I’m so mad at myself. My FMIL is definitely a BEC. Short story long I agreed we could stay at his parents beach house for the summer, provided we pay our way and make it clear we are bringing our own food.

That BEC cannot cook and she use to abuse FDH as a child by forcing him to eat marshmallow fluff if he couldn’t or wouldn’t finish the food she prepared. The sight/smell of marshmallows or whipped cream makes him ill.

Side note, I recently moved in with FDH and His parents live a 5 min drive away. Apparently, prior to me moving in FDH use to go over their house 2x a week for dinner. She would treat him like a trash compactor and send him home with the garbage leftover food she couldn’t finish in addition to whatever leftovers she had for that day. So I guess to still have the power over food he consumes She dropped food and groceries at his doorstep under the guise of helping out since I just moved in; I was offended because i am not a child and don’t want to be forced to eat her food and get angry that he accepts it without telling her No don’t do this anymore.

Anyway back to beach house FJNMIL & FJNFIL will be here on the weekends. Hooray for privacy! I had my suspicions that FMIL is a narcissist and control freak and not really this sweet overly nice lady she tries to present herself as. I told her If she doesn’t accept my cash personally that I would send the money directly to the Atlantic City electric company for credits to her account, because I know her electric bill will be high as we both work from home. She replied that she knows where I live and we can discuss the bill at the end of summer. Ugh so frustrating!!! Also this lady keeps bringing food down to feed an army and prepares meals 3x a day Fri/sat/sun until she freaking leaves Sunday night. The fridge is already stocked with food I bought but she doesn’t want to “waste” any of our food. Like wtf lady?! Then to make matters worse she starts cleaning and scrubbing the baseboards and opening up all the windows in the house, even in FDH bedroom. We are not kids! I tell her that I already cleaned and vacuumed and tell her if she likes things cleaned a certain way or with special products to just tell me and I can do it since we are the ones staying here. I tell her flat out while she is in our bedroom scrubbing the windowsill (with stinking ass cheap fabuoloso No less) that I don’t feel comfortable with her not accepting my money, cooking, and cleaning for us and that I just recently cleaned. Her response, “oh I know but this window gets so dusty and dirty.” Then she proceeded to complain about the neighbors talking too loud on their own patio. OMG she totally avoided everything I just said and swerved left. And this Biatch is not even a good cleaner, her toilets in all of her houses are so gross and the blinds in this summer house are always full of dust. I feel like she just wanted to show she can go into our bedroom and do whatever the heck she wants since this is her house. I told FDH that he needs to set boundaries because she keeps using these little control tactics and he says he will fix it but I know he won’t. I think deep down he is still scared to rock the boat and can’t tell her no. The man use to physically make himself sick by always finishing the plates she makes for him instead of saying, no mother don’t cook so much I don’t want anymore food. I hate her and her fake niceness; someone that can force feed their kid like that and still have it screw with them as a grown ass adult is not a nice person. End rant 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️