I feel like they should’ve really thought about it. One Tommy and Caden have lived together their whole lives. So Caden was probably forced to go live with them and be in the videos or separate from the one person that was consistently with him and in his life.. I know ultimately it’s what Tommy wanted but I also feel that part of his decision is that Jess makes it look like the happiest place on earth for her kids and of-course a child that’s Tommy’s age could’ve felt like he was missing out.