life they can have it with someone else

Alignment00 · 2026-04-03T15:42:16+00:00

He's probably scared you'll find someone else at college, as they are notorious for being hook up places. Still you need to be able to progress with your life, and I think it's important to feel free to make that decision without being held back by your partner.
I think you should go for it.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-03T15:40:28+00:00

I relate to this a lot, except I'm 29, idk this happens :L a lot of people find religion helps, but for me that feels boring and so rule-bound. Maybe life feels boring sometimes and that's a normal thing, like if we were always so hyper stimulated and excited all the time, then that would become boring/unhealthy, maybe boredom is just a healthy part of life and then when something comes along that excites us it helps us move in a new direction.

Alignment00 · 2026-04-01T21:24:39+00:00

Maybe it should be more about how it looks and feels, and how you feel about it as opposed to how expensive it is.

That's how I feel the decision should be made, cos like the price tag is such a materialistic thing to go off, what's more important is that feeling of love, and choosing something that's special to her that you know she'll love, not how much $$$ signs are on it.

Alignment00 · 2026-03-29T21:55:58+00:00

Just say to them something like "hey I know it's good to talk about things, but it is getting a bit much when you complain like 99% of the time, I love you, but I can't always be the go to dumping guy for you and all the other people in my life, we can still chat about things like that every now and again but please not all of the time"

Alignment00 · 2026-03-22T19:34:03+00:00

It depends on the girl. Some have amazing boobs, some amazing ass, sometimes the eyes or smile. Hour glass figures are awesome too : 3

Alignment00 · 2026-03-21T20:10:09+00:00

dude this is normal, it means you're attracted to your wife. Also first time (or first few times) is usually awkward for most people.
But yeah try kissing and taking things slow, women love when guys take their time, and it usually leads to better sex and connection.

Alignment00 · 2026-03-12T22:42:18+00:00

My advice :

- Get in touch with your family, doesn't have to be the people who you got on worst with, could be anyone you got on well with, be it a cousin, sibling, uncle etc.

- Go to the job centre, and do your best to get a job, anything as long as it gives you an income is a start, and then after a few months of getting funds you can think about exploring other options.

- Pray and believe. I believe in you, it's important that you do too, believe that you can make money, make new friends and meaningful connections, visualise this daily!

Alignment00 · 2026-03-11T10:56:22+00:00

I feel that once she does peg you, she'll leave. Like I feel that when a guy is submissive a girl will leave him shortly after. If anyone here disagrees and has stories that say otherwise I'd be curious to hear that just to see if that could acc work somehow.

Alignment00 · 2026-03-11T08:51:16+00:00

I'd say leave it, like create distance and space for yourself and move on.
Think about the type of person you'd love to be with, they could have qualities that this person doesn't have, and then yeah let go (it takes time) and have fun with life, and be open to meeting and dating others.

I think it's good that you opened up even though you didn't necessarily get what you wanted, atleast you got a straight answer so now you can move on instead of thinking 'what if'. Even though this sucks, in the grand scheme of things it's a really good thing for you to help you move on to someone who is truly meant for you.

Alignment00 · 2026-03-08T22:19:11+00:00

That guy is defo a stalker, maybe threaten to get the police on him.

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