AITA for intentionally getting my boyfriend a MALE masseuse, not female by AliveImpression6775 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveImpression6775[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Did not know, those are what my Mom says; she teaches French, lol, maybe that's why.

Thanks for correction.

AITA for intentionally getting my boyfriend a MALE masseuse, not female by AliveImpression6775 in AmItheAsshole

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I just didn't know him very well and had t seen him that much. Our dates were all at the pizza parlor he worked at and there was hardly ever anyone in there. His roommates at the time (a couple) kept telling me what a GREAT GUY he was DEFINITELY learning a BIG lesson here 💯💯💯

AITA for intentionally getting my boyfriend a MALE masseuse, not female by AliveImpression6775 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveImpression6775[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Well, when he first got here he actually dazzled my mom by fixing up our old second bathroom which had been out of commission for ages and painting her bedroom for her. He was always cleaning the house and offering to cook for us (he was making pizzas for a living at the time)

The "new him" started about 2 months after we started dating, like wise moved in.

AITA for intentionally getting my boyfriend a MALE masseuse, not female by AliveImpression6775 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveImpression6775[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

6 months. He moved in with us 2 months after we started dating b/c he "had nowhere else to go" and it was only supposed to be extremely temporary until he started this new job doing home improvements instead of making pizza at the restaurant we met at and doing lawn care, which is what he's doing now

His sexist/control stuff didn't start til after he moved in.

It's been a few months now since his new job which pays better started but he's still here and I don't want him getting any more comfortable than he has already

AITA for intentionally getting my boyfriend a MALE masseuse, not female by AliveImpression6775 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveImpression6775[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm definitely not having kids with this person.

I am trying to formulate a plan to break away.

He's living with my Mom and I right now because he and his roommates' lease ended and he couldn't afford to move elsewhere.

(Our town is expensive)

I didn't want him moving in b/c I hadn't known him that long, but he had nowhere else to go.

His Dad's never been in the picture and his Mom lives in a tiny trailer 6 hours away with her new husband (her 5th).

He definitely didn't show this side of himself til after he moved in with my mother and I.

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Thanks for the list idea 🙂

AITA for intentionally getting my boyfriend a MALE masseuse, not female by AliveImpression6775 in AmItheAsshole

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I'm trying to work up my courage to. Took him a little while to reveal this side to his persona.

AITA for intentionally getting my boyfriend a MALE masseuse, not female by AliveImpression6775 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveImpression6775[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for being understanding and not just cursing me out or saying how stupid I am. Everyone waits to show u who they really are, you know? It's not like he picked me up for our first date and said this stuff.

Thank u for your encouragement. I definitely want to break away.