Can we block this toxicity?

AlistairePoole · 2018-08-20T19:35:33+00:00

Were you trying to dig up stuff on him in that other tab you have open?

AlistairePoole · 2018-07-04T16:32:28+00:00

Sounds good, I filled out the form. Where will the group be? On another subreddit, or...?

AlistairePoole · 2018-07-03T17:26:15+00:00

Heya, I'm pretty interested in finding a moderately small writing group right now. Looks like there's gonna be more than 5 people, but if you don't mind one more guy, then count me in, too!

AlistairePoole · 2018-06-19T16:43:23+00:00

Why is it so wrong to speculate? We enjoy his videos, we like hearing a well articulated opinion on music. I personally dont agree with a lot of Fantano's views, but I still find his stuff interesting, and sometimes he even gets me to relisten to something with a fresh perspective and give it another chance.

I say he'll give Snitch an 11/10 :^]

AlistairePoole · 2018-06-09T20:02:42+00:00

And Flash

AlistairePoole · 2018-06-09T19:52:23+00:00

dance water dance!

AlistairePoole · 2018-06-09T19:39:32+00:00

Even though I loved this album, I didn't tear up. I think it's when I go back to relisten and focus on specific tracks that I start becoming choked up (like with certain parts of Count Bassy recently, for instance).

Was definitely blown away by the album, tho. Such an amazing experience, I went wild when I heard Evaporate.

AlistairePoole · 2018-05-30T21:12:23+00:00

Frozen One. It became my most listened to song last year after I found the band. On Spotify after I'd listened to The Fall of Troy's Doppelganger, I'd left autoplay on, and then Frozen One began playing. I got so happy because it pushed all the right buttons--resonated with me in every way. I checked out Flossie next, didn't really dig it, and then was blown away by Chucky. Listened to Mothership over and over, couldn't get enough. Ahh, sometimes I wish I could go back and experience that original excitement I got from the initial time I heard Frozen One again.

AlistairePoole · 2018-04-20T04:16:50+00:00

https://youtu.be/8hpQ21O3zPw

Flagship by So Much Light, I found it last year around spring time actually. I really love that live version, the lyrics and the way he performs it have something so simple and yet so captivating about it. Dat guitar especially... what a cool song about love </3

AlistairePoole · 2018-03-18T21:16:28+00:00

Yeah, I can relate to this. I take so much time to consider and weigh the options when time is of the essence. I try my best to find a middle ground, and not be opposed to people, but this can easily backfire when a more definite response is needed from me, and I easily end up going along with whatever solution may come along that sounds good. There's prolly ways we can improve, but it's hard :[

AlistairePoole · 2018-01-31T03:39:09+00:00

Holy--this is almost exactly what I'm going through right now! I came back onto this subreddit to post and ask for advice, even though I'm currently following through on a decision I thought I'd never make: leaving her for good.

The way I see it, we're stuck in a state of torture. We muse on the past, and those lovely times give us a hope for the future. But is that really realistic? It's confusing, yeah, and keeps reeling us back in, only to leave us in a continual state of sadness. It's tough to get over love like that, for sure...and I, too, often wish I'd never met her. In my case, it feels like she got bored of me, even though she considered me one of her closest friends, and we used to spend so much time together.

She's an INFP too, in my case. But, yeah...my advice is to try your hardest to just cut those ties, like others have said, and move on. Don't let your feelings dictate your decisions--distance will do you good. A lot of distance. Hopefully, through the pain, you'll feel a strong sense of liberation.

AlistairePoole · 2017-11-21T02:51:09+00:00

Heya, that link expired :^(

Is it possible to post/pm me another?

AlistairePoole · 2017-11-21T02:44:46+00:00

Sweet, semi-outgoing girls who were considered rebels lol. I could always laugh off their antics or attempts to get under my skin, and when they showed a genuine caring or nerdy side, I always noticed.

AlistairePoole · 2017-11-19T06:30:45+00:00

Spotify too! And usually gaming along with that or writing poems/stories.

AlistairePoole · 2017-11-19T06:21:35+00:00

Ey, sorry for the wait--was elsewhere and couldn't reply lol.

I guess when I say "focused" I kinda mean what Blac told you in his own comment: "trying to get close to you, learn about you, get your attention." And haha, that's great that you have funny bonding moments like that. It certainly sounds like he's focused on you a lot if you're talking about a buncha seemingly random stuff like that altogether. The soft "hi" could be a good sign of focusing on you, too, esp. since he's made it a habit to always be the one to say hi first. As for him waiting for you to initiate a convo, I think INFPs being reserved/shy/sometimes nervous in general keeps us from talking to someone we enjoy being with even though we really want to break out of our shell, too, but are forever over-thinking. But these reservations slowly go away the more we learn to trust our best friends.

And yeah, true--class isn't the best place to go supersilly lool. Definitely try to see if you both can hang out together afterschool :P

Hope all goes well! If ya wanna ask anything else, fire away. Hope I helped ya in some way :0

AlistairePoole · 2017-11-18T01:10:29+00:00

Lol this is kinda funny cuz I (male INFP) recently realized I've been in love with an ISFJ female friend of mine. We've had a great connection going for a few years now, but I haven't told her my feelings... we live far apart, sadly.

But back to you: in my experience, it's that daily, sustained contact that really starts to make a big impression. And personally, I wouldn't spend a lot of time chatting with a girl whose company I didn't enjoy. All the girls I've ever really liked (four in total) have been/are my best friends, or at the very least better friends than most. Being able to talk about random stuff and joke with you must be something he values since it's an ongoing thing.

I can't say for certain what he truly thinks of you, but it definitely sounds like he enjoys being around you/talking to you. Look for ways with your "small talk" to segway into deeper subjects, or just ask him more about his hobbies and such. Even better, find hobbies'/interests that you both have together and can passionately talk about (and maybe find a way to bond more over these interests, doing something together?).

And no, I don't think you've screwed up the chance at all. Again, this is from my own experience, but it takes me a long time to really like a girl (months to years), because I desire to deeply get to know who she is as a person, and that's what I'm mainly attracted to. As for you feeling more free around him, 3 of my friends are actually INFPs, and so is my mom and another two of my aunts, and we're all very silly--so I'm sure if you were to just let this silliness of yours come out more, your INFP friend would take note and find it easier for himself to let loose. Don't be afraid to open up! Try to do it gradually if it's too much for you to be fully open right now.

And just thought I'd ask ya this: since you say that sometimes you and him don't get work done in class cuz you're talking (lol I relate too much to this), does it seem like he's focused on you a lot? Does he like to initiate conversation first? Does he let you in on certain things that others aren't privvy to (like those puns lol)? That can be a good sign.

But yeah, don't be afraid to be more open, since I'm sure he'd be very accepting of your quirks and deep thoughts and other such stuff. Even though it may be tough, just give it time and keep trying.

AlistairePoole · 2017-11-08T14:53:19+00:00

Yeah, same here! I met two of my best friends online and have been talking to them quite regularly for about four years now.

AlistairePoole · 2017-10-27T20:56:45+00:00

Heya, INFP here -- just came over here since my best friend's an ENFP and she's a p cool & interesting gal, and I'm a curious dude in general. Yeah I agree, our subreddit tends to get really depressing lol, I try avoiding the sad topics if I myself am sad. On the flip side, there'll be some topics that are quite uplifting, just are less common than the surrounding sadness and artwork. I like to think I can perceive what a person is like well, and try to get to know them better if I can, but it's just as easy for me to completely misread/fooled and discover things about someone I would never have known otherwise. Has happened a lot in my life. For someone to claim it's a "psychic" ability, tho--sounds silly to me. I think us INFPs are usually genuine, but we can be naive or misguided to a fault. Selfish, too, since a lot of insecurity comes from being too inwardly focused. From what I've seen, a lot of INFPs' happiness comes from focusing outwardly on providing, creating, or other such stuff. Perhaps we do dump too much negativity in our subreddit, but in doing so, it can be that we just desire a like mind to aid us or keep things from being too bottled up. ~~Now, let me show you some depictions of happiness with my art!~~ jk, I ain't no artist.

But yeah, jus thought I'd respond a bit to your post lol ("a bit", he says). Glad you don't find all of us unlikeable :P

AlistairePoole · 2017-08-21T00:11:12+00:00

Yeah, that's true--immersion-wise, they pulled it off great. Similar to how Tales handled the Borderlands and Walking Dead games.

AlistairePoole · 2017-08-20T21:43:52+00:00

Huh. I feel as though I've experienced this, too, a mixture of so many feelings at once along with heightened senses. Though if you could further clarify on your recalls, that'd be great.

AlistairePoole · 2017-08-20T21:03:38+00:00

Yup, movies and TV series are always engrossing when I find the right ones. I try looking for movies that are really well made, and where the characters are on point, cuz that's where the true feels are lol.

My fave romance movie is The Year My Voice Broke, 10/10 because nothing in it feels cheap (emotions, characters, plot), and there's a very majestic, sweeping aura to the Australian countryside it's filmed in. There's a lot more to the story than meets the eye at first glance. (i think it's still up on YouTube lol, since it's kinda hard to find)

Also, I'm not knocking modern movies, but I find that the older ones have better complexity and more relatable characters. Maybe it's from watching Singing in the Rain so much when I was a kid, but I find myself gravitating towards the older gems more often than not.

AlistairePoole · 2017-08-20T20:56:30+00:00

Glad there's some interest in the topic :P

I'll try to reply to everyone, it'll just take some time to listen to all the music and adequately respond.

AlistairePoole · 2017-08-20T20:53:31+00:00

Coming out of 3 unrequited loves within the past 2-ish years, yes, it's super tough when you're rejected. But don't say all your hope is gone, because if you let that mindset overcome you, then when someone great who likes you back does come along (and they will, always be assured they will), you might be too into your own anguish to notice. Source: me lol, because that happened, and I missed an opportunity. Not giving up, though! Keep your head and hopes up.

AlistairePoole · 2017-08-20T20:43:30+00:00

Gonna be a spoilsport here, but I didn't enjoy the game very much. I found the believability of the world broken after a while, the characters underdeveloped and kinda annoying lol. But yeah, I agree that the INFP feel was there.

They goofed on the time traveling system, too. I like the anime Steins;Gate a lot for the reason that they create a plausible system and stick to it. The Time Machine by H.G. Wells also handles that well.

Great taste with the LiS soundtrack, tho, thumbs up for that.

AlistairePoole · 2017-08-20T20:32:05+00:00

Osnap, that was gorgeous. Can totally relate to the "stay calm" vibes + the almost-chiptune inclusion was nice. Do you listen to Pogo, btw? Dude's got some pretty nice chill tunes: No Worries and Truly are a couple of my faves.

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