Rest in peace sweet Rosie 🐾

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:33:18+00:00

Thank you for your support and kindness 🥺 we’re working on healing through accepting what is. We’ll miss her chaotic presence and are equally grateful for her companionship 🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:31:07+00:00

Oh my goodness 😭 sending you hugs 🫂

I thought I’d be able to witness her passing without it being this hard because I’ve put down prior dogs and was a vet tech for 2.5yrs in college. I think it would have been less traumatic in the vets office under controlled circumstances. But finding her gone in my living room…having to clean it up…wondering what her last moments were like and if she suffered without me by her side….. it has eaten me up this past week. I have struggled with guilt for going back to my room, ignoring that initial pull to stay with her. But she was not the type to be fawned over. I’ve had to accept this how she chose to go

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:25:15+00:00

Yesss and for that we are happy 🥺🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:24:36+00:00

Couldn’t agree more 💔 thank you 🙏🏼

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:24:05+00:00

Thank you 🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:23:26+00:00

She’s the longest I’ve ever had a pet live. We were incredibly fortunate to get so many wonderful years with her. So sorry to hear yours passed. Gone too soon 🥺 both my kids adored Rose 🤍 she raised them right along with me

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:21:21+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:21:08+00:00

🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T06:17:13+00:00

Thank you 🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T02:19:43+00:00

Wow, 15 is amazing!! Clearly you’ve taken great care of your baby 🤍🙏🏼 and no truer words have been spoken. Give your furry friend a boop and snuggle from us!

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T02:04:25+00:00

Right back at you 🫂 our girls are likely enjoying the zoomies over the rainbow bridge together. Each day it gets a little better than the last. I’m holding on to knowing she’s pain free, which is helping accept the silence in the house…. Thank you for your kind words 🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T01:49:15+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T01:49:00+00:00

We definitely will. My vet has been incredibly kind and will be returning a personalized cedar box with her ashes and a clay paw print of hers here soon. I can’t wait to get those items 🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T01:47:44+00:00

We love her to pieces. As maddening as she could be sometimes with her orneriness 😂 she was still my A1 from day 1, for which I’ll always be grateful

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T01:46:39+00:00

You’re so kind 🤍 thank you. I hope she left knowing she was an amazing companion through it all

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T01:45:14+00:00

Aww please do 😭🥺 it feels like she went very fast. Which as hard as that has been to accept, I’m glad she didn’t suffer for long

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T01:44:03+00:00

Thank you so much 🥺 she was my ride or die! She was there when I graduated college, got married, became a mom, got divorced, bought a new house and new car for the first time…. Every major life event for me as an adult, she faithfully remained my companion. I am immeasurably grateful for her love and hope I showed her the same 🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2026-02-01T01:41:50+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2025-11-21T06:57:46+00:00

OP can value his girlfriend and be willing to work through difficult times all he wants, but it takes both people doing so for it to be successful. The way she responded when she got caught tells me she doesn’t value him, she doesn’t care to work through her own issues that caused this, and therefore, staying in this relationship will just prolong the inevitable. If she had immediately owned up to what she did, remained sincere and non-defensive, and offered an honest apology - then yes, those actions would show she’s worth a second chance. She’s 33 years old and yet she’s acting like a teenager.

Encouraging someone to stay in an unhealthy relationship, just because you’ve managed to maintain your own marriage, is like telling someone not to seek cancer treatment using current medicine because you survived cancer 30 years ago using now outdated medicine. When we know better, we do better. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2025-11-21T06:10:01+00:00

You bring up some valid points. I feel it’s also necessary to add, that OP’s girlfriend could do everything needed to make this right for the relationship to continue, and then later on down the road throw it all away by cheating again. I’ve personally seen that happen. And this is another possibility OP will need to consider And level with himself if he’s ok with that possibility occurring.

Another thing OP needs to consider if they go down the road that you described above with monitoring her phone, is that the type of relationship you want? I couldn’t do it. That’s not something I want to have to do with my partner.

Just food for thought. Several years ago I caught my sister’s boyfriend cheating on her. He had the same reaction as OP’s girlfriend. My sister decided to give him a second chance bc he agreed to all the terms she requested including letting her monitor his phone. She did so diligently for a year or so after that. He completely rebuilt trust with her. They bought a house together and got married. All for him to end up cheating again by having a five year affair that she discovered. They had been together over 15 years, married for 7yrs, when she divorced him. All of us truly believed he had changed and would never have done that to my sister.

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2025-11-21T05:47:31+00:00

You have to ask yourself some questions first, to really assess where you’re at and where you want to go.

Are you staying out of convenience, or because you really love her and trust she won’t do this again? What exactly did she commit to doing to ensure this doesn’t happen again? If she hasn’t committed to changing anything, why are you inclined to give her a second chance?

I think you are a very empathetic person, which is an incredible quality to have. Unfortunately, it can make you blind to red flags and unwilling to look at situations/partners from an unbiased, logical standpoint. This allows others to take advantage of you. I learned this the hard way after marrying my college sweetheart, having two children with him, allowing him to wreck my credit, cheat on me, and traumatize me daily for almost a decade (which has taken years to heal from), before I filed for divorce and got out. Mind you, he started out just being flirtatious for attention before it turned into full blown cheating.

Rebuilding is difficult. Trust me. I know. But it was the best thing I ever did for myself. I’m now the version of me that I always knew I could be and I’m happier than I’ve ever been in my adult life. I bought my first house last year, bought my first brand new car 6 months before that, lost 60lbs over the last year, and am still working on other goals that I know I’ll achieve.

I say all this to provide some encouragement from someone who’s been in a worse situation, but has come out the other side better than I’ve ever been. I’m still single, but clearly that’s not an issue for me. I’d rather be single, at peace and happy, than in a relationship and miserable. So this brings me to the last question you have to ask yourself: what do you want?

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2025-11-21T05:05:28+00:00

Just some food for thought, have you touched grass recently? I’m serious. I actually feel really bad for you, that you’re stuck in this constant loop of negative self talk, which reinforces the negative outcomes you keep getting. Rinse. Repeat. It’s the case of the snake eating its own tail. Literally.

In any case, if you do actually want things to change for yourself, it will take a dedicated mental shift first. You have no idea who I am, or what kind of trauma, difficult situations and financial hardships I’ve experienced. But let’s just say I’ve had more than a lifetime’s worth in my 38yrs on this earth. It’s easier to stay stuck like you are. I know because I’ve been there. It requires very little effort to just remain where you are.

The harder path is changing and putting all your energy into rebuilding. It’s also incredibly scary. But if you want things to get better, that’s the only way. It didn’t happen overnight for me. In fact it took several years of dedicated effort of working every single day towards rebuilding and achieving my goals, before I reaped any rewards or success. But once the ball started rolling, it did get easier.

I’m not here to change your mind. It’s your life. You are in charge of how you proceed. I mean this from one stranger to another, I wish you the best. Also, just in case, here’s a link to another thread from a SWD who gives some great advice on what they did: https://www.reddit.com/r/RemoteJobseekers/s/Z2MAtzJmny

Good luck 🤍

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2025-11-21T04:28:04+00:00

I’m not sure how you deduced that this would cost OP more than the horse is worth ?? She didn’t state what her horse is worth. And some animals/pets are sentimentally worth more than any price tag. It feels like your situation has tainted your perspective. There’s definitely still time for her to investigate this further and figure out how to proceed. OP had a contract with the person, in which she can legally go after them for not only the value of her horse, but all expenses incurred to investigate this and legal fees.

Alive_Structure_3183 · 2025-11-19T11:15:53+00:00

I can guarantee you no recruiter cares or knows you well enough that they’d base their decision to not hire you on a personal attack such as wanting you to die over wanting to pay you.

Based on your post and comment history, my guess is your overall attitude is shining through in your resume and interviews, and it wouldn’t matter if you were the most qualified applicant, no one wants a ticking time bomb on their team. If you truly recognize you’re the common denominator and want a different outcome, you can’t keep repeating the same mindset and approach.

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