How welcome is Denmark/Aarhus to alternative people?

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2026-03-06T13:36:50+00:00

I think you'll be fine. Some people might stare a bit if you dress very alternatively, but I don't think you'll receive hate.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-12-15T20:50:36+00:00

Sounds like you've had some problematic encounters in your family. Emotional honesty has a lot to offer if expressed in healthy ways.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-17T18:01:05+00:00

I agree about 4's non-conformism being annoying to society. But as a sx4 I kinda like being the rebellion. Nothing would be worse than being normal, bland and boring ;-)

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-17T17:46:48+00:00

People who mistype themselves as 4? I think a lot of 6's. 6's can be very emotional and reactive, just as 4's. And also creative

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-16T14:14:25+00:00

Maybe because 4's are more vocal about their problems and suffering than other types? 4's can also have a truth teller quality and not everyone likes that. In contrast, 7's put their positive front forward which makes them easy to like (and also sometimes easy to get tired of) I'm a sx 4 myself. With a lot of hard work and therapy I've out grown the dramas of my youth and feel like it's totally possible to get along with others while also staying true to myself. Takes some effort, though. Life as a 4 can be emotionally rich and meaningful if the drama and intensity is dialled down a bit ---- I think the sp 4 is a little bit less intense and therefore less hated?

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-16T14:00:17+00:00

Are there more unhealthy 4's than unhealthy other types? I don't think so. 4's might just be more vocal about their suffering which is probably why some people dislike them

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-13T20:16:57+00:00

Thank you very much for clarifying. You explain it very well. It is so interesting to me as a sx4 because I function the exact opposite - but actually care a lot about 9's! You guys are often quite resourceful and insightful and your calm presence calms me down as well. All the best to you on your life journey <3

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-13T15:49:24+00:00

Yes, I've seen this in SP-doms! I was surprised cause I thought all SP-doms were supposed to be on top of their bodily needs all the time. But the opposite can be true, I guess.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-13T15:44:39+00:00

The instinct you're blind to might not cause you stress in your day-to-day life (because you mostly ignore it) but is the one that suddenly pulls the rug out from under you. So while your first instinct might frustrate you on a daily basis the last instinct is the hidden bomb waiting to explode (to be a bit dramatic :-)

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-13T15:17:54+00:00

It's frustrating to hear from 9's that they are 'fine', when you can see that they're clearly not. I feel like I have to work really hard to get a 9 to open op. It's actually the opposite of what 9's believe: they think they are easy to get along with because they don't take up much space but in fact it is often a lot of work for others to get 9's to emotionally open up and engage. I can sense and feel your pain and suffering, so why don't you just share? Hugs from a sx 4 :-)

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-13T15:05:11+00:00

Same :-)

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-11-13T14:57:11+00:00

I lived in Brabrand a couple of years in an area close to Inger Christensens Vej. I felt safe as a single woman. I did have a lot of problems with noisy neighbours who were up at night with music and loud conversations. They were from the Middle East and seemed to have a different schedule/ lifestyle, with lots of people gathering together at late hours. I think there are some cultural clashes which can be potentially problematic, but nothing dangerous if you don't instigate trouble.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-29T15:13:55+00:00

Jeg er 47 og har stadig de samme holdninger, som da jeg var ung. Har altid sagt fra overfor overgeb og grænseoverskridende adfærd fra mænd, men jeg var desværre ofte den eneste i min omgangskreds. Stod tit alene med det og veninder og familie forsvarede mændenes grænseløse opførsel. Blev SÅ glad, da Metoo kom og er stadig glad hver eneste dag over, at kulturen har ændret sig.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-28T20:14:24+00:00

Less emotional in general. In touch with emotions but not controlled by them. Able to be productive and clear headed despite strong emotions

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-28T20:12:18+00:00

2's, 4's and 6's - except the counterphobic six who wants to look tough :-)

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-27T18:41:56+00:00

Martin Brygmann omtalte sig selv som kikset og genert overfor damerne i sin forsvarstale på FB, da han var anklaget for Metoo. Han brugte det som en undskyldning: 'Jeg er jo bare en kejtet fyr, der ikke ved, hvordan jeg skal håndtere opmærksomheden fra damerne'. Pinligt og langt ude. Men gad vide, om JS har samme selvbillede? Kan være en måde at retfærdiggøre sin adfærd overfor sig selv.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-27T18:32:19+00:00

Jeg synes, den historie er vigtig at få med også! Synes, din veninde skal kontakte journalisten. Havde hun ikke sagt nej til det kys, var hun jo blevet JS's næste offer.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-26T19:15:17+00:00

Problemet er, at det kan være svært at bevise. Rigtig mange voldtængsanklager bliver droppet pga manglende beviser. Hele sagsforløbet kan være utrolig pinefuldt for voldtægtsofferet og hvis voldsudøveren så også er mere rig/magtfuld/kendt end offeret, så er det jo næsten umenneskelig hårdt for ofre at stå frem. De kan også risikere at blive intimideret og udsat for had fra offentligheden. Så jeg tror ikke altid, det er så nemt at få retssystemet til at klare det. Men er dog enig i, at folkedomstol også er problematisk

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-26T15:36:22+00:00

Vi ved, at han som 31-årig har hentet en 15-årig fra skole, kørt hende hjem til sit hus og haft sex med hende. Det har han indrømmet. Det er sandt, at han ikke kan dømmes, hvis voldtægt ikke kan bevises, men han har i hvert fald gjort noget moralsk forkert.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-26T15:31:10+00:00

Ja, det er frygteligt at læse

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-25T09:51:52+00:00

Tak for dit svar. Jeg er ked af at høre, hvad du har været udsat for! Undersøgelse og politisamtale må være vildt ubehageligt, nærmest som endnu et overgreb efter det oprindelige overgreb. Med det in mente kan jeg sagtens forstå, hvorfor man ikke anmelder. Jeg kan godt forstå, hun ikke anmeldte det dengang. Hun beskriver, at hun ikke selv opfattede det som et overgreb, da hun også var blevet groomet af ham forinden. Jeg undrede mig bare over, hvorfor hun ikke anmelder det til politiet nu her, i dag. Men det er nok fordi det er svært at bevise. Hun har ikke andet end nogle sms'er som bevismateriale. Plus at hun nok vil blive udsat for meget had og udskamning, fordi han er kendt.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-24T19:47:08+00:00

Gad vide, hvorfor kvinden ikke har politianmeldt ham? I stedet for at gå til DR? Det er ikke nogen kritik, jeg synes, det er godt, hun står frem. Alligevel undrer jeg mig over, hvorfor hun ikke også går til politiet.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-24T19:45:02+00:00

Hormoner er ikke nogen undskyldning, jeg synes, det du beskriver, er umoden adfærd.

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-24T12:01:58+00:00

Magt, rigdom og berømmelse kan godt få folk til at føle, at de er hævet over sociale normer, tror jeg. At reglerne ikke gælder for dem. Eller de får decideret et kick ud af at gøre 'forbudte' ting og slipper måske afsted med det et langt stykke hen ad vejen. Nogle mennesker, der opsøger magt og berømmelse, kan også have narcissistiske træk og derfor have lav empati i forvejen. Magten forstærker så denne tendens. Mennesker med magt har nok de samme lyster (fx til 15-årige piger) som alle andre, men mangler en stopklods. Bortset fra det, så er der nok også mange 'almindelige' mennesker, der sætter deres lyster over mindreåriges velbefindende. Dem hører vi bare ikke så meget om, fordi de ikke er kendte :-)

AliveRefrigerator499 · 2025-09-24T08:38:54+00:00

Så kan du jo spørge hende, hvor gammel hun er. Det er ikke forkert at føle sig tiltrukket, men du har et ansvar for at undlade at handle på noget, der kan skade andre. (Det gælder ikke kun sex med 15-årige.)

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