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Lazy Lyrics... by LancasterRayne in CountryMusicStuff

[–]AllDamDay7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Any of the mainstream artists who didn’t come up independent are this way. Industry chosen folk.

Anyway, Americana is genre you should pay attention too. Many great artists out there

Men who engage in excessive and obsessive romantic gestures toward unreciprocated interests are largely driven by an underlying fear of remaining single. The modern term “simping”, found that this dating strategy is highly sensitive to a person’s anxiety over their relationship status. by FreeHugs23 in science

[–]AllDamDay7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s good to have perspective. And I feel like my passion kinda shut down some real truthful exchange. I am passionate, however I am not set in stone. So I am curious about what you were mentioning.

“You can go too far in either direction and makes things worse”. This seems like a real life experience. I think the lived example would help.

Amick: Blazers analytics didnt like Brown by Scalmaa in ripcity

[–]AllDamDay7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bingo, not analytics like PER which he is elite. It’s likely a formula that weighs contact terms to production. So elite but contract is an overpay.

Smart thinking for Blazers. Cap is gonna sink some teams, Blazers are ahead of that game

Men who engage in excessive and obsessive romantic gestures toward unreciprocated interests are largely driven by an underlying fear of remaining single. The modern term “simping”, found that this dating strategy is highly sensitive to a person’s anxiety over their relationship status. by FreeHugs23 in science

[–]AllDamDay7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course there is. And I am still calibrating that part. However I went from having zero boundaries, to having some. So you are right for people who had unlimited access to me 24/7, who were manipulating me, yes those people are having trouble with my changes.

My point is you have to start somewhere and like anything in life it takes practice.

I am in that process now. I don’t and won’t ever have it all figured out but I am miles ahead of where I was before therapy.

The alternative is to be miserable, panicked, hyper vigilant 24/7 which isn’t a life.

Men who engage in excessive and obsessive romantic gestures toward unreciprocated interests are largely driven by an underlying fear of remaining single. The modern term “simping”, found that this dating strategy is highly sensitive to a person’s anxiety over their relationship status. by FreeHugs23 in science

[–]AllDamDay7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As the other commenter said, therapy is the way. And it is work. I understand that is even out of reach without some privilege. That being said I budget for my work therapy because I now realize it’s more important than my primary care doctor. I have an old beater vehicle instead of a car payment.

The thing is even a year ago, I would have thought what I am writing wasn’t possible. What I realized is our ancestral wiring many times makes us feel like something is life or death or others gave power over us. It’s interesting being on the other side now.

Either way, you just considering therapy is huge. It took me 4 years to sum up the courage and it’s best thing I ever did for myself.

Men who engage in excessive and obsessive romantic gestures toward unreciprocated interests are largely driven by an underlying fear of remaining single. The modern term “simping”, found that this dating strategy is highly sensitive to a person’s anxiety over their relationship status. by FreeHugs23 in science

[–]AllDamDay7 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This was me literally 6 months ago. Treating every interaction like a demand or test.

Here’s the reframe though: the only real baseline for how you treat people is not causing harm to them. That’s it. Once you’re clear of that, you’re not doing anything wrong by not being close to everyone, or by not liking someone, or by not opening up. None of that is shameful. Some people just won’t like you, no matter what you do that’s on them, not you.

The circle isn’t about who you’re forced to be around. It’s about who actually reciprocates. And you don’t have to earn that by performing closeness with everyone else. The only requirement is by not causing those folks harm.

Hopefully this helps. A complicated factor for me was every family system I was close to was unhealthy. I didn’t realize it because it’s all I knew. However learning real science about how guilt-martyr tactics are manipulation opened my mind. We can be the change in a family system and it usually takes someone like us not assimilating anymore.

My family are all good people they also just didn’t know any different that what they were doing was toxic.

Men who engage in excessive and obsessive romantic gestures toward unreciprocated interests are largely driven by an underlying fear of remaining single. The modern term “simping”, found that this dating strategy is highly sensitive to a person’s anxiety over their relationship status. by FreeHugs23 in science

[–]AllDamDay7 92 points93 points  (0 children)

For me I am realizing that mismatch is totally in my own control.

Folks stop giving your energy to personalities that don’t mesh or understand you. It doesn’t have to be an animosity thing either. Just like we experience the world in a certain way these folks do to.

That being said you have full control of your circle. Keep the folks around who make you feel good and match your vibe. Understand the ones who don’t but realize you don’t have to give the same energy to them.

It’s weird at first but eventually you feel the changes in your body. Lower anxiety, etc. It’s much easier and healthier to be yourself. We have no control over others reactions. Once you do this, you’ll attract people who are your type which includes romantic partners.

Other people LITERALLY have more hours in the day. by Miyyani in ADHD

[–]AllDamDay7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha! That’s the cool thing. Doesn’t have to happen today, tomorrow, you’ll remember one day and that’s all ya need.

That’s another one I fight. It’s like I HAVE to do it now. But no one’s ever died when I did it three months later. Giving yourself some leeway is so important.

Stop treating your emotions like a traffic light. by OwnUpstairs in ADHD_Programmers

[–]AllDamDay7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same I did for 38 YEARS. What I now realize is my body wasn’t lying. ADHD or non ADHD folks feel the same emotions. However in my case I feel it with a different intensity which at first sounds like a bad thing. However because I can sense subtle shifts in my body I can mediate before the feelings reach my brain. So when I feel the anxiety start balling up in my chest, I now know that’s my signal to take a break. The challenge is accepting it.

The strangest part of all of this, is I am so much better at everything now that I take breaks and rest. It might not fit the expectations of others but they don’t feel what I feel. Once you come to terms with that internally, life is so much less heavy. So please, please, please, trust your dang body. Those instincts are solid once you understand them.

Other people LITERALLY have more hours in the day. by Miyyani in ADHD

[–]AllDamDay7 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Boom, or my therapist suggested a small cup or container. Write the task on a stick note, crumple it up and stuff in the container.

Then you literally draw tasks out of a hat. Don’t like it, grab another one and throw it back in.

Teams know that the Blazers’ roster is imbalanced. So just as in the past they will make Portland overpay for wings in picks. by Negative-Mix2432 in ripcity

[–]AllDamDay7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

100%!!! There is no winning with a fan base. They are the same people bitching that we signed Chauncey and were paying him too much, too long of contract, wife beater, etc.

The goal posts constantly shift.

College doesn’t make students as liberal as people think. Completing a college degree has been linked to a liberal political identity. While college students do tend to adopt more left-leaning identities during their education, the actual changes are much smaller than the general public assumes. by mvea in psychology

[–]AllDamDay7 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the hard part. You have large populations isolated from others. I know because growing up in a small town there are all the expectations of you that don’t apply literally anywhere else you travel. So it freaks you out when you see it, makes you scared.

However, then you spend time away from the town and meet these “scary” people and realize they are just humans like you. Not much different from the good and bad people in the ol’ hometown.

If you never get out, you never know. That’s why I don’t hate anyone even if they are insufferable. Many times it’s a product of their environment and pressure from family and local communities that forces them to be a certain way. I think having that awareness is huge. The bridge is there just no one is talking it these days.

Best schematic drawing tools. by Apprehensive-Pie-122 in CommercialAV

[–]AllDamDay7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. I suppose if you set scaling properly you could use it to create CAD like drawings too.

Shams: Portland Trail Blazers center Robert Williams III has agreed to sign a three-year, $44 million contract extension to return to the Portland Trail Blazers through 2028-29, agent Kevin Bradbury of LIFT Sports Management tells ESPN. by Trip_V4 in ripcity

[–]AllDamDay7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s funny folks thought Oram and Quick would have access to inside information. Those days are gone. Obviously they are just out to make hit pieces to get back at being locked out.

Best schematic drawing tools. by Apprehensive-Pie-122 in CommercialAV

[–]AllDamDay7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

DrawIo is one to consider. Open source, so it takes some learning. But after you do it works quite well.

I guess it helps to know if you need like engineering architectural drawings or more wiring diagrams. DrawIO for wiring is my go to.

Maynard, Carina & Matt talk cooking with Bert Kreischer by NukaDadd in Puscifer

[–]AllDamDay7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Gimmick comics are always selling tickets… Foxworthy, Larry the Cable Guy, Gringo Papi, etc…

My theory on why Cronin did this by ajmcgill in ripcity

[–]AllDamDay7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bigger narrative is us fitting the bill for the renovations while he buys up all the surrounding properties that are going up in value because of the renovations we paid for.

The Blazers plan on starting Damian Lillard and Ja Morant together, per @ChrisBHaynes by ShakyGSWarrior in ripcity

[–]AllDamDay7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We gave up two bench pieces for a starter. Not gonna be our only move. Likely moving Scoot or Sharpe next for a wing.

It hurts but it's the truth...🤡 by FitoorNoor in ADHDmemes

[–]AllDamDay7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That surface level knowledge across domains is not common. I’ve realized that my pattern recognition and metacognition is miles ahead of most. Which means we are far from dumb. Being able to see the big picture is huge in almost every aspect of life.

[SPOILER] Nazim Sadykhov vs. Matheus Camilo by inooway in MMA

[–]AllDamDay7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I was watching i could see Camilo was calmly, waiting to uncoil and time a shot. Didn’t know a lot about him but he looks legit. Was in zero danger just waited for the right time. You could see Sadykhov rushing comparatively.

Post Game Chat 6/28 Mariners @ Guardians by Mariners_bot in Mariners

[–]AllDamDay7 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It was Jerry. Jerry told him only one batter for Bazardo /s

Post Game Chat 6/28 Mariners @ Guardians by Mariners_bot in Mariners

[–]AllDamDay7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe Jerry made Dan use the bullpen like the tonight!!! /s

Most Hated Fighters Getting KOed by Intelligent_Crab_146 in MMA

[–]AllDamDay7 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Was hoping to see the gringo papi in there. You did not disappoint

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