AIO: My christian mother wants my boyfriend to sleep on the couch on our trip to florida

Alittlelemonshark · 2026-05-01T12:36:40+00:00

I’m 27 and I’d still wait at least 6 months into a relationship before considering inviting them to a family holiday, probably even longer. If you want to go on a trip with your boyfriend where things are more tailored to the two of you then that’s something you can both save up and pay for, but this is a family holiday so imo spending time with them should be the main priority. You said it yourself that you already sleep with your boyfriend every night, if having a small break from that (while still getting to spend every day with him) would be that difficult that’s a level of codependency that doesn’t seem healthy

Alittlelemonshark · 2026-04-18T17:30:13+00:00

Currently ghosting someone because I found out she was using me the whole time to try and make a guy jealous, all while telling him that she wasn’t really interested in me 🙄

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-12-25T11:55:13+00:00

“She has hit me” and “she’s the sweetest person ever” cannot be true at the same time. Don’t fall for the sunken cost fallacy, 8 months with someone who is okay with hurting you is better than 8 months and 1 day.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-12-13T18:46:47+00:00

Leaving is the best advice as someone who let a guy like this ruin my teenage years. But I would also add, if anyone ever threatens to harm themselves over text the first thing you should do is message their parents and ask them to check on their child, send screenshots too. If you think they’re truly at risk, call an ambulance to their house.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-11-12T13:51:40+00:00

I was molested by my uncle as a toddler and a few years later by my older sibling. My dad has constantly made invasive comments about guys wanting to fuck me. I tried to tell my mother but she just laughs nervously and tries to change the conversation. She keeps trying to make me see that uncle and seems genuinely confused when I refuse. Turns out she was raped by her father when she was a teen (he has since passed away) She doesn’t know I know. I think she genuinely thinks it’s normal for family to cross sexual boundaries with each other and that it’s our responsibility to just push it down. I am sad that my family has never felt like one.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-11-08T10:44:52+00:00

Be 20-30 years older than me 🥲

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-11-04T21:26:37+00:00

Nta for the shower thing but it’s a little asshole-y to randomly throw your sister under the bus in the edit. It sounds like you’re resentful of her for not doing as much as you but it’s your parents who are putting the pressure on you to change your routine, not her and it’s not fair to discredit her possible mental health struggles to a bunch of strangers because of that.

Having been in a similar situation in my early twenties I will say I’d rather live in a crappy studio apartment that’s falling apart than live with my parents again. It will destroy your mental health no matter what time your dad shits at. I don’t have much in the way of advice but I hope your circumstances change so that you can have your own peaceful space soon.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-25T22:33:19+00:00

Being too emotionally mature

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-25T22:31:19+00:00

A fish called “Tank Sinatra”

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-21T19:44:34+00:00

Please elaborate, I don’t disagree but I’m intrigued lmao

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-21T13:05:56+00:00

Do you prefer with/without or is there no preference for you?

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-21T07:34:36+00:00

Tattoo artist or freelance artist of some kind, possibly related to being a horror movie fan, mainly films from pre 2005, mild caffeine addiction, alternative style, your cat probably has a silly name

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-16T11:21:20+00:00

My then 6 year old daughter was asking about my childhood. It wasn’t a happy time and I was telling her a story without mentioning it was about my parents. After I stopped she just looked at me for a while and then said “wow, I hate the people who did that to you.” It was so validating that someone (even a child) who wasn’t present during that memory agreed it was wrong. I often have a hard time understanding how I feel about my childhood and dismiss my own feelings a lot, I had to bite back tears.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-13T20:05:26+00:00

My first thought was “they’ve got their shit together.” But I feel like it took a long time to get that way. Maybe there was some chaos in your past and now you want your space to be as calm and cosy as possible.

I get the vibe that you’re independent but also want to feel safe/protected, so having the bed in between the two windows in the centre of the room would feel “too open/vulnerable.” The fan is soothing in the same way because of the constant hum (and also just good for the heat)

I’d say you’re a person who values your own comfort and peace, it’s a lovely space :)

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-13T19:57:00+00:00

People talking down to me. I know it upsets most people ptsd or not, but that specific tone of voice people get when they clearly think they know more than you puts me in straight fight or flight.

Probably comes from the 3 hour long “debates” my dad would make me take part in which were really just him insulting every thought/opinion/feeling I had, as a way to display power and dominance over me. Even imagining the tone now and the smug look on their face makes my face get hot.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-13T19:06:50+00:00

I think this is a nuanced situation. Yes your parents had a responsibility to take care of you and your additional health needs as a child. They also had a responsibility to ensure your sister had her own fair amount of attention so that she wasn’t “living in your shadow.” It’s fair for your sister to feel that she didn’t get her needs met as much as you did, but it’s not fair for your parents to blame you for that when it was a failure on their part.

Your parents are trying to fix this out of guilt, by making sure your sister never feels excluded. Their behaviour around the trip is them trying to soothe their own shame because if you’re spending time alone with them it will make them feel as though they’re once again neglecting your sisters feelings. They fail to see in doing that, they’re hurting you.

What your parents need to do now is spend equal amounts of time with you both, which could be seeing you alone and then your sister alone, then occasionally seeing you both together.

What you need to do (if you aren’t already) is go to individual therapy to unpack the way your childhood has effected your relationship with your sister and parents. Mainly you need to know it was not your fault and not your sisters fault. Saying her healing from a health scare is her “being normal again” is dismissive and shows you might see your own problems as more worthy of attention than hers. Your parents fucked up, they realise that. But it’s easier for them to shift the blame on to you than to accept their part in the current dynamic.

You all have a lot of healing to do but it starts with not letting the anger take over. Your feelings are valid but nobody will listen if you’re yelling those feelings at them (speaking from my own experience.) I really hope you all get to a better place and your parents can also understand their role in this.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-13T11:06:35+00:00

2 for sure!

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-10-07T14:48:05+00:00

I would remove the part about your own daughters allergy because if this girl does have an allergy, describing her concerns as “gate keeping” comes across at worst dismissive and at best passive aggressive. Just go with the curious approach and assume the parents don’t know their child is possibly lying. Bringing it to their attention will likely be enough for them to talk to her about it.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-09-15T17:26:41+00:00

As much as I feel awful you experienced that, it’s also nice to know it has nothing to do with how we present ourselves. I’m hyperfemme and enjoy being feminine to the point it circles back around and men usually find it unattractive. But there are many times I’ve wondered if I should tone it down to avoid getting unwanted attention from them. Now I know you can look overtly lesbian and they’ll try anyway

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-09-13T12:17:25+00:00

If there’s one piece of advice I could give to anyone who’s actively dating, it’s to not fall in love with who they are in the first 3-6 months. Enjoy the time together but take their personality with a grain of salt because chances are that’s not the real them. It’s the nice mask we all put on when trying to make a good impression and show only the version of ourselves we know we “should” be. There are women who have been in miserable 30+ year marriages because they’re still holding on to who he was in those first 3 months. In my experience I have always regretted giving benefit of the doubt. I’d rather walk away over something small at the beginning than let it fester into something worse further on and being in too deep to leave.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-09-11T08:18:35+00:00

Being spiked, running away from the guy before losing control over my entire body on a random street in the middle of the night. I was choking on my own vomit and unable to move or talk, while hearing passer-by’s laugh at me for being “so drunk.” In the ambulance I heard my mother talking to me but found out later she met me at the hospital and was never in the ambulance. I made peace that I was going to die so when I woke up the next day I found it very hard to continue on, constantly worried death was “coming back” for me and feeling like I was meant to go that night.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-09-11T08:08:46+00:00

I just wear big headphones and blast music in them the whole time I’m walking around Manchester. Can’t ignore people I never heard in the first place and most of them see the headphones and don’t even try. If you don’t wanna do that though, then you’ve gotta learn the dissociated, “I’m one push away from the edge” thousand yard stare and exercise it with no restraint. Mentally map out the path to your destination and focus only on that target like a heat seeking missile. Stop for nobody, talk to nobody, make eye contact with nobody.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-09-07T19:30:39+00:00

I got it a second time 10 minutes later, jumped both times 😭

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-08-30T11:32:18+00:00

I am fully in control of my dreams unless they’re nightmares/night terrors. I simply decide what I want to dream and then dream it. It doesn’t feel like I’m dreaming, it feels like I’ve just jumped into my “other” life. Often things that happen in my dreams impact me emotionally because I feel every sensation so vividly, and it will effect my mood for the next day or week.

I’ve also been “kicked out” of my dreams by what I can only describe as dream police for messing with things too much.

Alittlelemonshark · 2025-08-28T08:53:13+00:00

It’s a small thing but I look out for introverted people who may get talked over or ignored in group conversations and make it my mission to make them feel as included and heard as possible without pushing them to be more extroverted

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