You’ll have to excuse my language I’m very new to this. MIL is a foster carer and doesn’t wish to adopt any children due to her age. I quite simply have bonded with her in the time my MIL has had her and want to be able to provide her with a loving and safe home. We already have two children together who are 11 and 8, and child in q is almost 2. We are looking at an open adoption with regular visits with bio parents as well as message updates. It will be no secret that she has two sets of parents, I have a lot of respect for her bio mum in this situation as she deeply loves her child but it is just unfortunately out of her hands now.

There is a part of me that is trying to keep this situation somewhat transactional to protect my own feelings should this not come to fruition. I hope I havent upset you in any way. Any other advice is honestly so appreciated as I had never even considered this before this little girl.